I just need to vent a bit

Ok. I need to take this off my chest. She was a good friend. At least, that is what I thought. I started to lose weight and almost reached a healthy weight two years ago. It was the first time in my entire life ( I am 34) that I managed to lose a lot of weight. I was really happy. my friend's reactions was not nice. her comments always were ( you look too skinny, you should stop losing weight). and then looked at my arms and legs and said " look at your arms, they become very thin". in another occasion she said " look at your legs. I wish I had sexy legs like those". 

this friend kept asking me to eat eat eat. at one point I relapsed. not because of her but I had other pressure in my life . I went overboard something like 5000 cals a day. My eating disorder came back and it was nasty. I gained 50 pounds in one year and I felt depressed. A third friend told me later that she was chatting with that woman and she mentioned to her that I gained a lot of weight. 

I didn't confront her. Just decided to ask her a simple question and see her answer. When I asked her, ... do you think I am overweight? do you think I gained weight? she said:" oh, no. you are fine. ". 

with the precious help of CCers here, this year, I am trying to get back to normal. now SHE goes to the gym. she works out and eat healthy like a health nut and she lost weight. but guess what? I can't stand her and I can't stand when I hear her talking about how much workout she got that day. sometimes, I feel angry when I listen to her ****. 

Am I wrong? this woman gave me a nice Birthday gift. I really don't want to buy her any BD gift because in my heart I am pissed off.

Can anyone advise if i should buy a BD gift for her? Her Birthday is around the corner and I am not sure what to do.

Seeing as you accepted the gift she bought you, I think you really have no choice but to purchase a gift for her also. 

Afterwards I would limit my connection to this person, as it seems somewhat hypocritical, to be nice to her face when you do not appear to like her.  Is she really your friend, are you really her friend?  These are questions you need to ask yourself? 

I am not advocating being rude to her but it does not appear to me that you are not really friends and why should you continue to put on an act? 

I had no choice but to accept her gift. she bought it and just gave it to me. I couldn't say no. I was really shy to just reject it.

I don't mean to be nice to her face when I don't like her. I thought she was a good friend of mine but her behavior is just weird.

sometimes, I just ask myself was she jealous?

Could you talk to her about how you feel? It sounds like regardless unless you plan on never seeing her agin you guys need to clear the air. Maybe you can tell her how you felt hurt,angry,and what you need in terms of support. If you plan on trying to reclaim the friendship I would buy her something as a fresh start and hope that this and clearing the air can make the friendship better

Sweetheart!

All I will tell you is,....stay away from "TOXIC" people. Those are the ones that will make you doubt yourself. Those are the ones that give you a sick, angry or hateful feeling in your gut. Nobody should ever do that to you. Only you have the power to remove yourself from that situation. Happy feelings attract happy people.

Buying a gift for someone you don't like is pretending and would be a false-hood. If it was an expensive gift you have received I would give it back, saying that you appreciate the thought but that you can not accept it. If it was not then say thank you and leave it at that. I would rather get her a "going away present". A card, a couple of words should do. Maybe she will get the message. If not, just turn and walk away.

The best of luck! You go and take care of yourself, don't mind other peoples miss-givings,...there are not enough hours in a day :)

oxox BarbB