oh roommates.....ranting

I love my friends very much, but as roommates, they frequently drive me up a wall. I think I clean the kitchen 3/4 of the time. They leave pots out overnight, pile up the sink, don't put away the clean dishes in the dishwasher, leave crumbs on the counter...it's disgusting really. I've tried to not do it to see if they got the point, but that never works very well. And the one always uses the george foreman, and doesn't clean it! one day my sandwich tasted like fish b/c she didn't clean it after making salmon. come on. I think I'm the only one who has ever dusted/swept. I'm not even a neat freak, just don't want to live like a barn animal. None of this bothers them.

And then them and their boyfriends. My sleep is interrupted 4/7 nights because these walls are literally paper thin, and even when they try to keep the sex noises low, I can still hear them. ew. Or they are fighting. And the one is here all the time. He eats more of our food than we do. I'm not paying for him anymore he doesn't contribute anything. so irritating.

Finally, the one just broke up with her bf, and they are not acting any differently. That's fine, just don't bother breaking up-or just get back together if you aren't going to make any effort whatsoever to be independent. Why do girls have such a problem being on their own? Its much easier to focus on your own personal goals, and you don't have half of the problems/grief. And the right one shouldn't bring much grief at all in my opinion. And I feel like a charity case. I feel like they all "feel bad" for me b/c I don't have a bf. I am picky and I don't care. I'm not going to waste my time with a doucher or someone I don't really like much. I don't feel sorry for myself, so why do you? Ok I feel better now after ranting :)

The only suggestion I can make is to have  "house meeting" and discuss everything. Makes rules that no one can get offended and you have to be polite.

With girls, it will be hard. Fights might happen..ganging up might happen..but after all is said an done..hopefully they get the picture and start cleaning or respecting you more.

Please don't hate me or get offended, but...

I've been the roommate who is semi-clean who has a clean freak roommate. I do not sweep or wash the floors. I have had a roommate bang on the wall between us because I was being too loud during sex.

Ahem. :) My point? When I first meet a new roommate, the first thing I say is: If I do something that you don't like or bothers you, or you want me to change something, tell me. No chicken **** little notes, talk to me, person to person. Notes annoy the hell out of me.

So the roommates who confronted me calmly about what they didn't like, I was not offended and was happy to negotiate with them. The roommates who just stomped around, whined behind my back, and would not even admit that there was a problem. My roommate now did not like how I put away the dishes--she organized them a certain way (bowls in one spot, cups in the other, etc.) and I did not know. She started getting totally ****, so I asked her if I did something wrong. She simply replied, "No," and b*tched about me behind my back to my other roommate. So, I had to get the info from my other roomie, and I put them back the way she wanted. Jesus, was that so hard?

... Mmkay, enough ranting from me. I think for your problem, a chore-wheel would be good. Ask each roomie what jobs they would prefer to do, or if they'd like to rotate, etc.

As for the boyfriend problems, I think you should start dividing the food cabinet into sections, one for each person. Sharing food usually leads to problems. And for the midnight sex, if they are claiming to "attempt to be quiet," there's not too much you can do but earplugs. That, or listen to your iPod while you sleep.