I really need your ideas! especially from guys! -- (but i would love to hear from girls too)

Hey,

So...I met this guy at a school program. He is very very gentleman, sweet, love cooking and traveling, love acting in school plays, very responsible, quite smart. He is only 17 and so am I. We goes to a different school but we met at least once a month during a Leadership program conference. 

He tried to ask me out for 2 months but I don't really date and I don't want a boyfriend because I study hard...and I have a trust issue. I'm afraid that people wouldn't like what I say (I know, I'm weird). But finnaly, I went out with him yesterday.....and it was really nice. I still don't want him as a boyfriend....but I really really do like him. 

So...Valentine's is coming. I don't know if I should even give him anything at all. I'm sure I would bring something to my friends that are working with me on my group project and so..he would see that I give my friends stuffs that day. So...what should I do? I love baking and so does he...should I bake something for him? (besides cookies, I did that already for Christmas). Or should I just ignore him. 

By the way, we still talk to each other almost every night....uhmm..any help?

Sure give him something, as a friend. If he tried to keep asking you out, just explain to him what you said here. That you think he is nice and would be fun to hang out with, but your just not really interested in dating ANYONE yet.

You might get a new friend...and maybe things will develop further when you start feeling more like dating.

Thank you, lorik. 

Well...I told him already that I don't want a boyfriend. And he said he understand. But he still want to take me out. And I kinda like him a bit...or actually a little more than a bit. But I'm just 17 and I will meet a lot of people in college. I'm from Thailand and I know how long distance relationship would feel....it's kinda hard. But, yes. I agree with you. I should give him something as a friend.

Well, since you are a guy, what should I give him? That doesn't imply as a girlfriend-like kinda gift..

Actually, maybe i rethink the giving him something idea. Unless you are giving gifts to everyone ...giving him something might make him think there was more. Unless it was really small.

Like...a couple hershy kisses or something probably wouldnt be taken as a sign of interest. Or some brownies wouldnt be taken as interest if you were giving them to everyone (and he sees you doing that...like you givng them out to a group of friends when you meet up).

When he asks you to go out, thats not a problem... just as long as he is totally clear its just friends hanging out. Like if he wanted to pay and you let him or something like that, probably not a good idea unless you want to give him the wrong ideas.

Or, you could just tell him you arent interested at all in long distance relationships (if he seems resistant to accept the not interested in dating thing). But, that might keep him trying to get you to overlook that.. with promises to drive up to see you or "make it work"...

Yeah, I like Lorik's idea. Bake brownies or something for all your friends and give it to them and him. That way, it's platonic. :)

thank you you guys :)

Brownie it is! I will bake some for my group of friends too!

Charming,  So he doesn't misconstrue your intentions, let him know that you baked brownies for all of your friends so 'I brought you some, too', kind of thing.  You sound like a smart girl who knows what is important, but, don't be afraid to have some fun in your life, too.  That makes a well-rounded person.

misskady,

thank you for reminding me of that! Yes, I should make the situation be something like that so it would be easier for both of us. :)

Awww Charming, You're such a sweetie. And it sounds like you've got your head screwed on straight. I wish I was as thoughful when I was younger like you.

I like the baked goods idea, especially since you're giving them to all of your friends...and it sounds like he's a friend too. Happy V-Day!