Does anybody else have problems with people noticing their weight loss? I mean, I understand when you only lose 5 pounds, but since July 1, I've lost 40! And nobody notices at ALL. Its very, very demoralizing to lose the weight of a toddler, basically, and still have people feel that there's no difference in how you look.
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have you been pretty open about trying to lose weight? If you have been, maybe people think there is nothing that needs to be said if you are always talking about it. or vice versa, maybe they don't want to offend you by bringing it up.....I've noticed that some people don't want to make someone feel like they didn't look good BEFORE the weightloss, so they don't mention it!
But congrats! 40 lbs is AWESOME and you should be proud of it!
Congrats on the 40 pounds lost! That is great!
Yes, I finished working out with my personal trainer at my local gym, and since that time, I have lost 14 pounds (3 months). He never says anything about my weight loss each time I see him and say hi at the gym. Kind of frustrating really.
No, I haven't mentioned it at all. But its possible that people don't want to offend? But it's horrible... I'm almost halfway to my weight loss goals and it's horrible to think that I could just drop it all and nobody would know the difference!
OK, I got a little chuckle out of this one. My HUSBAND never said anything to me. Seriously, nothing at all. I was around 30 lbs down at the time...so yeah, no small loss...and he still hadn't said anything. So finally my friend came over one day and said OMG--what the heck--you look awesome, gosh Erik, you must be so thrilled with how good she looks, right? And my husband goes...oh yeah, well she does look good...she's lost quite a bit. I was totally dumbfounded and basically said what the hell...you haven't said a thing...and he said he didn't want to offend me or make me think that he didn't think I looked good before....uh...yeah. I basically told him he's a total schmucko and that complimenting people on weight loss is a good thing...there's really no way to make it sound bad....and by NOT saying anything he was actually making me feel bad.
So yeah, I think there's just this stigma attached to weight and commenting on it! I'm sure people are noticing--they would have to be blind I'm sure!--but just don't want to bring it up! Congratulations!!! Way to go on the weight loss!
Good for you! But why would I care who notices or says anything about my weight. I'm doing this for me, not for them and I honestly don't care what anybody else thinks about my body. I know what I lost and I know how good I feel.
How you dress will have a lot of effect on people noticing. If you are wearing the same clothes, or baggy clothes, it is less noticable. Also, if you are working out (strength training), you will look slimmer.
Ditto on the last post... but also, do this for yourself! it certainly brings pleasure to me when I get comments about the lost weight but the biggest pleasure is seeing myself in the mirror and knowing that I look good ~ naked or not ~ and I am much, much healthier!
Keep at it! =)
This guy I worked with lost over a hundred pounds and honestly, I really didn't notice til other people started saying things. Then, I couldn't even remember what he looked like before until I saw a picture.
Haha.. I defanitely do not have that problem... but think about how the alternative could also not be desireable. Right before I got married I lost about 20 lbs. My husband's entire family keept commenting on it. Oh your so skinny you lost so much weight... even after I had seen them several times being thinner. It was so embarassing at the family events. Yet nice that they noticed, but not at the same time... especially when I gained weight after the wedding. If they knoticed the weight loss, then they for sure knoticed the weight gain. My friends say that they haven't knoticed my weight gain (I tend to hide it well) but my husband's tinny asian family for sure does... and I mean his entire extended family and there are a lot of them. Sometimes you just wish people would just ignore things like that.
Well, I only lost ten pounds but it made such a big difference in my clothes, face, etc. that I couldn't believe no one noticed.
My husband never thought I needed to lose weight so he wouldn't notice unless I lost as you did, forty pounds. I cannot believe everyone isn't commenting. Maybe some are just jealous. I bet you look WAY different.
Congrats, great job. 
novileigh, They DO notice. They just don't say anything.
I've lost 175 pounds and there are people that STILL don't say anything about it. Then there are those people that trip out on me every time they see me.
It's just one of those touchy subjects people are afraid to approach. Just be proud of yourself, and let it come across in your self confidence. :)
Yeah, I've lost almost 50lbs and not everyone says something. I think everyone has a different reason for not commenting--some just don't observe those sort of things (ie: people who make great eye contact and focus on your face, which is actually how I am), some people don't feel comfortable talking about it your weight/body, others might not want to compliment you bc of their own insecurities, but I think most of them don't comment because they want you to know you accept/love them at whichever weight.
That is what I heard from my friends back home I've known since I was 6yrs old and also from my wonderful boyfriend...he doesn't say anything ever unless I directly ask. He supports my efforts and goals, but I can tell he notices (and likes!) the changes by the way he touches me. I like this MUCH better than my ex who noticed/commented about my weight loss/gains more than myself--it made me feel like he was hoping and praying I'd lose weight and I knew then that it was obvious to him when I gained which made me unhappy.
I am okay with however others deal with it. My mom, my ex-trainer, guy-friends, and a few grannies at my gym comment nearly every time they see me...and it certainly does feel good. At the end of the day--my own praise, satisfaction, and noticing of my improvements is what keeps me going and makes me most happy. For awhile it annoyed me, but I'm over it now! :)
Yea, i gotta agree with everyone that this is a touchy subject. I had a friend in college who lost a ton of weight...she must have gone from a 14 or 16 down to a 2 or 4 in about a year. I never once congratulated her but now i'm kind of regretting it. At the time I was afraid it was a touchy subject but now that i'm higher in weight and trying to lose it, I keep hoping people start saying that it looks like i'm losing it, not be shy and ignore the fact! Oh, and yea, we were all a little bit jealous.
I know for me ... I can be totally oblivious to someone I see every day losing weight - it's usually an 'aha' moment for me when I realize that they don't look the same as they used to .... and then when I do realize it, I think that I should have noticed it before and then I feel silly so I don't want to say anything .... so, other's are likely noticing but for whatever reason aren't putting it out there for you to hear. In the end the most important thing is that you've lost 40 llbs - so woohoo for you!!!!!
also keep in mind - these are people (husband included) that see you every single day. they dont see the "before" and "after" shock of so much weight loss. they see you gradually losing.
great job! 40lbs is awesome!
40 lbs! WoW! That's amazing! I'm sure people notice... if they don't then I'd really wonder about them! Do you wear extreemly baggy clothes?
Anyways... congrats on meeting your goal! That is simply amazing!
40 lbs! WoW! That's amazing! I'm sure people notice... if they don't then I'd really wonder about them! Do you wear extreemly baggy clothes?
Anyways... congrats on meeting your goal! That is simply amazing!
You know what's funny, I lost weight for my wedding and everyone kept commenting how great I looked. And now that I have gained a lot of it back, they keep telling me how great I look....who knows what they are thinking.
Either way, you have made a great accomplishment and just keep going! I am now back on track with losing weight so hopefully I will be back to my wedding weight very soon.
I think people are sensitive about mentioning people's weight, but be proud of it. I always tell people when I am trying to lose weight. Typically, they are very helpful with it, give me recipes, encouragement, and the whole "oh I could never do that" speech which gives me motivation to show them that they can if they commit.
I know how aggravating that can be!
I lost about the same as you did between graduating high school and the middle of my second year in college. My guy friend who I hadn't seen since high school randomly sent me an email and said we should get together for like lunch or something.
I had hoped he would say something about the way I looked, but he didn't say anything about it. I was slightly upset but I let it go.
Long story short, we eventually ended up dating (though it only lasted 3 weeks lol). We were talking on the phone and I randomly mentioned something about working out and how I'd lost 40 pounds and he told me it was really noticable and he really noticed it when he first saw me, he said I looked so beautiful... that was a good feeling lol.
He told me that he didn't want to say anything because he was afraid I'd get offended or something. Maybe that's your problem too? But I wouldn't worry about it, congratulations on your weight loss!!
novileigh, congratulations on your 40 lb! I am right there with you, I lost 44 lb (45 since today, Yeae) and I am also almost half way. Not everybody notices, it is hard to believe! And some people say their personal trainers don't say a thing, change trainers! Some do notice but don't say anything, like my next door neighbor. But her husband did say I was looking great! Maybe it might be a touchy subject like some say, but hey it is nice to hear a "you look great" once in a while. People start noticing more lately, I guess it is because I am buying new clothes that are tighter to the body and it becomes more obvious? Is that your case? It is hard for people to notice if you use more baggy/relaxed clothes even if your face shows. They will notice eventually, but no matter what, you have noticed, keep loving your new you and be proud of yourself.
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