Need a hug

Sitting in my room, three hours away from my graduation ceremony and fighting tears. My bf and I have just split up because I'm moving to London next year and he's moving to Leeds. We haven't been together long enough to try the LDR thing. I know it's the right choice, but that doesn't make it any easier. I guess I just need to hear some comforting words right now.

to early in the morning for me yet to have brain function but you know it's the right thing you are doing so all i will offer you is {{{{afoneleri}}}} keep smiling.

*hugs* I know what you`re going through, it definitely stinks when you are left wondering what could have been..

The only thing to do in these situations is embrace the few good memories you have, and maybe keep in touch - who knows, right? ;) If nothing else, at least you`ll have a place to crash if you happen to be traveling in that direction.

Congrats on your graduation, btw. :)

You've got all kinds of new opportunities ahead of you!

Splits are never easy... even when they are the right choice. Change is hard to swallow but you'll get through it. It's nice to think though that this breakup is not something personal against either of you. It's just the right decision for the circumstances.

Congrats of the graduation and the exciting new things to come! 

Stay friends - you never know how things will come out in the end.

meanwhile {{{{{afone}}}}}

Breakups suck I know.  Cry...get angry, be sad, get mad, but then realize this may be a blessing in disguise.  You are young and it may be a good thing for you guys to go your separate ways right now...

I went through the breakup from hell my junior year of college and I never thought I would look back and be thankful for it, but now I am.  We got together in highschool were together for 3.5 years.  My life revolved around him and I couldn't imagine it without him.  Here I am 2 years later and things are good.  In the end the breakup made me stronger, my own person, and really started to focus on me.

You never know what is going to happen down the road.  For all you know you guys could end up back together.  If not, you will meet someone else.  This is a win-win situation right now even if it doesn't feel like it. 

Stay strong. You are definitely not alone:)

Original Post by afoneleri:

Sitting in my room, three hours away from my graduation ceremony and fighting tears. My bf and I have just split up because I'm moving to London next year and he's moving to Leeds. We haven't been together long enough to try the LDR thing. I know it's the right choice, but that doesn't make it any easier. I guess I just need to hear some comforting words right now.

Did you reach into my life and steal this?  Seriously, when I graduated from college this was exactly me even down to the bf situation.  I was hysterically crying on the porch of my apartment because I was so confused and felt so out of control of my own life. 

I'm 30 now, so that was 6 years ago (OMG I'm old) and I got through it with time.  It did take some time though. 

so BIG HUGS from me.  I feel you.  Lean on your friends and family and everything will play itself out as it should. I ended up marrying the guy that I was crying over on graduation day.  You never know where life will bring you.  Just make sure you enjoy the ride.

***EXTRA HUGS***

It's fresh and new and hard right now - it's supposed to be that way. As time passes you'll heal and be absolutely ok. Congrats on your grad and new adventures are surely ahead!! Good luck!

Stay strong and try to smile even though you feel bad, I know it's difficult but the pain will pass.

Ah, the Graduation Break-up - every woman has had at least one ((hugs))

My BF in high school (we dated 2 years) broke up with me the month before graduation, and I well and truly lost my mind for at least 4 months. I was so desperately sad and lonely! I spent all of my time with him and his friends from another school, and had no one left of my own at the end of things. It was a lesson in retaining self-sufficiency in my relationships; I vowed I would never be in that situation again.

I'm so sorry for you - my heart aches; I remember exactly where you are (as do a lot of others, judging by this thread.) The next month/s will be hard, but slowly things will work out. You'll move to London, make new friends, meet new men, and have a great time living your life. Trust. And you'll look back on all your new adventures and think - god, what if I'd gotten stuck with that useless lump in Leeds?

Cheer up: I broke up with my highschool boyfriend when I went away to university and during that first week away I met the man who would become my husband.  I'm so happy (coming up on our one year/seven year anniversary).  Sometimes you have to break old ties in order to form better, stronger, new ones.

*HUGS*

(((Hugs)))

I'm sorry you're going through this, I know it sucks.  Lean on your friends and family, and try to have a great graduation.  *hands a tissue*