NEW 15-20 lbs. club (CLOSED - to keep it small)

All the groups that I have come across are from February so I decided to start a new topic.

I am looking for a couple women, age 20-30 who are interested in losing about 15-20 lbs. We don't all have to be the same but it would be nice if we were close to the same stats.

I am 21, 5'3" and about 150 lbs. That is WAY too heavy for me. I can't believe I am 150 lbs. I have always hovered around 145 lbs but I dont know why this summer has been so rough to me.

I am going to start teaching school in November and I have lots of really cute clothes that I want to look great in, they fit now but they are a little snug (size 6!) so anyone that wants to get committed and receive some real support POST and tell us your ups, downs, struggles, worries and maybe we can help!

I'm having a really hard time with my boyfriend and when I'm fighting with him, I don't eat.

It is now 5.30 pm and I've eaten about 400 calories.

Hey Stacey! What is going on? Are you okay? I know how you feel. I can't eat when I am upset either. Maybe try eating some peanut butter? Or, have some ice cream!

Stacey-

Are you ok? I hate fighting and I hope that things get better for you this week.

I am thinking of you and take care of yourself.

Jess.

Good Snacks are so good and i can get into the comfort zone!

Thanks for the fun ideas....

Hello ladies and happy monday!

I am down to 143 (from 145) so I am very happy about that. I FINALLY disciplined myself over the weekend and didn't go over calories at all. I did heavy duty cleaning on Saturday and a bit of walking on Sunday. 

I also cut out pretty much all sugars and substitutes in hopes that it might help.  I was drinking a diet soda a day and realized I don't need that so I think it helped that all weekend I drank water (well, 2 beers yesterday too, however, I bought light beer) and I was just really careful to not overeat like I know I tend to do. 

I did my usual 4am workout this morning so I feel great!  Went to the store and got my weekly stock of bananas and apples.  I got Kashi GoLean Crunch and may try that later in the week.  I wont let cereal go to waste so even though I am not really loving the Fiber One, I will eat it anyway.  At least its filling.

So, how was everyones weekend?!?!

Hey. Glad you had a good weekend! I don't feel so great about my weekend eating, but I still should have lost a half pound last week. Friday night I did pretty well eating out. I had a portobello mushroom wrap with hummus. Saturday night we went out to eat and I overdid it. We go to this place frequently and we always get the nachos deluxe and I couldn't resist this time! They are so yummy, but oh so many calories. A huge plate of nachos, beans, sour cream, cheese, olives, etc. I figure that was about 500 calories. Then I had a mushroom burger and a banana frozen coctail. So...I went over about 200 calories that day! Yesterday I did okay, but dinner was pretty high in calories so I just broke even for the day.

I am proud of my drinking though! I had two glasses of wine on Friday and that banana coctail on Saturday and that was it. I am really doing well with sticking to just two days of allowing myself alcohol. I was pretty disappointed yesterday (Sunday) that I couldn't have a drink, but I stuck to it!!!

I had a great weekend but I ate a lot.  Not really a lot a lot but I ate weird.  On Saturday I had a regular breakfast but for lunch I ate the rest of the calories for the day and I was in pain afterwards.  I basicaly binged but within my calorie limit.  Weird right??  On Sunday I did better, but I had some chocolate pudding that I made and I ate some of that which I shouldn't.  Other than that not too bad of a weekend but I could definetely do better.  I didn't weight myself today.  I didn't feel right and I don't want to disapoint myself, because knowing me I'll feel pointless if I'm up on the weight and I'll eat all day.  I'll wait until Thursday.  Hopefully everything will adjust and I'll go down some more than last weight in.  Talk to you later!

Hey Everyone!  Rafting was AWESOME.  I had so much fun but ate a lot :-P  This morning I was 126 (Thurs. was 123.4).

I did my first day of working out following the "New Rules of Lifting for Women".  I'm already sore!  I'm going to start posting my measurements along with the Thursday weigh in because hopefully I'll be adding muscle mass and losing fat.

Sounds like everyone's doing great...except Stacey needs to slap her boyfriend and eat some ice cream!  In my mind, no one person is worth ruining all the work you've been doing, even if it's your boyfriend :-P  Just turn that fighting adrenaline into more motivation!

Ya, everyone is doing really great! I ate about 400 yesterday until about 7 when my roommate brought me a m&m cookie to me in bed and I ate that and a banana so... I still ate WAY under but it's okay for one day.

I have such a headache from crying so much. This is weird. We aren't really the fighting type, we are like the "picture perfect" pair that everyone aspires to be.

I have a question for you guys, it has nothing to do with eating/dieting or anything but it does have something to do with being women... I've asked everyone of my girlfriends but all they have for answers is "just change" and its harder to do than I thought.

I have been fighting with the problem of defensiveness, well all my life. But Bevan (my boyfriend) really hates it. He is a very emotional, talkative person. When he has a concern he wants to come to me and tell me and have me understand his point and understand how he's feeling and learn from my mistakes. I want to be that way too but I just dont know how. Instead of saying "I understand how I made you feel, I meant to say this or I never intended you to feel that way" I said, "Well I only said that because this, this and this." By the end of it all I am saying is "I'm not wrong because this this and this". I just dont know how to be wrong and sorry. It sounds so childish and easy to change but I just cant. It takes me so long to process what he feels and what he has a problem with that by the time I understand, I've said too many "I'm not wrong. I'm not wrong. I'm not wrong" things that its hard to make it better.

I will sit after I understand why he feels that way with an "I'm sorry, I understand" on the tip of my tongue but my head wont let my mouth say it. It's like its some sort of weakness or defeat if I'm wrong... I dont know what I can do! Any suggestions?

That is a tough one! Do you realize later on that you might have been wrong? Do you just need time to process it? It can be frustrating when the other person cannot understand why you are upset, so I can see his point. I think you need to work out a compromise somehow. You obviously love him and don't want to hurt him, so I don't really see it as a problem where you are refusing to stop doing whatever is bothering him. This is a really hard issue! Maybe you can give us an example?

Sorry, this is so not helpful I shouldn't even post this..I'm trying!

I asked a bunch of people at work and one person is just like me and the other 2 do the right thing...

Example:

Your boyfriend comes up to you and goes "It really hurt me when you said this and it made me feel like this because of this..."

And the "normal" correct answer would be "I'm sorry you feel that way, I never meant to convey it that way, I meant this...."

But I said "Well you shouldn't feel that way." Or "Well I was just trying to say this..." but its a little snotty and rude and stubborn. I dont know. I think I have a plan. I have written a big letter/list of things that I need to do to get better and how everything will help our relationship.

I just never want to be wrong. Ever! Even over simple things like losing my keys or something, its always someone else's fault. It's not good. It's very self and relationship distructive. I do realize later that I'm wrong its just on the tip of my tongue but its just so hard for me to say sorry. In my mind "wrong" and "sorry"="bad" "weak" and "defeated".

 

Hmm...maybe take a few minutes to respond?  Are you like snapping back at him with your response?  Maybe you guys can do something like you nod your head and he knows you understand and you're sorry.  That could be a step towards actually verbalizing it.

Also, don't be pushed into thinking that you're always wrong on relationship stuff.  Maybe you have a history of being stubborn when you're wrong, but don't let that make you think you're always wrong.  Sometimes your body won't let you say that you're sorry because you're really not, and you know you're right!

But again, just taking a few minutes to think it over might be best.  Try writing it out?  It sounds cheesy but you gotta start somewhere.

How is everyone doing today ladies?!?

I'm doing okay! Yesterday I did really well...I had about a 650 calorie deficit. I am so nervous because on Wednesday I am going to a wine charity event that I have been looking forward to for a really long time. It is at the local zoo and there is wine and food. It is already one of my planned "alcohol allowed" days, but I am nervous about going over on calories with the wine and the food I will be eating. I also have a wine themed bridal shower this Saturday (so my second and final alcohol allowed day) that makes me nervous as well. How do you handle going to things like this? I wouldn't even know how to log all the weird food I am going to eat. I am starting to panic..please help!

Goodmorning,

I am ok.  Just ok.  I had a bad day yesterday.  I was in such a bad mood.  I didn't feel like going to the gym and my eating was just horrible.  I didn't eat more than my calorie limit but I had no vegetables or fruit or milk or anything good.  All day I just ate one thing only.  Lasagna-for breakfast, lunch and dinner.  Gosh!  It even sounds horrible.  Anyway around 5.30pm I had some for dinner and then suddenly my stomach I think just gave up.  I got bloated and I was in pain.  What did I expect?  I had no fiber or anything else to help my diggestive system at all.  Since I didn't go to the gym I went to the city "shopping".  I didn't buy anything I just didn't want to go home and crush in the couch.  So I walked around the stores for about 1.5 hrs and then I went home around 9.30pm, I had a piece of pork loin, 1/2 boiled carrot and a piece of cabbage and I went to bed.  I hope today is better even if started bad again with pastries for breakfast but at least I had some oatmeal.  Hope everybody else did better than me.  I am really scared for weight day-plus it is TTOM time!!  Laters!

I'm doing well.  Got up and did my 4am workout.  Drinking my water like a fish.  Haven't had any artificial sweeteners in days (trying to see if eliminating them gets rid of my headaches) but I have a headache today.  Blah.  But I am trying to let it go on its own.

I ate good yesterday. I actually was slightly under the past couple days, I have no idea how.  In either case, 2 days worth of 1,000-1,100 calories shouldn't hurt me too bad, I just need to eat another apple or banana per day.  I think I can handle that. 

Have a great day ladies!

 

I had an okay day yesterday. I've been not eat too much the last couple days, like Lauren. But Sunday was about 800 and yesterday about 1200. Today on my zig-zagging I am doing about 1700... its always really hard when its not my cheat day to have a big calorie day... it's okay though. I went grocery shopping last night because we desperately needed it! Maybe thats why I wasnt eating haha cuz there were no groceries in the house!

I have the day off so I am going to put in some really good gym time today. I'm thinking my regular 30/45 minute work out and then some really long cardio.

My eating is very good but the exercise thing gets me... I just want to go home and see my boyfriend after a tough day, or just go home and relax not get up and go to the gym. I guess I could go in the morning but I hate hate hate mornings! I love to sleep in as long as humanly possible without being late I dont know. I need to start working out again though. That's what would really help.

The biggest thing in my eating that I have noticed helps is not snacking! My little "handfuls" of stuff really killed me. I don't eat beyond what I have entered and planned on eating for... a whole week now! I never thought it was possible!

Lauren, I was getting bad headaches too but I think it's from staring at a computer screen all day to be honest, when I avoid the computer (which is hard at a boring job!) and I read or something, I dont get the headaches.

Have a wonderful day everyone!

Lassagna is so yummy! I was just thinking about it the other day. I think that messing up every once in awhile is going to happen to everyone. I think what is more important is to have the mentality that the next day you need to get back on track. You can into trouble when you think, oh well i ate all that yesterday i messed everything up, and then eat whatever you want again. I don't think that one day is going to necessarily ruin everything.

Lovingmylife - I can't believe you get up at 4am to workout! I am impressed.! I could never do that. I am like you in really working hard to get enough water. I am trying to see if it really will help in weight loss. I know that I don't get enough. I found this artifical sweetner called Tea To Go (I think it is new). It doesn't have anything in it, unlike crystal light. I am limiting myself to one per day and usually have it with dinner. It actually replaces the alcoholic beverage I was having with dinner and helps me not care so much about not having that glass of wine. I figure one per day isn't too bad.

I was also struggling to get to 1200 yesterday..which surprised me quite a bit. I ate a lot I thought. Here is what I had: B - coffee and oatmeal L - salad with some turkey and grapes D - fish (tilapia) with a rice mixture I have been doing. I can get crazy with rice and go totally overboard so what I have been doing is making about 3/4 cup of brown rice and then I cook some mushrooms and peas ...a lot of these and add it to the rice. I usually made one container of mushrooms and a half bag of frozen peas. It tastes so good and I can eat a lot of it without going crazy over on calories. It is obviously much better for you because of the veggies.

So, all of this was only about 1100 and I worked out yesterday so I was a bit under where I should be so I treated myself to a 100 calorie york pepermint pattie wafer bar! So yummy!!!

Catherine,

I found this article on here you might be interested in before your big event on Wednesday!

http://caloriecount.about.com/cc/article/how_ to_eat_at_a_social_event.html

Lasagna is amazing and I've been eating it every day since Friday because Bevan made it. It's not that bad for you... he makes it with light riccotta and whole wheat noodles and it does have Italian sausage but I just have a little bit and it adds up to about 370 cals for a portion.

Stacey - I can't get the website to work!