too old to be homesick?

Sooo, I'm on my third business trip within the past 4 months. These trips are 9 days long, so not too extensive...

Now, I am in TX and live in MD. I am 24 years old and feel I am entirely too old to be homesick... but I am. I miss my husband and our 3 doggies.

Isn't that sad? Being homesick at 24?!

ETA: I am sick and want to go home to my own bed. not to mention i have this sickening fear of flying and a ridiculous fear of contracting swine flu. so, as you can see, i'm just feeling plain out crappy.

If I was just taking business trips occasionally I'd be fine but I've been living overseas for the past 2+ years and I'm finally to the point where it's taking its toll on me. I haven't been homesick (asides from at Christmas) until now. I've also only been home once in that time. 

Original Post by alibsam:

If I was just taking business trips occasionally I'd be fine but I've been living overseas for the past 2+ years and I'm finally to the point where it's taking its toll on me. I haven't been homesick (asides from at Christmas) until now. I've also only been home once in that time. 

 yeah that's a totally different situation, alibsam, and I dont want this thread I started to seem offensive to anyone who has actually been away from home for extended periods of time, especially people in the military overseas, etc.

I'm just basically asking if it's "normal" to be homesick even though I'm only gone for 9 days at a time...

You should never grow out of loving your home life :)

Original Post by fatanr11:

 yeah that's a totally different situation, alibsam, and I dont want this thread I started to seem offensive to anyone who has actually been away from home for extended periods of time, especially people in the military overseas, etc.

I'm just basically asking if it's "normal" to be homesick even though I'm only gone for 9 days at a time...

I'm not in the military but whatever. And if you're only gone 9 days at a time, yeah, it doesn't seem normal to me, as was implied with my post and the first sentence. Wanting to be home and homesickness are two different things. 

Anyways, don't get so defensive. I wasn't trying to "derail" your thread. 

no i think it sounds pretty healthy - you dont outgrow loving your family.

Fatanr11: there is nothing wrong with that. you just miss your husband and doggies. pretty natural:) like WG said, " pretty healthy":))

I have been living overseas for 6 years and I haven't seen my family all that time but I am not homsick LOL  I believe it depends on the experience. 

Business trips suck.  I quit my last job because of the travel.  I don't know what circumstances you are dealing with, but I was in a strange city where I didn't know anyone, sleeping in noisy hotels, stressed with trying to figure out where things were, away from everyone I cared about.  Not at all the same as living in another country for a couple of years which I have also done.  After a while you find new friends and where you are becomes home. That was much more pleasant.  Business trips are more stress and loneliness than anything else.

So yeah, I understand how you are feeling.  Seems normal to me.

Of course, it's normal!  My husband is a consultant and travels every week from M-Th (he actually leaves on Sunday afternoons, and returns Thursday evenings).  During the week we keep in close contact, but it is not the same to being home.  We both really miss one another while he's away and DH goes through bouts of being terribly homesick, particularly on weeks that are rough on the work front, or if he is feeling under the weather.  He tells me he feels lonely a lot, too (I do as well, but at least I am home where things are familiar!) 

His workday is busy enough that it goes by without him noticing, but the hard thing is coming "home" to a hotel room where no one is waiting for you.  It is not easy living out of a hotel room for most of your week, feeling like you are missing out on your home life (especially if you have little ones!), not being able to sleep in your own bed and feel the warm of your SO next to you at the end of a (rough) work day. 

I completely understand how you are feeling, and sympathize.  It is absolutely normal to be homesick and miss the ones you love.   

I travel a lot more a few years ago than I do today...I used to live out of a suitcase 5 out of 7 days a week for 4 years in a row.  I traveled so much that when I returned home I was there long enough to wash my dirty clothes and repack the laundry back into the suitcase that sat next to the bed.  I often found calling home nightly helped break the missing home feelings I had.  The real fun was on Friday night when I got back the wife wanted to go out to dinner and all I wanted was to stay home and eat home cooked meals...I had enough eating out...I just wanted to be at home....she didnt understand.

Dave

*awaits the fight between fatanr11 and alibsam, sets odds at 2-1 in favor of alibsam* ;D

I spent an academic year working in New York State during the work week and then going back to my family in Massachusetts on the weekends (wife and two kids).  That was not fun, but I dealt with it.  Also had to take business trips on top of that, but those never lasted more than one or two nights.

But, somewhat fun, was the fact that my daughter's nine-year-old friend went home early this past weekend from my daughter's sleepover because she got homesick...

Worst case of homesickness I ever had was my first time away from home for a summer camp when I was a wee buck.

too old to be homesick is the mentality from years previous - when you where a child and you lived with your parents. i think i will always think both as a child and an adult around my parents. its weird. but now that you are an adult and have chosen your own family it takes on entirely different meaning. my girl just moved out last year and loves her independence but a few days ago she said i am coming over and hanging out i havent seen you in two weeks i miss my mommy. :D

Original Post by dnrothx:

*awaits the fight between fatanr11 and alibsam, sets odds at 2-1 in favor of alibsam* ;D

I wasn't trying to start a fight. haha I guess I just think there's a difference between true homesickness and occasionally traveling for business and wanting to be home. 

Original Post by alibsam:

Original Post by dnrothx:

*awaits the fight between fatanr11 and alibsam, sets odds at 2-1 in favor of alibsam* ;D

I wasn't trying to start a fight. haha I guess I just think there's a difference between true homesickness and occasionally traveling for business and wanting to be home. 

glad you are feeling better ali. thats got to be the worst part of being in another time zone on another continent - being sick with no family. i think it would for me anyways. and the knowing that the people i love are not just a few hours drive or a $200 plane trip away.

((ali))

I think it sounds like a compliment to your hubby and your dogs that you miss them.. they must be good to be around..

Original Post by cc31:

Of course, it's normal!  My husband is a consultant and travels every week from M-Th (he actually leaves on Sunday afternoons, and returns Thursday evenings).  During the week we keep in close contact, but it is not the same to being home.  We both really miss one another while he's away and DH goes through bouts of being terribly homesick, particularly on weeks that are rough on the work front, or if he is feeling under the weather.  He tells me he feels lonely a lot, too (I do as well, but at least I am home where things are familiar!) 

His workday is busy enough that it goes by without him noticing, but the hard thing is coming "home" to a hotel room where no one is waiting for you.  It is not easy living out of a hotel room for most of your week, feeling like you are missing out on your home life (especially if you have little ones!), not being able to sleep in your own bed and feel the warm of your SO next to you at the end of a (rough) work day. 

I completely understand how you are feeling, and sympathize.  It is absolutely normal to be homesick and miss the ones you love.   

 thanks CC31. that's refreshing to hear. I am sorry that your hubby has to travel so much.. I guess that only makes the time you two spend together even more special!

Maybe I don't know the "true" meaning of homesick... I am not able to differentiate b/w being homesick and wanting to go home (missing my family, etc). I didn't think there was a difference, but alibsam says there is.. whatever.

Maybe this time it's hitting me so hard b/c I am sick and just want to be home in my OWN bed, with my hub to take care of me :)

Original Post by crackster:

I think it sounds like a compliment to your hubby and your dogs that you miss them.. they must be good to be around..

 thanks crackster. i guess it is a compliment to him :)

Everybody is different.

There is never a right or wrong when it comes to our feelings.

Perhaps you should try calling your loved ones more often when you are away or bringing a few pictures or a blanket from home.