Off topic.

I'm 18.  Freshman in college.I don't know anyone here.I've always been the one with all the friends.With all the guys interested in me.Here I have no friends.All the guys are interested in my roommate.I exercise everyday.And I eat like a pig.I get so stuck on making myself thinner, better, happier, healthier...I think that by losing weight, I'll gain friends.I don't feel pretty enough to be liked.I can't sleep very well.I have good days, and bad.I eat well, and then I eat horribly.I didn't eat until 5 o'clock tonight... and then I kept eating.I feel so lost, it hurts sometimes.I things to be like they were.When I was pretty, when I had millions of friends, when I was attractive to guys, when I liked myself.

Ok granted I'm a guy, my experience is slightly different.

When I was an undergrad, I was obese and didn't really have any friends.

Then I moved away for grad school and lost 75 lbs, and I still don't really have any friends.

Moral of the story: Being thin doesn't get you friends, not real ones anyway. 

Definitely don't judge yourself by your roommate's friend count.  I'm a junior in college and I still don't have any of those real close knit friendships here.  Sure I have the handful of friends I can talk to and go hang out with, but not in quite the same way as I used to have in high school with friends I knew for 10 years.

For me, I'm just a quiet person, and I didn't happen to form any really close bonds my freshman year.  But, I have a loving boyfriend 1200 miles back home, and I'm of a perfectly healthy weight right now...adding to the moral that being skinny won't get you any more friends.

Basically, the best thing to do would be to get yourself out of your room.  Walk around campus, go sit at a coffee house somewhere and read, do your homework outside, etc.  Anything to get you out of a confined area and where people are.  You at least won't feel lonely and cooped up, and who knows, maybe someone else will saunter up by themself and you'll have someone to talk to.  Try it out :)  Certainly can't hurt any, and it will get you away from the food for a bit

I definitely agree that you should get out; I didn't really get along with my roommate freshman year so I found myself holed up a lot.  If your school has a gym that'll give you something to do if you're bored.

And don't be so hard on yourself. Find people who like the same things you do. 

I know it seems hard to believe right now, but you are still the same girl you were- the girl with all the friends and tons of guys drooling over you. This is just a tough transitional period in your life. It will get better. It may take a few weeks or a few months, but the best thing you can do right now is take care of your body and keep up with your classes. Trust me, you don't want to be stressed out about your health and school work when everything else finally settles into place.

hi mmatthe2!!

i read a lot in these forums but i don't usually write anything.  when i read your topic i felt like i needed to reply.  i know you wrote a few days ago, so i hope you are still reading the responses.

i know EXACTLY how you feel.  i went through a very similar experience when i first started school.  i had a ton of very close, stable, and reliable friends back at home, and i was so depressed thinking i would never find people like that anywhere else.

here is my advice.  (this can be very hard at first, but it is so rewarding.)  you should start looking into the different clubs that are organized at your school.  think about your old friends, what did you like to do together?  if there are clubs at your school for those activities, when you go you'll meet people who automatically have something in common with you.  it takes even more guts to go to a club for something you are interested in, but never tried before.  just remember, people like to share their interests.  if you are genuinely interested in an activity, there will be people who want to show you how to do it, do it with you, etc.  eventually you'll build a social network away from your roommate and her friends.  walking into a room full of people you don't know takes a certain amount of boldness, but you obviously have been a confident girl in the past.  channel that energy, smile, introduce yourself, and things will fall into place.

i ended up finishing school with a ton of acquaintences, who i still catch up with on occasion, as well as quite a few REAL friends, who are like family to me.  and i am still incredibly close with my friends from high school as well!  having a social network and participating in activities boosted my confidence a ton.  i started my quest around halloween in my freshman year and by the time i went home for the summer i cried thinking about not seeing my new friends for 3 whole months!!  this WILL work for you.

i'm so sorry you are depressed.  there is no such thing as "not pretty enough" to make friends.  besides, i honestly don't think you could possibly be chubbier or uglier than you were when you had a million friends.  take control over those thoughts.  they are all lies!!  feelings and emotions are fleeting - you control them, they don't control you!  as you become more comfortable at school, these issues will fade.  i know they will - i've been there too!

feel free to message me or add me as a friend on here!  i'd love to hear how things go for you.  please don't give up on school or yourself!  i hope this helps!!

- pa

I agree, get out and do something that you enjoy or try something new.  You will make a lot of acquaintances and some of them will turn into friends, some may even become very good friends.  The kind that are just hanging out with you because you look skinny are not the ones that you want around you.  You want the ones who give you a smile when you need one, the ones that make a phone call just to see what you're up to and who genuinely like you.