Need help with potty training issue!

Okay...I seriously am at my wits end (so is hubby). Sophia was completely potty trained (minus naps/nighttime) up until last week. Long story short, I cleaned her area...as I hadn't been able to get behind her lips and some white film was building up (not yeast). While her legs were spread on the toilet, I was able to get behind the lips really good. When I did, it started to bleed...like it was really sensative behind this area....I don't know if I wipped too hard or too much. The next time she peed...it burned like hell!!!! She now associates the toilet with pain. She WILL NOT go to the bathroom...will not even sit on the toilet. I have since put A & D ointment on her and she was healed within 24 hours. She knows it doesn't "hurt" to pee b/c she goes in her underwear...but she will stand there, in her pee....

I tell her...see it doesn't hurt...wouldn't you rather go on the toilet instead of in your underwear? She will HOLD IT until nap time when I put the diaper on her....

We tried again this morning, bribed her to sit on the toilet and she we get a piece of chocolate...and she refuses! She is conditioned now to think that the toilet means pain. How in the hell do I get her to pee on the potty again...if she experiences no pain on the toilet, she will understand it is okay...its just getting her to go on the toilet (or even the potty seat).

HELP!!!!

maybe she is scared you are going to clean her again.  Stop doing it with toilet paper and give her a wipe for your daughter to do it herself.  And only clean her when she is in the bath with soap and water.

How long has this been going on? If it's just a couple of days, it might be worth putting up with it until she forgets the whole episode and decides she would like to go back to normal. It's not much fun for you because of the cleaning involved, but it might not happen more than a couple of times... If she sees it's no big deal, and if you say something like: "Oh, poor little girl, let's get you cleaned and get some dry clothes on you because it can't be very nice for you to be all wet", she may decide that it actually is not very nice for her to be all wet. If she holds it until nap time, she will probably eventually decide that it is too much hard work and that she is better off going back to her potty or toilet. I suspect the answer is not to make a big deal of it but be sympathetic when she has an 'accident'... until the whole thing passes.

That's what I would try anyway, but of course, it's all trial and error with little ones... Have you got health visitors in the US? They are usually full of clever tips! Here in the UK you can just give them a ring at your surgery and ask for ideas. Or you can take the children to the baby clinic and the health visitors have a way of explaining things to the little ones which works like magic...

Good luck anyway!

I wish we had that in the US, but we don't.  This has been going on since last Wednesday...so not too long. 

Tonight, she clearly had to go when I was running her bath.  My hubby and I held her over the toilet (as much as we know we shouldn't have forced it), she peed!!!!  She says, "it doesn't hurt!"  We made a huge to do about it...so hopefully, she will go on the potty tomorrow.  If not, I will just try to do what you said...and not force the issue.  I just wanted her to see/feel for herself that it doesn't hurt!

Mom learned her lesson, NEVER clean you girl's privates out over the toilet...I will definately be calling the doc this week to get some advice about this....

Actually we do have that in the states only it's called the nurse line at any clinic or hospital. If they can't help you with your problem they'll be able to give you ideas about where to get help.

 Have you had your husband talk to her and try to get her to sit on the toilet? Or a grandmother/aunt? She may just associate you with the pain. Have you sat her down and talked to her about it. Kids understand a whole lot more than we give them credit for even at 2 or 3. You don't say how old she is. Tell her that you made a mistake when you did that to her and you're very sorry, it will never happen again. Then see if she will sit on the toilet for Daddy or someone else until she feels save with toileting again.