newbie needing alot of suport!!!

Hi my name is Mildrik and I need to loose 80 pounds. The problem is I have been bulimic and aronexic in the past and basically everytime I start to diet I take it to the extreme to the point its unhealty and then after treatment I let myself go. I am 22 yrs. old and I have been overweight for the day I was born. I my heaviest has been 250 at age 16 and my lowest 78 pounds also at age 17. Due to my crazy dieting I have gained many health problems like kidney failure, hair loss, teeth loss and major loss of calcium causing me to have a shatered hip bone and lots of surgery. I know I have to lose weight because 220 pounds at my age is not healty but I cant diet without ending up in a treatment center. I really need support because all my family can do is make fun of me and my weight and discurage me from dieting telling me it will never work and that i will always be fat. I have to diet in secrecy so my family doesnt bash on me and at the same time dont take it to the extreme and not to let people get to me to the point I dont wanna eat ever again. I was wondering if someone is willing to help me just with support

Thanks

I'm sorry to hear about your problems with weight and the lack of support from your family.  But I am sure you will have plenty of support here and everyone will help you with your questions and believe me they will tell you if you are doing something wrong.  My only advice is to come to this site for all your support and information on what you need to do in taking steps to be happy with yourself.  I hope that you are successful in becoming healthier the right way.

Good Luck!!! 

mildrik,

if 'dieting' gets you into trouble, don't see it as 'dieting' anymore.

see it instead in the positive. You are making a lifestyle change. A lifestyle change means that you want to have a healthy self-image. So, instead of focusing on losing the weight, you will focus on doing things that make you feel good.

For instance, instead of focusing on NOT eating certain foods (junk or too much) you focus on eating well balanced meals including lots of variety of veggies and fruit, whole grains and drinking plenty of non-sugared up, uncaffeinated liquids...

Instead of focusing on how repetitive and monotonous beginning a work out program can be, go in search of the things that you really ENJOY doing and make it your own. (I HIKE @5 miles/day in the woods and absolutely love it...others think that's insane...to ea his own!)

The same is true for your family relationships. Instead of focusing ONLY on how they bring you down, start balancing the negative out by seeing the beneficial side to these relationships. And, like w/anything else, if you can't find that healthy/helpful side in your familial relationships right now, ease out of those relationships for a while so you can find solid footing of your own...when you come back to them you will be healthier and happier and their negativity won't affect you.

Good luck and take care!

I like the advice so far...I think the key to being healthy and eatiing right is gaining knowledge! I was amazed at how much I learned from reading here....like the "science" of it all. It takes 3500 calories OVER what you burn to gain 1 pound....staying below what you burn is pretty easy, as long as you stay away from junk foods. Pretty soon as you eat like that...your body thanks you and you feel so much better. that what makes you want to stick with it! You get energy and your skin and hair look better! Just commit to learning so you can have that the rest of your life and you can do it!!

Hi mildrik, I was reading your story, and its very similar to mine.

My stats: 22 years old : 5'3 : HW 220 :CW 206 :LW 105

I have had a problem with being overweight since I can remember, and i was also having trouble with anorexia since 2nd grade (i know, sad).  Recently within the last year i have started purging too, which is awful.  My problem is, is I either go all in to the point of having an unhealthy lifestyle, or i let loose and binge everyday, its hard for me to find that happy median and stick to it, because i feel like I'm not putting a 100% into it.  I am in law school, and im training to be a police officer, and next year we go through a class called skills, basilcy a boot camp, where we run 6 miles a day ect.  And that really helped me make the choice that i have to be healthy, not just skinny, but also have to drop a ton of weight (at least 75 pounds) .  But having someone to talk to when the going gets tough or if you just need someone to talk to feel free to send me a message anytime, i know where your coming from.      

THANK YOU SO MUCH! For all the support I have receive, I am trying my best to maintain a healthy lifestyle and I think with the support of this site I will be able to reach that. It gives me a lot of hope listening to positive support and knowing that even if my family doesnt support me in this process, I have others here in the site that will.... thank you it means a lot

Mildrik-   I have complete compassion for your struggle! I have the same affliction, an "all-or-nothing" type of complex. Nothing in moderation is also my problem, as I go all out in either direction. Logging my calories daily seems to be the only way to keep myself accountable! When I log daily (which is often a struggle with a busy schedule), I manage to catch patterns before they become an issue, charting caloric intake either too high or too low. I wish you the best of luck and always remember, each day is a new one!