I need to slap him in the face

sorry if the title is not so nice but I feel angry... very angry...

I have been losing weight and doing well for several months but recently I have gained some weight back because of binging. I binge nearly everyday and I don't think I will recover soon.

one of my coworkers used to bother me a  LOT with his comments. like " you are losing weight and I am jealous". now, he lost a LOT of weight and I gained 7 to 10 pounds. I HATE him. I don't wish him good luck because he hated the fact that I was losing. I don't know why?

I know I should not be bothered that much. but I need to get rid of this bad feeling.. I always wish good luck to everyone... never felt like this before.. I hate being in this situation. I am gaining and he is losing the weight. the other coworker who was URGING me to eat muffins and sweets has started to lose weight too. I don't understand this.  they believe in weight loss but they didn't support me or at least they could have left me alone.

I need support guys. I need support.  today, I am having the feeling to go to the nearby store after work and just get one of those muffins. it is annoying.

People get very jealous, and one of the ways they feel they can make themselves shine is by damaging the people who they feel look better than they do...That is probably why they're endorsing you eating all kinds of sweets.

Stand strong. There's nothing wrong with a treat here and there....but instead of the whole muffin, how about half and some fruit? Or something like that.

*hugs* It is so hard when you feel like someone else is "winning" but you have to remember that you're doing this for YOU and not what they think.

I am sorry to hear that you are having a rough patch.  I know what that is like.

A few thoughts:

1.  It sounds like you expending lots of energy focusing on your coworkers.  Why?  Nothing good will come from comparing yourself.  This is not a competition.  Whatever goals you have set, you have set them for your own reasons and purposes.  If they do not support you, they are not really your friends.  If they are not your friends, or people you care about, why are you giving them so much of yourself?  And, you don't want to wish ill luck on someone.  It doesn't feel good...for you.  I would suggest you take the focus OFF of these people and redirect that energy toward more positive things.

2.  Binging is hard, once you start it is hard to get it under control again. I know.  You need to remind yourself of your strength, how well you have been doing for the last several months.  That is something to feel good about.  Maybe you needed a break, we all do sometimes.  But, now it is time to get back on track.  It seems like the binging might be related to the negativity at the office.  Maybe if you get that on track, the binging might cease.  I don't know about you, by my binging is usually related to emotional issues.  Once I address those, I don't feel the need to "act out" with food.

 You don't need a muffin.  It is not going to make you feel better, even if it tastes good for a few moments, it will not satisfy you.  Stay strong, and rise above this temporary set back.  Each moment is a new opportunity to move in a different direction. 

 Hope this helps.  Good luck. 

Thanks everyone. today I saw him. I told him. OH please stop losing weight... and he didn't comment. he didn't say anything. I just want to slap him in the face. that is it. the problem is I have to see his * face everyday.

Safina ....

 

((( hug )))))

 

Just thought you could use one, dear.

=^..^= MOLLY

There is an underlying issue here.  You are binging.  What happened to make you start that again?  You are not angry with your co-workers, but you are taking it out on them.  Why?  Focus on yourself, not on other people.  The only person you can control is you.  So you've gained some.  It happens to everyone.  I lost 122 pounds only to injure myself and have knee surgery and promptly gained 20 back.  Then I met my husband and have gained another 20.  Who is to blame?  I am.  I stopped working out to spend more time with him.  So I am dieting and trying to get back into the swing of working out, but it's hard.  My hubby is an eater.  He sabotages me (not on purpose), but do I sit around and contemplate grievous bodily harm?  No.  It's not his fault I let him talk me into ice cream.  It's my fault for thinking he looks entirely too adorable for me to tell him no (I'm working on it, and yes, we are newlyweds!)

 Your anger and your binging have nothing to do with your co-workers and everything to do with yourself.  It might be worthwhile to look into therapy so you can get to the root of the issue here.  Because no matter what, anger left unchecked breeds more anger and if you do slap him, you may end up in court for assault.

OP: How old are you? What is your current height & weight? A little more info would help us help you.

adkelly74: of course, I am not going to slap him. all what I said is I WANT to slap him. of course, I can't get everything I want. for example, I want to stop those binges attacks but I can't.

not everything I want, I can really get.

kathygator: I am 33. 5'3" and 155 but I look more than 155 because I lost muscles and gained pure fat so I look bigger now.

all this trouble started back in Oct. In brief, I had a cold, got sick and tired, had a cheat day. that was it. I was not able to get back on track since then. the cold is gone but the binges are not.

it started only on the weekends, then now I binge during the weekdays too. so it is like everyday.

every binge is NASTY. I mean it. because I say it is going to be the last time so I eat everything I want or miss. then it starts all over again.

it is only one hour left before I leave the office, I don't know what I am going to.

my intake today so far is 1300. I had 600 cal lunch including a whole avocado and tuna.

it is a pattern. I do very good for one day then the second day I eat sweets like a crazy person then I feel guilty and go back to count cal the following day then I binge again. I started to know when I am going to binge.

Molly.. I need support. :(

I am sooo upset. I have been dieting since last March. why is that? my STUPID body didn't get used to healthy foods or what? how can I train this body to be human?

Youve got mail! :)

No more feeling guilty. No more negative self-talk. You are only a few pounds overweight, honey, if that.

Step back from the entire issue and find ways to love yourself. What you may classify as a binge, another might look at as simply over-indulging.

Most of all, garner faith in yourself. Nothing about your weight is any indication of the soul inside you.

If you feel out of control, keep coming here, and find the tools you need to re-inforce the positives in your life. Perhaps seek counseling to help you deal with your feelings. Most of all, though, love yourself.

peace.

Thanks kathygator. but being a few pounds overweight was one of my excused to eat junk food. :( I was like it is ok to have this and that and I thought I could stop whenever I want. when I wanted to stop, I couldn't. that is why I am frustrated.

it is a nasty binge. look at what I had one day.

2 luna bars

1 pear

1 apple

sweet potatos

2 pieces Macaroon ( coconut and chocolate)

1 donught

3 muffins weight watchers

3 cookie

dates and bread

3 biscuits

and guess what? I had all this three or four hours after lunch.

You had a very similar post a few weeks back, just a vent, apparently none of those suggestions helped.

Maybe you can try avoiding these snack foods (which it seems like are what you mainly binge on) by not buying them at all. Avoid them when you go shopping. I know that when I buy snack foods like that I can just eat and eat and eat them because they don't *seem* to fill me up and once I try one type I want to try everything I bought.

I know where you're coming from...the annoying thing is that gaining a little weight back is normal when you're dieting. The body finally gets sick of you "starving" it. It sucks. But you can do it!!! :-) If you really get the urge to have one of those muffins either eat only half or get something healthier like an apple, which is actually more filling with less guilt later. Buy berries and freeze them. They take a long time to eat because they're so cold. Plus, its been proven that women when under stress tend to store the stress as fat even if they're not eating differently. It's a vicious circle. The best you could do for yourself right now is maybe yoga or learn to meditate. Good luck, you can do it and reach your goal! (Don't pay attention to anyone else...this is one area where it is ok to be a little self centered: they are not as important as you are.) :-)

cdruslow: many thanks:) I appreciate your support. I have never tried yoga before. when I was 232 pounds last year, my friend told me that yoga is not for me. now, I am about 155-156 ( because of the binges- I was 145 two months earlier), I don't know if I can do it.

Maybe you could teach me... :)   my gym offers " vinyasa yoga " I don't know if I should try that.

#13 smwhipple Dec 07 2007 19:12 You had a very similar post a few weeks back, just a vent, apparently none of those suggestions helped.

Sara: It helped. I just can't stop binging and I hope I will stop soon.

Your snarky jerk of a coworker is exactly that and is probably being such a pain because he can tell that you don't like him and it's the only way he has to retaliate for his hurt feelings without getting busted for unprofessional behavior.

The more he gets to you, the more of a pain he's going to be.  If you can manage to appear to ignore him, then eventually you will be able to ignore him.  He is not worth listening to, he is not worth thinking about.  He will eventually get what's coming to him, but you will probably not be the one who gives it to him or even get the satisfaction of seeing it, but his bad behaviors will catch up to him eventually.

You can do this.  If you want a muffin, bake a batch of black bean brownies instead, they're truly terrific!  1 box no pudge brownie mix, 1 can black beans, drain and rinse the beans, add 1 cup of water to the beans and puree them.  Once they're liquid, add them to the brownie mix.  The batch has a total of 495 calories for the 8x8 pan, dependin on how you cut them, they're 60-100 calories each and they taste terrific and they have protein and fiber in them. My coworkers could not believe that they had beans in them.

This is a pretty helpful site: it gives a bunch of poses and various tips. yogalearningcenter.comThere are also a ton of DVDs out there. My favorite is Yoga for Stress Relief by bodywisdom media. I don't know if I could teach you online but I could give you tips and answer any questions you might have. :-)Meditation is a little more complicated but once I got the hang of it, it was very relaxing. The next time your coworker bugs you about your weight whether you're losing or gaining just look in their eyes and tell them that they look very nice today and turn around and walk away. Don't give in to other people's comments like the ones from your coworkers! :-) much luck!!!

when I was 232 pounds last year, my friend told me that yoga is not for me

Excuse me, but when I was 250lbs I was doing yoga.  Weight has nothing to do with it.  I was doing a modified version of it, but it was the best thing for me at the time.  It kept me moving every day.

Want to get even in a good way, make the black bean brownies.  They are great and full of fibre.  They will make everyone regular the next day.