New Mommy/Extra Weight! Friends Please!!

I just had my first baby in October. My pre pregnancy weight was 130 than I ended weighing 186! So I gained over 50 pounds yikes. I now weight 166 but I need some motivation and friends because I am just so lazy and tired from the new baby all the time! I am quick to chos the wrong things to eat and am a fast food addict. Help me be healthy! I need friends!

First of all,  Congratulations on your new baby.   What a wonderful gift.

 I have had five babies,  so I know how you feel.   I can tell you how I managed to stay slim with each pregnancy.   The biggest thing is this....You have to take care of yourself first,  before taking care of anyone else.   To do this  you have to make some decisions about what you want and then get a plan on how to do it.   I think having a baby is a fabulous, but you can easily lose yourself and that is not what should happen.   If you are happy,  fit, energetic, you set the example for your child and you will have a better quality of life.   

Take a shower every morning,  put on your makeup if you wear it,  read motivational material (whatever that is for you),  get out of the house, remember that it is okay to put the baby down,  to let the baby cry a few minutes while you take care of yourself,  to ask for help when you need it,  and to be a whole person. 

I am just a regular working mom,  and not an expert in anyway,  but if I can help you on this journey,  I will. 

New momma here too.  I just had my first baby in August, a beautiful baby girl.  I didn't gain too much weight in my pregnancy, but I was very careful about it because I was all ready heavy to begin with.  My goal was to shed the pounds after the baby, but 5 months later i am still at my original pre-pregnancy weight.  Before I knew it, maternity leave was over and I was back to work where I am surrounded by people who like to bring in a lot of food, most of it not very healthy.  I thought that this website might help so I can realize how much I am consuming in a day vs my activity level.  Unfortunately I have the metabolism of a slug, even though I am a fairly active person.  Holiday weight gain ended up being 4 pounds that I am trying not to beat myself up over, but it's tough.  I've always been heavy and want to be healthier for myself and my baby girl.

Hi there!  Congrats on your new baby! I had a baby in October of 2006 and am still trying to lose the last 10lbs. to be close to my pre-pregnancy weight.  I am currently 145 lbs. and would like to be 135 lbs.  Who would have thought 10 lbs. would be so hard? to lose?!  Anyway I would not mind being your buddy if you would be mine too! I am new to this site and unsure of how to add friends so could you add me?!  Thanks and looking forward to chatting!!

Terrie in Rochester, NY 

 

Hi and congrats on your new baby!  I had my first in March of 2006, and I was able to lose all the weight and then some when I found CC.  I started off at 147, went up to 181, and got back to my goal weight of 135 a few months ago.  And wouldn't you know it?  I'm expecting again!  :)  Hopefully weightloss will be easier this time around.  Feel free to add me as a friend if you want. :)

I had my first baby in June and gained 60 lbs. All I lost was the baby!! I live in Hilliard (Columbus) Ohio. It seems with this cold weather that it's even more of an excuse to be lazy and eat comfort food. I work full time and attend night classes for my associate degree too. I often find myself picking up fast food or eating half a frozen pizza for dinner. It'd be great to find some friends for motivation!

Hi there,

 Congrats on your new baby.  I just had a little girl in March.  I have been heavy all of my life and this was my second pregnancy.  I kept an extra 10-12 pounds with each pregnancy.  My goal this year is to try to get it together and slim down and get healthy.  Now that I have little ones, I want to be around for a long time to watch them grow up!

 

Congrats!! I had my first daughter on September 7th 2007 and am trying to lose the 60 lbs I've gained...I'm new to this too so it will be nice to have other people in the same situation for support!!!

right there with you!  my 3rd child was born 9/29.  i'm going nuts with this extra 50 lbs!!!  be glad to join you in your efforts....  i need some buddies!

I just had a baby in August of 2007.  So, 4 1/2 months later I am still 10 lbs above my pre-pregnancy weight.  It is so much harder to take off those pounds than I ever thought it would be!  I only gained 35 during pregnancy, and the first 25 came off within the first month, but my weight has been at a standstill ever since.  I'd love to be a friend and maybe we can help keep one another on track!

Congrats!  I had my first baby a year ago and it took me about 4 months to get motivated.  I was expecting the weight to just melt off after the baby was born, but I was stuck at 200 pounds for a while.  It's amazing how much of a shock 200 pounds is versus, say 195!  I reached my pre pregnancy weight around July of last year, now I'm working on those 20 extra pounds I put on before I was ever pregnant!  I say don't worry too much about  hitting the gym 6 days a week right now, it's only been a couple months!  Just sit back, relax and enjoy that new baby because it goes so fast!  I find myself wondering where the past year went.  You're on this site, so you're moving in the right direction.  I was shocked to realize how much I was actually eating once I started writing it all down here.  I'm a food addict too!  I took the diet profile test, and I am an "overeater!"  I have problems with portion control because I just love to eat!  So, first and foremost, I don't even keep any junk food in the house so I won't be tempted when I'm tired and think I'm hungry.  So toss out any chips or ice cream or any other junk you may have lying around.  If it's out of your sight, then it may stay out of your mind.  Next, nap whenever you can.  I found that if I was tired, I would get the munchies!  Hope you reach your goal!

Congrats! I have 4. Babies make great exercise weights. I'd put them up my legs while laying down and lift them up and down doing as many as I possibly could. Use them as a weight bar to push up and down, while laying on my back. It was good quality time too because they always loved it. 

A new baby at Christmas! What could be better! I had one in December (13 years ago) I have 4, but the rest were Spring and summer babies. It took me so long to loose that weight. I even breast fed. With the first one it was about 5 months (doesn't sound long, but I was 20) and then I got pregnant again when he was 6 months old. My body didn't have time to really heal. My youngest was 8 when I got really serious about it. I worked out off and on the whole time, but it was so easy just to eat what they eat, (and all their leftovers)

 Make some time for yourself. I know that's hard, I use to pray for a bath alone, much less exercise time. I walked alot with mine. They loved to ride in the stroller. You came to the right place for friends. I have made alot of really encouraging friends here. I love it so much.

I am SO glad you posted this and everybody responded! I was very depressed during and after my pregnancy because I gained 70 pounds, all but one of the books and the first dr I went to said normal weight gain should be only 25 pounds for someone at a normal weight. Thankfully I found a new dr who said as long as I was eating healthy foods and the baby was doing fine (which he was) I was doing a good job.

Now, nearly 7 months later, I have dropped 50 pounds by trying to watch what I eat (less sugary stuff is about the most I have done with that so far) and walking with the stroller at least every other day for about 45 minutes. I have hit a plateau though, which some people say is caused by breastfeeding. Your body holds onto those extra pounds as a backup supply for making milk supposedly.

You definitely need to make time for yourself and get out of the house, you will find you actually have more energy to spend on being a new mom (and are happier) if you take the time to get dressed in the morning, and just walk around the block to get fresh air every other day at least.

As depressing as trying on clothes can get when you are heavier than you want to be, try getting yourself one pair of jeans that fit you good right now, a stepping stone if you will, not ones to shrink yourself into, ones to grow out of. You will be happier in them than in the same old maternity clothes you had when pregnant, and when you can say to yourself, "I need to buy smaller jeans, these are falling down" it will be such a good feeling! I finally got to do that a few weeks ago.

Even just a long relaxing shower at the end of the day, when your partner can watch the baby, is so much better than trying to listen to the monitor while taking a quick shower during one of the baby's naps. I say shower rather than bath because that way if the baby starts to fuss you don't hear it and have your hormones go nuts and ruin the relaxation.

Enjoy being a momma, but remember that you are still a woman too, and make yourself feel good about how you are doing and what you are going to accomplish. Even if its just getting out to go to the grocery store you are still getting some exercise out of it. Little steps do count!

Would love to have you on my friend list and hear how you are doing along the way!