~~I really need some help!!! She's making me feel terrible! :-(~~

There is this girl at my school, and she has almost the same schedule as me (so I see her everyday), and she can do everything! But she always brags about it (and it is making me feel worste and worste eveyrday).

  The worste part is she is starting to take one of my dance classes, and she acts like she can do it perfectly because she does every other sport (gymnastics, track, volleyball, basketball, softball, piano, acting, singing, and possibly everything else)

  Now I feel like I can't do the one thing I have worked so hard at (dancing) and it she can do it perfectly. It made me feel literaly sick today, and I need some help as to what I should do.

It might not help you right now, but trust the advice of people who have been there!  I promise you that the people who seem to be good at everything at school are not necessarily the ones who are sucessful later in life.  In the case of my friends and I it is almost the oposit!

Although you see these people every day at school, keep it in mind that there are literally millions of people in the world. One day you will leave school and you will mix with many thousand more new people. Some will be better at some things than you, some will be no where near as good as you! 

Don't let this girl dominate your thoughts - look around you at the rest of the world, I bet you are way better at dancing than almost all of those!  You will have your skills for the rest of your life, she will only be around for the next few years!

I was always the picked on looser. All the kids that could "Do everything Right" used to pick on me. I grew up and got a good job in the real world and have lost some weight. I have come across a couple of these perfect people lately. They aren't so perfect anymore. Most have jobs that involve asking someone if they want fries with that. And have gained the 20 pounds I have lost. Do't worry about them now. You will be fine. Most of the supposed "loosers" out there go on to have wonderful lives.

More importantly Most have a lot more empathy and compassion for the rest of the human race for what they went through. Even better yet I know me personally. I work in a mental helalth facility that tries and get the clients out and doing things and having jobs. I relate to my cliets for being stigmatised and form a much closer bond to them.

All us suppossed "loosers" in high school usually go on to have wonderful normal lives with healthy relationships and many friends.

Why does her being good at dancing make you feel like you aren't good at it, too?  Her existence does not negate your own accomplishments.  If you were good before she entered the class then you still are.

We've all had to deal with people like this.  Even if she is better than everything than you are, eventually she will screw something up and when she does you'll be there waiting.  When that sweet sweet time comes, ring her out! Kick her while she's down, embarass her infront of all your classmates, bring her pathetic, stuck up, perfect world crashing down on her, make her cry.  Just do it in a way that doesn't make you look bad.  It will feel great and she'll realize she isn't better than you or anyone else.

I hate these kind of people.

I feel the SAME way! Except not the exact same way. There are people who are good at EVERYTHING! Don't worry though. You'll find your thing. I did :) I'm better at having cool hair.

Contrary to what some others have advised, try not to worry so much about other people, focus on your own achievements.

No matter what you attempt, there will ALWAYS be SOMEONE who can do it better!  If you doubt this is true, just consider the presidency of the United States - the most prestigious position in our country - and the candidates who all say they can and will do it better!!!

Again, be the best you can be and work on not worrying so much about others.  If they are more skilled than you, that is fine.  You need to be happy with what you accomplish and proud of yourself for getting in there any trying! 

And finally, on this I do agree with the others who have responded to you, it will get better as you get older.  You will find your talents and be able to be happy for others when they find theirs.

Taking revenge against the supposedly "perfect" girl will only make you appear immature and foolish.  By all means, don't do anything to cause that.  Be true to yourself and maintain your dignity.

This girl might not be as self-assured as you think she is, either. Stop and think what makes her need to brag about what she can do. I'll bet she's deeply insecure inside and needs to demonstrate and PROVE she's good at things to make herself feel valued. She may also have a really pressurising parents who makes her feel not good enough unless she can prove she is.

Don't let what someone else can do lead you away from knowing what YOU can do. For everything you do, be it singing, dancing, running, sports, public speaking, poetry writing, arithmetic, painting, telling jokes, remembering dates -  in EVERYTHING you do someone is better than you. And someone is worse than you. It's not important who is better, life is not a competition.

 

You can take revenge while at the same time keeping your dignity.  This isn't a fair or just world and unfortunately the weak get run over again and again.  It's sad but it's true.  Take care of the situation yourself or you have to just accept it for what it is.

Thanks everybody! It was nice hearing something postive (that wasn't about this girl's many skills). I am normally used to people being better than me in TONS of sports (the only sport I am really good at is dancing), it's just when someone reminds you that they are better than you are every school day... it gets sooo annoying!

Thanks again! I do feel much better about this whole stupid situation!