new town, new baby. + anti social = unwanted weight gain.q

hey. I dont know if this is where i am supposed to be posting this but ill try anyways. 

I just had my first child, and right after he was born my boyfriend got a job out of town so we all packed up and moved away. Away from everything we knew, everyone we loved, and now when hes at work for 12 hours, i dont even leave the house. I'm not a very good conversationlist, and when it comes to walking up to people and making friends, im noot good at it.

Thats when i noticed.. i havent lost any baby fat and in fact have put on just about the equal amount of weight. I've never been like this before so Im kinda taking it hard.  does anyone have any advice for me??

start moving around =) drink plenty of water and search this site.  i've found a lot of good information on here so far.

Is there a park nearby? You could take the baby for a walk to and around the park?  Or even just around the block ... in your neighborhood. What about a zoo? Or museums? Just getting out of the house and getting some fresh air and exercise would be good for you!

And you may check to see if your local Parks/Recreation Department has any sort of classes or clubs or events or activities that you could get involved in.  Local churches are also good places to try to get connected.

You might also start tracking your eating ... log all of your food and look for some patterns. Are you eating when you are bored? Lonely? Are you eating the wrong foods? Are you getting enough fruits and vegetables and whole grains?

Can you dance to the radio or get a workout tape?

Can you place a listing in your local Craigslist for a walking buddy/play dates for your child?

=^..^= MOLLY

 

I too gain because of not dealing well with depression.  That is what you need to fight. 

ladyinbrown, I got teary eyed reading your post.  It is terrible to feel lonely and then to have a newborn on top of that.  Dancing or walking, some type of movement really helps with feelings of depression.  Even though your baby is so little a lot of librarys have story time.  That may be a place where you can meet other moms.  Welcome to CC, you will find a lot of supprt here.

Julie : )

I'm so sorry your feeling lonely. ((((((((((hugs)))))))))) I don't know that I can add anything to what everyone has already said except that I ditto getting out with your baby and walking. Maybe get involved in a church or some kind of crafts class to be with other people and make friends.

This is a wonderful group to come to to make online friends as well and you never know you might post what city you live in on CC and see if anyone lives nearby.....worth a try.

Also what someone else said about logging everything you eat and sticking to CC's calorie intake and food guidlines will help you lose weight and feel better about yourself.

Your baby is so cute and has big beautiful blue eyes just like you.

Hang in there you will be making friends before too long

Lots of towns have places with "Mommy and Me" type classes, where you bring your baby and interact with it in the presence of other mothers.  That way, you are caring for your child, but making friends with other new moms.  You might want to call information and ask about how to find an organization like that.  That's one way you could meet some new people in a semi-structured environment--maybe it wouldn't feel so overwhelming.  Trust me, I'm not very social at all either.  Making friends doesn't come naturally.  But if you feel lonely, it might be good to try to take that first step.

hello. i am 26 years old, a mother of 3 and my husband is a truck driver. he is gone from 5 am one day until about 4pm the next day and so on. i get lonely sometimes too and also have trouble making friends. if you would like a buddy, send me a message. and welcome to calorie count. com.

ladyinbrown, welcome!!! just do housework, walk extra steps, take a stroll outside with the kids!! Any type of movement will speed up your metabolism. One way of burning calories is to put clothes away after washing and drying.  You will be surprised how many calories you can burn. Good Luck!!!! I don't have trouble making friends I just don't really trust too many people!!! So I am rather introverted until I get to know you, then look out, it is on and poppin'!!! giggles!

ladyinbrown....i know how you are feeling. i just got married over the summer and we up and moved for my huband's job. away from family friends and everything we knew. we both are working many hours and going to school full time. therefore in my free time its hard for me to much. the only social thing i do is now work and go to the gym. i have done a good job at staying devoted to the gym however its hard to be motivated about life. ive struggled with depression most my life and its become a large struggle for myself again. if you would like maybe we could be motivational buddies. I need encouragement and I would love to continue to encourage you through your dieting.

I can relate to your situation. When my daughter was born I never got out of the house (even though I had friends/family that wanted me to visit). I just found it way to stressful, plus I'm not that social. My daughter is a year and a half now and after my husband kicked me in the butt (metaphorically) I started getting active. I go to visit friends and I attend a study group that my church puts on for moms.

My advice to you is to seek out a community center by your place and see if they have any groups or classes you can attend with your baby. You'd be amazed at how easy it is to talk to other moms with kids the same age as your own!

I feel for you and hope things start picking up in your life! You've come to the right place for motivation though. This site is full of people who are friendly and willing to encourage and help those around them!