I need someone to tell me its wrong!!!

I am so disappointed in myself. I moved back in with my parents weighing 115 and in the course of about 2 months have gained 15 pounds. Maybe more...I am too scared to check. I will find out tomorrow on my "weigh in" day. When i was living with my grandparents I had my diet and exercise down. Of course I can admit I was a bit restrictive and obsessed with counting but hey, I was happy with my body. Now I am miserable. I will have a bite of something "bad" and then feel the whole day is ruined. I am a bored eater unfortunately. My weaknesses are breads (carbs in general), ice cream, cereal...and anything else that is unhealhty. I stopped buying the bread but the rest my family keeps in the house and I cannot get rid of. I just need someone to tell me to stop! Sounds kind of childish and unresponsible but I feel as if I am in a fantasy right now and will wake up to my 115 pound self again tomorrow. Which I know is not going to happpen. I have a challenge now. I have a goal. I just need some encouragement. Thanks.

eating a little bit of "bad" foods is not going to ruin your day...and bread is not evil...try to maybe allot a certain amount of your calories every day or a little every week for indulgent foods. Grab some ice cream with some friends once a week....you need to get out of the mindset that if you eat something unhealthy that it has derailed your whole day....take it one moment, one temptation at a time. Find something to distract you when you are bored so you aren't eating your boredom away.

i know bread is not evil its just a major trigger food. i seriously cannot have a loaf of bread around or it will be gone in like two days. And thanks for the other advice!

Hmmm. Bored eater. I can definitely understand that! If the fam needs to keep breads in the house, maybe you can convince them to choose healthy types. Around here, we can get Aunt Millie's 98% fat free whole grain bread. I think two slices are 70 calories. Great for sandwiches! If it's a trigger food, and you are a bored eater, try having it and then walking away to do something you absolutely have to do...in the meantime, your body will realize that you've eaten and feel satisfied. Just an idea. Oh, and then go brush your teeth! Usually I don't want ot eat after that.

"triggering food".  You know, I never heard that saying until I started helping one of my friends recover from an eating disorder.  I'm not saying that you have one.  I know nothing about you and I would never presume to think something like that just because of one post.....However, I feel like I should ask...just in case.

Have you had problems with unhealthy eating habits in the past?  I ask this because we have alot of forums and groups now who we could recommend to give you the support you need.  It all depends on what kind of support you are looking for.  We have everything from under-eaters to overeaters to binge eaters to purgers.  We have health nuts and junk food junkies.  The list goes on and on. 

If you are looking for someone to keep you accountable, we have alot of people who can help with that.

I am totally a "bored eater" too, so i decided to prepare myself! I stocked up on heaps of fruit, veges, nuts, seeds etc, so that I can actually graze on food without feeling guilty. I also found that if I take time to prepare something before I eat it - actually spend a while making it, rather than just eating something out of a packet - that I eat less and feel fuller sooner.

I also tell myself I can have something to eat after I've done some certain task - i.e., take out the trash or tidy my room, then I can have a snack. Makes me just take a moment to think about it before I eat away mindlessly.

Hi there,

 

Pretty new to the sight and am loving it so far. I just wanted to encourage you. I've recently had jaw surgery and for 6 weeks after I could only have soups and milkshakes and smoothies. Like you, I love ice-cream, and my "diet" reflected that. To my huge surprise I wound up losing 16 pounds on this regime! What a life-lesson! I guess I finally figured out that ice-cream could be part of my "life-style change", and that moderation is the key. Please be gentle with yourself. It is OK to "screw up".  

I'm a bored eater too, so I can sympathize. I recently got back from holiday, and there was nothing to do so I would just stuff my face all the time! I only gained 2 pounds, but I felt horrible all the time! My cure for bored eating is to get out of the house! Go to a cafe and drink a cup of tea and read a book. Or take up a hobby. Or go swimming. Anything to keep you occupied. If you feel like chilling at home, don't watch tv. Do something interactional that you CAN'T do while eating, like talking on the phone, playing a video game, etc.

If you eat when you are bored, maybe you can think about addressing the boredom. What are you passionate about?  What delights you and brings you joy? What makes you mad in the world, so mad that you want to do something to change it? What do you do that makes time disappear?

When I draw or paint, time flashes by. I am immersed in creating something and it is wonderful for me. I know other people who get lost in books or playing video games. Lucky ones find joy in dancing or running.

Find what you love and do it. Then you won't be bored and your eating habits will change.

Dear,

Stop right now! Once you get into the overeating mode or eating the "bad" things, it's hard to stop.  Because it your "restricting" muscle gets weaker and weaker and you "give in" muscle gets stronger and stronger. Once you figure out what calories you need, stop right there.  You do have a goal in mind and you want that body your looking for, and you have done it before.  This is nothing new to you, you can do it.  You just need to get back into your calorie counting and exercise habit.  You can do it! Pick mini goals and stick to them, don't break your promises to yourself.

if the thought of having something triggering makes you go overboard, it's probably best that you stay away, unless you have a control environment that you can have one or in moderation. 

sounds like you may also need some intervention, maybe have your parents or siblings not let you go near those foods for awhile.

Original Post by peaches0405:

"triggering food".  You know, I never heard that saying until I started helping one of my friends recover from an eating disorder.  I'm not saying that you have one.  I know nothing about you and I would never presume to think something like that just because of one post.....However, I feel like I should ask...just in case.

"Trigger foods" is a common term in my experience—because I think most people have them. It isn't tied specifically to eating disorders. For my best friend it is cookies. For another friend it is Doritos. And until I removed sweeteners from my diet and killed my cravings, for me it was Baskin-Robbins ice cream. We all—or almost all, I imagine—have foods we personally can't seem to stop eating once we start. And at least in my experience, everyone calls these foods "trigger foods."