need help with bingeing

i am thinking of telling my mom about my binge eating problem. Its been going on since the beginning of April and its getting out of control. The binges get larger each time. I thought I had finally gotten over it, I had not binged for a week, but then the weekend came and i binged, then i binged the day after because i was bloated and felt like crap, then i binged today because my stomach still hurt. I need to stop but i need help!! How should I let my mom know? She knows I lost a lot of weight, then encouraged me to gain some back, and so I did, but in this unhealthy fashion. She does not know that i have an obsession with food and have been struggling so much. What should i do?

I think getting support from your mom would be very helpful. Professional help is also an option--I have heard that it is very helpful. A therapist or a dietician would be the areas to look for help in.

As far as how to stop the habit of binging, you need to restructure your daily diet and adapt to regular eating times. Pre-plan your entire day's menu in the morning or the night before. Plan a large breakfast (at least 400-500 calories) that is rich in protein. Then plan the rest of your meals and snacks, making sure that you get a lean protein with each meal and enough fats and nutrients throughout the day. I also suggest instead of eating 3 large meals a day that you eat 5-6 smaller meals throughout the day. This will allow you to eat more frequently and get used to smaller portions.

If you have any more questions or just want to talk, feel free to message me. Good luck!

thanx for your advice. i appreciate it :D

Suggestions on who to tell when you need help:

Your parents.  I know this can be a scary one, we all have a load of feelings tied to our parents, but most of them truly want the best for their children.

A school counselor.  This is part of what their job is all about, trying to help students.  They have an enormous amount of information and resources to help you get more help.

A clergymember.  Letting them help you is part of the reason why they signed up.  At the least you get another ear to help talk to you.

An adult friend. Someone whom you can trust and who will be likely to help you do some research on where to go and even make sure you don't chicken out.

good for you for wanting to tell your mom. 

i told my mom and it has helped me so much. i tell her when i feel one coming on, and she takes me out for a cup of coffee or a walk or something. and when she sees that i' struggling, she addresses the situation with me and asks "is it worth it?" because she knows how guilty i get (like, wretched-crying-guilty).

i really recommend it. my mom told me about her past problems with it and she's been able to help me search for a balance between letting go on occasion and staying healthy. 

It seems that being predisposed to eating disorders is genetic. My mom had problems with eating at my age too.

I go back and forth between restricting, bingeing, generally freaking out about food, etc. You name it, I've felt it. I'm thinking about telling my mom too. She knows, but we've never really talked about it because she's not always very understanding. I think it might help me a lot to have someone that really knows how I feel though. We're planning a trip to France for July and I'm starting to really worry about what food options I'll have, how things will be cooked, and I know my family is going to try and force me to eat a lot of unhealthy food. I think that maybe if I have a talk about this with my mom before we go and tell her how I'm just not comfortable around certain foods or in different situations it will help me when those situations do arise. It will be good to have her on my side or at least understanding of why I get so stressed sometimes.

So, i would suggest telling your mom, though I would like some advice on how to go about this as well! Good luck, and let me know how it goes!

I'm in the same situation as you!

I used to yo-yo diet, but then after reading so many suggestions to eating a good set amount of calories everyday, I seem to be getting worse. Others have told me to go tell my mom about my binging problem, but I don't think I'll be able to do that alone. So I've told my sister who is 11 years old. She thinks I should just "stop overeating". But she doesn't know its actually really hard just to "stop". It's like some monster taking over and I'm on auto-pilot.

I'm thinking of telling a counselor about it. They might understand more. I think you should too :)

i told my parents because the opportunity came up when my mom asked me if something was wrong because i seemed depressed. I told her about my problem and now we are going to get help from a professional. I feel a lot better now that someone knows about my struggles.

I told my mom that I needed her help controlling myself around food, especially at night. I tell her when I feel it coming, and she gives me ideas of ways to keep busy, or we watch a t.v. show. She hides the food that triggers me, and makes sure I'm ok when I'm home alone.

My parents are the reason I haven't binged in 4 weeks.

You should try to find something else that stimulates you.  Maybe try to get outside and go on a little walk.  It may help to clear your mind up a bit.  Sometimes just changing your surroundings can make a huge difference.  Also, try drinking more water, you may be dehydrated.  If I feel like I could sit and eat a bag of chips I always chug a bottle of water, wait a little while, and then see how I feel.  Most of the time I was just thirsty.    

those are some good tips. thank you. I will take that into consideration. Definately gonna be drinking lots of water from now on. And i'm gonna find some new things to do to keep me occupied. Maybe go to the bookstore and get a few books to read, get some crafts, and once the weather is nicer, i'll go outside more often.

When I was losing weight, I remember getting to be 92 pounds. Anyways, I usually binge when I am home on the weekends because I am not used to eating delicious food.

25 percent of Americans binge eat, so you are NOT alone! Remember that it is very common, but also it would be great if you would go get some professional help.

I was in the same exact situation as you, and actually just recently broke down and sobbed on the telephone to my mom and told her about my problem and that I couldn't do it by myself.  I've now begun the beginning stages of getting professional help with this eating disorder, and with some manic depression issues I have too...

although I definitely have not overcome this, and still binge, I'm beginning the long and difficult process of trying to overcome it or at least get it somewhat under control.  And I cannot even begin to express what a HUGE weight has been removed from my shoulders just by admitting to my mom and sisters that I have these couple of issues that have been threatening to swallow me up. 

 

Good luck.. I hope telling/talking about it with your mom has been able to help you.