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that's absurd. if your boyfriend loves you, he won't break up with you because of your weight. on days when I feel really crappy about myself, i force myself to go to the gym, and even though I hate every last second of it, I always feel better after.

You are currently at a healthy weight.

If you feel worthless or fat, consider the possibility that your feelings are out of wack not your weight.

ps. even if you were fat you would not be worthless.

I am one inch shorter than you, and just 9 lbs lighter.

If you are "fat" than so am I, and I know that being 5'2 and 125 is not fat.  You may not be super lean, and your clothes may be fitting tighter or not at all, but that certainly doesn't make you worthless.

I think you have more of a self-image problem than a weight problem.

If you would like to chat, write back and let me know and I can give you my email address.  I've been where you are.

try to keep your chin up

How old are you?

A lot of posts like this come from girls who, I dunno, developed their hips & are bummed out b/c their skirts are too tight... on their bones!

Hey there,  I am 5'0" and started this odessey when I hit around 125... I know how it feels to have the clothes stop fitting properly! That weight is overweight for me, and it's not just the clothes, I am unhealthy, unfit,  uncomfortable, and I start having health problems.

Aside from dieting, I have a few suggestions that are working for me (I'm down to 117, and one full size):

1) Go out and buy yourself a handful of clothes that fit - not elasticy ugly "fat" clothes, but something nice that makes you feel good about your body. Yeah, it may take some hours in the dressing room and maybe even a trip to the tailor BUT it is just so important to be happy about the body you're in. Trust me on this one, it WILL help you get in the right frame of mind to tackle the few extra pounds.

2) While you're at it, invest in some snazzy new workout gear. Wear this at home when you're just hanging out, and you'll be surprised how easy it makes it to just get your butt out the door and take a walk in your free time! You'll already be dressed to sweat. :-)

3) Get your butt out the door and start walking (briskly) 30 minutes a day - aim for 60 minutes eventually. This is not just to lose weight, but also to give yourself a much-needed serotonin mood boost. Trust me on this one - you will feel so much better about your body. You'll start to feel more toned too. Listen to your favorite music while you walk - the music will also help boost your mood.

4) Learn the power of positive thinking. When you hear yourself thinking, "I'm worthless because I weigh too much" stop yourself and instead repeat over and over, "I'm worth being as healthy and fit as I can be." ---> notice the concentration on health and fitness, not appearances.

As for the BF leaving you, you admit these are irrational fears, right? They will become self-fulfilling prophecy if you continue down this path... no man wants to be around an insecure woman, no matter HOW thin!!  I find it helps to control my anxieties by putting them to a halt: I tell myself, "I don't have time for these worries." Then I breathe deeply, and imagine I'm breathing my anxieties and fears into a great big baloon. Then I visualize releasing the balloon and watching it float away.

I don't want to make eatbetter feel any worse, but I'm kind of tired of people saying that someone 5'2" or shorter is at a healthy weight at 125. We're not. Check out www.dietitian.com, click on the Healthy Body Calculator and plug in the numbers to see for yourself! 125 is in the **overweight** category for that height.

When I hit 125, I suddenly had all sorts of health problems. It is NOT about vanity for me. I am truly UNFIT and UNHEALTHY when my weight gets over 125. And if it gets over 120, my heartburn returns with a vengeance.

With that said, it's not all *that* overweight... and just 5 lbs really will make a BIG difference.

Well, imagine being an inch shorter than you are now, and weighing 135.  That was my heaviest, and on small framed and short girls like us, the weight shows!  It doesnt sound like much to most other people; but most other people are not 5'1 or 5'2. 

The leanest I have ever been (leanest not skinniest), was 103 lbs.  I was toned, had a low body fat percentage, healthy, and my clothes fit great!  I felt awesome. 

Well, along came winter and now I'm a wonderful 114 lbs lol. 

Why don't we do this together?  I feel depressed too sometimes about my weight but you know what?  You can't find the strength to tone up and lose fat if you feel worthless to begin with.  You've gotta love yourself and think you're beautiful at any weight.  Your pant size may go up or down but your smile and eyes will always be the same.

When you feel worthless, you decide you don't need to dress up for school or work; you decide you don't need to give yourself the time of day anymore; shaving legs, doing hair or make up... you end up turning yourself into the person you feel like instead of the person you are. 

Confidence is the most attractive quality in a person.

So if I were you, I'd pick my attitude up off the floor, put on a nice outfit, do your hair all pretty and work your stuff!! Your man will adore how cute and fab you look, and you'll attract others' attention, including your own.  Give it to yourself. :)

geez, I'm 5'2 and 123 lbs... Im still toning up but I feel fabulous and my boyfriend drools over me.... I am certainly not fat and even when I was and if I still were I would not be worthless. 

It's natural to feel low self esteem but to come in here where many of us struggled to get to a 120 something body weight and talk about how "fat" you are is a bit insulting.  Perhaps your self-consciousness goes deeper than your clothes just being a little tight and you're needing to address some deeper issues hon.

To the person who said 125 is considered overweight, I don't know where you got your info but it isn't all about the numbers.  I work out and I have a lot of muscle so at 125 I am a lot leaner than I was at 110 when I didn't have any muscle tone and was out of shape.  Stop saying things like 125 means you are overweight at 5'2 it's wrong ot assume you know everything about everyone in this height range. geez Im sorry I came into this thread...

eatbetter,

I know exactly what you are feeling - I was in that same head space only recently, last year!

I got married in Dec '05, it was a few months after we married that I went on a med that made me go from 110 to 125 in a matter of a month or so! ACK. It made me feel so horrible about myself - nothing fit, I had a double chin, I felt flabby and disgusting. Also I had terrible period cramps and bloating at that weight, and often had tummy problems too. Plus my blood sugar was all out of whack and I wasn't sleeping well.

The worst part is that as I slunk into depression and low self-esteem, I stopped wanting to have sex with my new hubby. :-( Thank goodness he is who he is, and very understanding and supportive, loving me no matter what my weight.

I decided to just concentrate on getting my health back. I was desparate to go off that darn med. Instead of thinking about how I'd look if I could just fit into my jeans, I thought about my health. This led to me taking a series of baby steps, one goal after another. First I quit smoking. Then I started walking every day. Then I took up yoga. Then I took up running. Then and only then, did I feel motivated to get serious about my diet. Although it's true the weight is coming off very slowly (far slower than it came on!!) everything seems to be clicking together these days. It's probably going to take me until August or September to reach my goal weight, but that's okay. I like what I see in the mirror these days, and I feel great - healthier than ever.

One positive action leads to another. Note I said "action" and not "result." You don't need to lose 5 lbs to feel positive. You need to act in a way that encourages your health, and you'll feel positive and you'll start seeing positive results with your weight.

Meanwhile, my hubby is very happy because my sex drive finally came back with a roar. :-)

Christins,

Yes, you're right, you can be 125 and if you have a lot of muscle that can be perfectly healthy. I am kicking myself because I DO indeed know this: in my 20s and early 30s I was doing some *serious* strength training 5x's a week two hours each session, and I hit 125 BUT I was my leanest size ever. I could get back to that but honestly (now with family and full-time job) I just don't have the time nor the inclination to dedicate to that level of exercise.

I just took eatbetter at her words... if her clothes stopped fitting that tells me that it's not muscle weight. But you've got a good message: diet is not the only way to get the clothes to fit again. Building muscle is another way to do it!

I just calculated it and at 5'2' and 125 lbs your BMI is 22.9, so healthy whether you have a lot of muscle or not.

I am 5'2" and my goal weight is 123, and I will be happy, I am 39 pounds away, husband says whatever...so if I were in your shoes, boy would I feel great.  My cloths do not fit either, because I am 162 pounds and 23 years ago I was 123...that is a healthy weight and bmi.  Be happy that you are where you are, and if you want to lose a few, then you only have a few...if you were at 150 at one time, wow, way to go....just keep up the good work!

I suspect you would be better served by a psychologist than a diet.  This absolutely isn't intended as an insult -- everyone has their issues.  The fears you mention, especially combined with having previously been overweight, make me think you may have residual issues related to your body image to work through.  And if you're hinging your entire self-worth on having your appearance fit some cultural ideal, how will you cope when your body ages?

And it may be cliche, but any guy who'd leave you for gaining a few pounds (or fifty!) is a  guy you don't need.  If you believe he loves you, t hen give the man a little credit for being deeper t han that. ;)

Your weight (125) sounds right for your height (5.2). Check the tool at Mayoclinic.com.

Life is beautiful, nobody should feel worthless for a weight issue, especially when they are normal weight or slim as you are. Careful with websites that need to sell you services and speculate on your body image issues.

Please be aware that the current requirement(s) for models fulfill the diagnostic criteria for anorexia nervosa, and that your life and sense of self is too precious to give it up to some careless idiot who want to treat women as hangers. We're not hangers, we're beautiful, intelligent, worthy creatures who one day will be doctors, lawyers, psichologists, engineers, mothers, wives, friends, sisters.

Being underweight has serious consequences, that go from osteoporosis to hearth problems to brain trouble to depression (feeling worthless).

Love, respect yoursef and accept and listen your body when it needs nourishment.  Talk with a trusted friend or, especially, mother or doctor about your feelings.

Take care

everyone is right 125 is a healthy weight for you.. im 5' 1" and at 125 i was really small.  your boyfriend wont leave you because you gained a lil weight.  It might be a sign that u need to started doing more exercising or change the exercises that u are doin.. switch it up a lil bit.. but i dont think ur overweight at all. u didnt have any pics so dont know what ur body type is.