Would you be offended?

My boyfriend has always been supportive of me losing weight & becoming healthy, however I could not help but be offended when he proudly announced yesterday that he has been hiding groceries that I purchased so I would not be tempted by them....he is usually super sweet...so I was shocked when he told me this.

Do you think I am being over sensitive, or would this offend you?

AWwwwww. What a sweetie! He's just really trying to help you out, I think! I would have gave him a big hug, told him thank you for being supportive, then let him know that I have to be able to practice self control on my own.

Men aren't always the most graceful when it comes to our feelings.

I don't know about your man, but if mine had said that, I probably would have thought that he was just proud that he was "helping" me to avoid temptation.  It's possible that he really meant well.

If you don't like it though, tell him.  I'm sure he didn't realize how it made you feel.

food out of sight (or out of the house) can be a HUGE help to keeping on diets. I wouldnt be offended... he was just trying to help (but if resisting temptations isnt an issue for you, talk to him and tell him you appreciate the help, but thats not something you have trouble with).

I would be aggravated if I had been looking for the hidden groceries and couldn't find them. However, I wouldn't be *offended* since I'm sure his intentions were only to help you and support you. Have a talk with him and tell him whether you want him to help you hide foods or not. If you tell him not to and then he does it AGAIN I would be offended that he didn't think I had much willpower.

I wish my boyfriend would hide my extra large family bags of kits kats and twix.

I would have lost about 5 pounds this week alone haha

Thanks for all the replies...I think everyone is right & he is just being supportive.  To be honest when he first told me about hiding the food, I was really hurt because I initially took it to mean that he wants me to restrict my calories even more....but now that I think about it, he only hid the really bad stuff like powdered sugar donuts & candy.

I just talked to him & he said he was just trying to help & he wasn't trying to hurt my feelings (& also admitted that the thought crossed his mind that there would be more junk food for him...lol, go figure)

I'm glad you took the time to talk to him about it. I'm the type that is much better off without the powdered sugar donuts and candy in the house! ;-)

Be sure to tell him, though, that you can actually have a donut now and then if you count the calories and it fits into your daily allowance. Maybe he can set a couple of those donuts aside in a ziplock bag and he can have the rest.

Haha, that's really humerous.  I think I would have been split.  Not hurt...I'd have been pissed and touched all at the same time.  Although, did you not realize that things were going missing?  I'm the kitchen person and put everything where I want it in general (he could care less where it goes as long as he can find it...but he can barely find his keys, so....).  If I knew I got something as a treat and couldn't find it, I'd be quite ticked off that he hid it.  But if you buy it and he hid it anyway, maybe you can cut back on that sorta thing anyway.  Then he pays too!  And you save on the added costs of things you're not eating anyway.

I kinda have to say - even though I know he would just be trying to help, I would have been pissed that he thought I needed the help to resist.  But, I'm kinda proud that way and wouldn't want him to think I have no self control.

Plus, I've had so many body issues my whole life that part of me would think he wants me to lose weight faster cuz he thinks I'm too fat.

Okay so I know all this is ridiculous, but I have to admit, that's what I would be thinking.  Thankfully, my bf is smart enough to support me and tell me I'm doing great, but also smart enough not to make ANY comments if I decide to splurge or cheat lol. :)

I'm with Kukua. I'd be really angry if my own stuff was hidden from me, and hurt by the implication that I have limited self-control.

I've had male friends tell me not to have a treat and I was offended because I thought they were saying I didn't deserve it or I need to restrict more.

A supportive man would tell me that my smile and confidence make me beautiful at any weight! Maybe that's why I'm single...

It wouldn't be offensive to me, because I think I would see that -in his own misguided way- he was trying to help.

Now, if the announcement came in front of a group of friends, it would piss me off.  Like he was trying to take credit for my weight loss.

I'm glad you got it sorted out.

Original Post by kukua:

I kinda have to say - even though I know he would just be trying to help, I would have been pissed that he thought I needed the help to resist.  But, I'm kinda proud that way and wouldn't want him to think I have no self control.

Plus, I've had so many body issues my whole life that part of me would think he wants me to lose weight faster cuz he thinks I'm too fat.

Okay so I know all this is ridiculous, but I have to admit, that's what I would be thinking.  Thankfully, my bf is smart enough to support me and tell me I'm doing great, but also smart enough not to make ANY comments if I decide to splurge or cheat lol. :)

 Ditto that! Thank goodness for smart boyfriends. I don't think I would fare so well with a dumb one....hiding food I bought would piss me off to no end, and I would definately be reading more into it.

aesb, you are a tiny little thing so I have no idea why he thinks he needs to hide the donuts....must just be misguided "support" !

Umm... that seems kind of patronising to me! I'd say thank you for trying to be helpful, but I bought those items for a reason (assuming they're not something that was specially bought for him!)

no, don't be offended.  but had he caught you "sneak eating" food and what kinds of groceries were he hiding from you?  i think he is only trying to help you though.

Emotionally...I would be offended because it would hurt my feelings.

Physcologically...he's trying to help so it's nothing to get too upset about unless he starts taking it to the extreme.

Hi there aesb...

To be honest...I'd be oh so happy if my hubby did that...it shows he's helping and that he wants you to stick out your goal, without the temptation.

At first glance, I could see why you'd be offended...but at the same time, you need to look at it as a motivator....he's removing the temptation for you, so you don't need to work extra hard for that will power.   Making your job to lose weight, that much easier....and really...who doesn't want the easy way out :)

If he had out right said, "you're disgusting, so i'm moving this food so your fat ass can't eat it"  then yeah....that's uncalled for!  But he didn't.

Just take it as his little notion to help you on your journey....

It is okay to treat yourself once in a while...but I find it easiest if the temptation isnt even there in my face....I'll get a treat when i feel i deserve it for my hard work...rather than having it sit there WAITING for me to consume it :)

Good luck with the weight loss

Hmm I don't think you have to be offended, but I also think you don't have to like it.  He tried to help, and maybe it wasn't the best way.  So just tell him that. 

Men think differently than we do. I am sure he did not mean to hurt your feeling. I make them hide food at my house. If there is cake, pie, brownies, rice crispy treats I am helpless so they have to hide them. I cannot even know they are there. Stupid good food.