Oh, come on. This is SO irritating!!!!!!

I feel so bad right now. It was a loose-loose situation.

My dad comes home from taking my little brother to breakfast, I don't go because he takes him to a buffet and I'd be so totally done if I went to one of those. So, I try to do good. I was on the website looking around, when my dad comes home and says "I brought you something..." I knew exactly what it was because he brought me a McDonalds Big Breakfast two weeks ago. So, in my head I am thinking "That was really nice of him to think of me, but oh, crap, I'm on a diet."

The stupid 'big breakfast' has 730 calories... do I LOOK like I need a big breakfast, dad??

I know people need to eat, but I would have been happier with an apple or oatmeal. I couldn't just say "I ain't eatin' that, dad.." because he actually thought about me, and that means a lot, but I really want to loose weight. I have until August to loose 30 pounds, and I know this isn't the end of the world, but I do feel really disgusted with myself... =/

I've been awake for two hours and I already have eaten almost 1,000 calories.

My plan for the rest of the day is to eat a fruit and walnut salad or something for lunch, because we only come here every two weeks and he always takes us to McDonalds or orders pizza. But that's only because my brother (who is going to be 10 soon) loves McDonalds, but they are like, the same, they are those kind of people who can eat like, 5 double chocolate cakes and not gain a pound. Well, you know what I mean. So, naturally they are both veryyyy skinny. So, they can eat McDonalds and stuff. I can't. Not to mention I don't even like McDonalds....

Did I mess up really bad?? =[

No.... I think you did the right thing. You knew your dad wanted to treat you, and you already knew how many calories it was.... its not like you were out of control and binged. Don't worry I had about the same amount as you did. I had a bowl of kashi go lean crunch cereal with skim milk at 1:00 AM because I got back from a track meet late and didn't really have a well rounded dinner. Then this morning I woke up and had the same thing again PLUS a mini wheat bagel w/ about a tablespoon of peanut butter!! Why??? I don't know.

The point is don't worry about it. Just exercise, get in more fruits and veggies later on and make it a maintenance day. Everyone has days like these.

:3 thank you so much, that really did make me feel better.

I mean, just the word 'McDonalds' makes me feel bigger, let alone eating a flippin' breakfast from there. Ughh. I am going outside to exercise later, I can't stand this. Ha. Thanks again, though. ^-^

I understand that he thought about you, which was good, but if he continues to do this you need to sit down with him and have a talk about what this is doing to you. Ask him nicely, and explain why, he shouldn't be bringing food home to you. Instead, if he wants to do something for you, tell him some alternatives. I hope this helps. :)

If this is something you do only every 2 weeks enjoy it.  Think of it as a cheat day.  Just try to make healthy choices at the bad places and mention them to your dad.  Like tell him the big breakfast was good but your favorite is a breakfast sandwich (even if it isn't).  The calorie count is way less.  And tonight if you order pizza try to get a thin crust or maybe get a salad to fill you up.   Enjoy yourself though.

 

Have you ever tried suggesting to your dad that you cook? Maybe say to him " Dad I was really hoping I could make you guys dinner tonight- I found a really great recipe that I'm excited about!" You could make it a whole family thing. The only other thing I could think of is to talk to your dad about how you'd like to try eating a bit healthier and that you're not really a fan of the Mickey D's. I'm sure he wants to make you happy and he just keeps taking you there because he thinks you like it.

I don't think you did the right thing at all.  It's not fair to your father to allow him to believe you like what he did.  How is he supposed to support you if you don't tell him the truth.

I think you need to look at why you ate it.  

You are going to have to get tough.  You need to sit down with your father and talk.  Point out to him just how overweight you are - be prepared with facts and figures.  Tell him that you can no longer eat high calorie foods and that you won't in the future.  If it happens again, you MUST throw it out, right in front of him.  Then you have to ask him to never do that again.

It's your body and you are responsible for it. 

Oh snap, now I am confused. I agree with you clairelaine, because they is absolutely true. But... he is my dad, I can't throw something he gave me away, that is a slap in the face. I wish I could. After I ate it I wanted to throw up, not by myself, my body really felt sick, like "ew, that was disgusting!!!" I didn't like it at all. Ugh, I still feel gross.

Like, I know what you all mean, but now I don't know what to do. My dad looks at me as his "good kid" because last year, all year, I got all A's. And none of his kids have ever done that, so he thinks I am like smart, and awesome. Even though, I'm not. That's isn't the point. If I stood up to him, or told him I have a problem, he wouldn't except it, it's just him.

I think I'll just go work out now, but I will be back to check back to see if anyone replies. =D

You are being to hard on yourself.  Weight loss is a long process.  One meal or one day is not as significant as the week or the month as a whole.  Enjoy your time with your father.  Talk to him about your program and ask him for help and advise.  I am sure he would be glad to help you.

I can understand your conflicting emotions about this situation, it's a tough one and everyone is going to have a different opinion on how to handle it. 

I WOULD NEVER "get tough" with my dad and throw something he bought me away in front of him.  I love him too much for that and parents don't always know how to help their kids.  He might not see you as needing to lose weight or since it sounds like he sees you so little he just wants to make you feel loved in the only way he knows how.  I don't know what your dad is thinking but how about this: Next time only eat half of the breakfast OR suggest to your dad. "Hey Dad, would you bring me home an Egg Mcmuffin?"  That way, your Dad feels needed and you get a breakfast that is under 300 calories. 

My parents feel like feeding me good (by good I mean bad) food is a way of showing love so I have lots of experience with this situation since I'm 15 years older than you:)

pizza isnt that bad calorie wise. You and your little bro should get those kits to make them at home together. I loved doing that when i was little and living at home. (not that you are little i was thinking more of your bro that needs to not be eating mcdonalds all the time ;) )

Pick something different/better/healthier from mcdonalds and tell your dad its your new thing you get. kids' meals have more reasonable portions.

I also think you need to talk to your Dad. I don't mean that you should attack him or be mean but do as some of the others suggested, tell him calmly one night (not just when he brought you food) that you are trying to lose weight and will he help you by exposing you to healthy food choices.

Do you know if the breakfast buffet he brings your bro to has fruit and maybe egg-beaters or things like that? If it does you might be able to go to the buffet and make some sensible choices, that way he doesn't have to make choices for you???

And have more confidence in yourself. You got all straight A's last year so you ARE SMART! You are a great young woman and have a lot to be proud of so chin up!

Talk to your father. Don't tell him you're trying to lose weight (this could back fire and have him all other you all the time, as I've seen in some other parents), just tell him that fast food hurts your stomach, or that greasy things make you feel ill. Ask if next time he can bring home some raw ingredients for omelets, and you can make them!

It'll be a family cooking event, and you can try new, fun recipes, that are fresh, healthy, and YUMMY.

Telling him the food hurts your stomach means what HE did by bringing it to you wasn't wrong, it just means that the food was bad. Next time he'll remember that those kinds of foods make you ill (something no parent wants), and he'll bring you something else.

:) AND it's not a lie either, because McD's does make you ill. So hope this helped! 

Oh, wow. You guys are really nice. Thank you all so much! That really did help me out.

:3 I am back, I walked for about an hour, which isn't that great but I will go back out later, I was getting cold. Ha.

I really appreciate your advice, everyone. I will see to it that I try to do the things you suggested. ^-^

I totally know where you are coming from!  My husband has a bad habit of doing the SAME thing almost every time I get my eating back on track.  I've come to realize that some families associate love with food.  My husband's family is the same way.  They feel that by feeding you they are expressing their love/making you feel better.  They aren't overly emotionally supportive, but, by God, they can feed you!!  With them, it's like food represents happy times when the family is all together, so, they bring food when you are sick, they bring food when someone dies, it's like they think food will fix everything!  AND, it's like an insult if you DON'T partake!!!  I've even noticed this weird behavior with our turtle (we have an aquatic turtle in the house).  When the turtle is not swimming around and being active, my husband feels like we aren't feeding him enough so he OVER FEEDS him and I have a lot of nasty soggy food to clean out of his aquarium later.  Even after LOTS of discussion and psychological breaking down of why he does it, he STILL occasionally brings me food I can't eat.  I've learned to accept it, eat a BITE or two, thank him, then make an excuse why I can't eat the rest ("save it for later", then throw it out when I take out the trash).  I tried the "sit down and talk to him" approach, but that was short-lived.  With some people, this is just a learned behavior from childhood that is very difficult to out grow.  All we can do is be patient, try to have "those talks" occasionally, and hope that SOMEDAY we get through to them!!!  Good luck! 

"Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a pauper"..

I thought this was kind of stupid at first, but then I realized there is food always being offered to us one way or another in our society ,well because  let's face it there is MORE than enough to go around for most us. So we are not aware of how much really comes to us half the time. It was really diligent of to know your intake ,I should pay attention, I try to eat strictly cereal & veggies,fruit  adn no meat without counting calories ,because I  want more. This isn't working for me because there is food constantly offered to us. I like it when is an obession you constantly have BE AWARE! My child os an avid eater & we are both 28bls overweight,we have no TV. So we are a little bit lacking in the activity dept.I think.Put food on top of that ,it's disater. If your excercising 3 to 4 x's a week it shouldn't be a problem ,right?

personally if someone bought me a treat that i didn't really want to eat or that i felt was too unhealthy for me to enjoy eating it, i'd eat a few bites and throw the rest away, or cut out a small portion and pack the rest in the fridge to have a few bites over the course of the week.  food doesn't always have to be an "all or nothing".

if it's something you don't even want to eat at all, (in this case i wouldn't touch fast food even if i was starving) then just tell him, "no thanks, i don't eat fast food. (its usually easy for me to avoid since i don't eat meat but then i'll also explain that stuff like fries upsets my stomach.) 

my grandma used to always buy chocolate milk for me a while back and i had to finally explain to her that i don't drink milk anymore.  she was very upset by it, muttering several times " you used to love this when you were little..."it took her awhile but she doesn't buy it anymore and i don't have to feel bad drinking something i don't want.  if you draw a line somewhere, people will adjust.  i'm sure in the long run it would have upset her more to learn i was distressed and feeling gross everytime i felt she was shoving the milk down my throat!

From another prospective.

Your dad only sees you every other weekend.  Breakfast for him is not a meal, it is a chance to sit down with his childran and learn about the life they lead when he is not alone.  Your dad loves you and is not trying to hurt your diet, he is trying to show you that he cares about you.

Go to the buffet with your dad and brother.  Load up on fruit and proteins.  And then talk.  Talk so much that you are not interested in eating, but the social concept of sharing a meal.

Believe me, sharing a meal with your dad is a big deal.  Don't make it harder for him than it already is. 

How about doing "the half diet" when your Dad wants to treat you? Eat just half of everthing then say, "You know what Dad, I'm just not that hungry," and throw the rest away. Also, drop a few more hints that you're trying to lose weight and trying to eat healthier. Hopefully he'll figure it out. 

Okay, tons more of very helpful stuff. Wow. ^-^

I took in most of the calories I was supposed to yesterday (supposed to have 1,850 yesterday I took in 1,822) and yesterday without the breakfast it would have been 1,092? So, I stopped freaking out about the HUGE breakfast. But I don't want to get 700 calories of my daily diet from McDonalds. Ha.

I agree about how my dad may just want to spend time with us. He takes my brother to the buffet and he sits me down, and we talk while I eat. Which is kinda awkward, but.. yah. Anyway, when it comes to talking to my family and friends and having to 'break the news' to them like, today he said "Do you like this better than what you'd normally have?" (I'd normally have nothing or a stupid poptart, which again, loose loose situations, I'd rather have like Special K..) but I kinda gave him a look like =/ and shrugged. I didn't answer him, I wanted to say noooooooo dad! but I wouldn't want him to feel like he did a bad thing getting me this, it wasn't bad that he wanted to do good, but McDonalds? =[

I think he got the idea that I didn't like it though, from the shrug and all... we'll find out in two weeks. Ha.

And, about dropping hints that I'm trying to loose weight, like, I eat everything really slow, when he buys things like pizza I only eat one or two pieces and I take the crust off, uhm, I ask him to get me a fruit and walnut salad instead of mcnuggets. And he'll say "do you want a milkshake?" and I'll be like "no." He doesn't take hints very well? Also, yesterday I kept asking my brother to come play outside with me, like badminton, and we walked up and down the driveway for an hour (we have an extremely long driveway), y'know stuff like that. Back when I was a little kid (when I was gaining all the weight) dude, I could eat a whole crap load of stuff, and I never went outside, he knows that, he should take the hint, I want to change. I don't know if I can 'tell' him without 'telling' him. o.o