Newly wed with post-partum body

Hi Im new to this website, My names Heather. I got married on July 25th 2009, to a wonderful man Ive been with for 4 years. We have 2 children together, a 2 year old and a 3 month old. Lately I have noticed that since we got married our sex life is gone!!! I know, I know we have only been married for less than 3 weeks, but during those 3 weeks of being newly weds, we have only had intercourse 3 times.... Im starting to think my husband is finally seeing my body as is now... after having 2 kids and gain 60lbs and having stretch marks that looks like freddy kruger clawed his way out twice.... He comments on my weight and what I look like alot more... and it sounds like he wants me to be back to pre pregnancy body... I feel really alone! I live in a town where I know no one and Im a stay at home mom. Does anyone have any advice?

I am sure it isn't that your body is different or that your married.  I bet it is you have two children and one is still really really little!  I have a four year old and a 8 month old...and lemme tell you...when it is bedtime it is bedtime!  I am so bushed..that sleep is almost better than sex.

I bet your just feeling alittle down with yourself.  Start getting out of the house more.  Take the kids for walks to the park.  It will be a great way to meet other stay at home moms...as well as help you lose some weight.

I just had a baby 7 months ago and I gained almost 50 lbs just to have her weight 7 lbs 5 ozs.  I was married just under a year ago to my husband who is in the USAF.  Talk about feeling horrible about the way you look.  He comes home from work with his tight body and I still have my post baby belly.  Everytime I say that I want to get back to my pre baby weight, he says, "you look fine."  I hate that.  I don't want to look fine, I want to look awesome and sexy again.  Grrr... it's so frustrating.  He can eat whatever he wants and not gain a pound and if I eat a tiny square of chocolate, I weigh an extra 2 pounds.  It really isn't fair.  I also have stretch marks that look, like you said, freddy krueger sliced his way out.  Mederma works to help them fade a little faster and make them not so obvious.  It does get expensive though, but me, I'd rather pay for it to make myself feel better about the way I look.  I'm also a stay at home mom and there is nothing in the area that I am in.  I have to drive over 2 hours just to go to the zoo with my daughter.  I know no one and my husband is away a lot on TDYs and Deployments, so there is really no one for me to chat with that understands what I am going through.  This site has been really helpful to me though!  I have also started using Jillian Michael's 30 Day Shred 20 minute workout video and do it when the baby takes a nap.  Let me tell you!!  It is awesome and definitely kicks your butt in only 20 minutes!  You definitely have to tell yourself you can make it through.  It feels like you've been working out for over an hour!!  You should definitely try it and if you stick to your calorie intake at 1200 or whatever is recommended for you, you'll lose weight!  I've lost 1 pound in just 3 days of doing it!!  The video only cost me $15!