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The Only Noticeable Change in my Physical Appearance is my...

... Lower abdominal region. Strictly speaking, my stomach and what people refer to as "love handles". I need some advice on this as it's REALLY playing with my head and I fear gaining weight even more now. No matter what, the only real fat I see gaining is going pretty much straight to those areas. It's gotten so bad that I don't want to wear my regular shirts as my stomach almost sticks out too much.

It could be my diet, see, I was considered severely underweight. I was 6'2 and around 125 when I started "recovery". I didn't want to go through with it at first. I wanted to gain the weight as quick as possible so I won't have to deal with this anymore. I think that's the problem - Everyday that I decided would be a "weight-gain" day, I would just eat upwards of 6000+ calories. I would mostly just fall asleep with a stomach full of food.

Now, I decided I would gain some more weight yesterday so I went on eating anything I wanted. I ended up throwing up most of what I ate. I waited a while before I went to sleep and I didn't really notice a change in my figure. Mind you, I was just starring at my body the whole day because of it. Now, I just ate around 2000+ calories in one sitting. I threw up about half an hour ago. At this moment I'm just getting slowly frustrated because I don't know what to do. Should I eat because I just threw up and I need to gain weight? Or do I just let myself be and go to sleep? I didn't throw up all my food. I'm guessing around 2/3rds or maybe less of it.

I need help with this. Please.

QUICK note: I've gained a few pounds since then. I'm around 140-145 with my pants, shirt and shoe on so I'm guessing I'm around 137-9 now.

You're overdoing it a little.   Assuming you're a reasonably active male you need about 3000-4000 cals a day to steadily gain weight.   And you need good food, well-spaced out during the day in a series of meals and snacks, with a good mix of energy-dense, nutrition-dense foods so that you're getting the least bulk for the most calories.  To convert this extra energy to muscle bulk, the recommendation is to do some strengthening/resistance exercises at the same time.  This all takes some thought and planning....

When someone panics about losing weight they often crash diet, eating next to nothing and making themselves ill.  You're panicking about gaining weight, eating uncontrollably, 'crash gaining' (if you will) and making yourself ill in a different way.  Anyone eating 2000 cals at one sitting risks being sick.  If your food choices are poor (too much salt/sugar etc), you'll see fluid retention (not fat) on your hips and stomach.   Aim to gain 1 or 2lbs a week maximum.... rushing acheives nothing.

So please take a deep breath, stop panicking and start thinking.  Call it a day for tonight, don't eat any more, have a cup of tea to help your digestion, relax.  Tomorrow is a new day and a chance to do things differently.

Take the CC food log and work out calmly, in advance what you're going to have for breakfast, lunch, supper and what will make up the snacks in between.  This process will restore your feeling of control.   Make it good, natural wholefoods as far as you're able.  They'll be more satisfying to eat and will lift your mood.  Choose plenty of low-bulk, high-energy foods e.g. oils/fats, oily fish, nuts/seeds, nut butters, dried fruit, avocados, red meats...  plus pasta, rice, bread, potatoes....  so that your meals are not enormous in size but are calorie-rich.   Work out some light strengthening exercises you could do .... say twenty minutes of swinging light weights around, doing some push-ups/sit-ups.  Make sure you're getting about 2 litres of water over the course of the day since this will help your digestion work best and it will eliminate the 'puffiness' of fluid retention.

Good luck