Am I the only one with this problem?

I don't know why, but it seems my parents main goal these days is to make me unhealthy.

I've told them I'm trying to eat healthy, but they still refuse to keep fruit and low calorie snacks in the house, and choose to instead bring home a large bag of chips everydays.  It got to the point where I asked fro fruit for my birthday (and my grandfather actually gave me a giant basket of fruit...my favorite present).

And meals.  That's the worst.  When left on my own, I can make myself a healthy and filling meal, but when my dad's home, he refuses to let me cook for myself.  I told him I wanted soup and a salad.  He's making me a hamburger.  I added the calories already...500 for a hamburger on a bun.  He won't let me eat it without a bun.

500 calories won't ruin my day, but it's not filling enough.  I'm going to end up hungry because of this and binge, but he won't listen.

Sorry for the rant...anyone else want to vent a little?

i dont need to vent but just say im sorry your parents do that. my parents also want me to eat more but thats because im in ED recovery. Are you recoverying from an ed? whats their reasoning for why they dont want to eat healthy?

my gosh,  i know exactly what you mean. my mom is telling me i have her support, she's overweight too, lets work together.. but then literally everyday it's either the cabinet is stocked up with something like a years supply of chocolate/vanilla pudding for my little brother. or my little brother wants a burger so he comes back with a big mac, or he wants a donut, and i feel like an animal because it smells so strong. or i'll tell her i'm trying not to eat processed foods which includess veggie meats, but she'll tell me i'm not getting enough protein and buy veggie corn dogs.. and the thought is nice, but damn i'm totally fine eating what i am eating. or sometimes resistance is difficult when theres 3 poppy seed bundt cakes in the kitchen, and i ask her why she bought them and she'll say, "i know, i know, but they were on sale".

i know it seems like im asking everyone to turn their life upside down for healthy eating but my dads overweight too and everyones trying to get in shape.. it's just a little like come on.  and then simple things, like can you buy skimmed milk, can you buy raisin bran, can you buy blahblah, but nah, life time supply of pudding and bundt cake.

flightotc, ask your parents for a bit of money so you can buy your own healthy treats. It will be good to only buy a few pieces of fruit, for instance, because it will help with portion control and they will be super fresh. :) Since you`re not consuming what they buy, they should have no trouble 'reinvesting' that amount.

The key to a healthy relationship with your parents is COMPROMISE. Tell your dad that if he won`t let you eat the burger without a bun, he has to let you cook your own buns. There are a ton of very easy bread recipes, some are very fun, like pitas, just google it; you can make a bunch of them in advance. Use only whole grain flour and they`ll be very healthy. You shouldn`t be scared of bread, cereal is extremely good for you, even if it`s calorie dense. It`s the refined, processed white flour you should be worried about as it offers no nutrition, and you`re a growing teenager, I assume. If you make this point to your dad he will hopefully see how mature and well-informed you are being and agree to meet you half way there. ;)

samgonzo, at first when I started eating healthy, my parents were concerned as well. I think with how common EDs are these days, it`s only natural, I would be scared too if my child radically changed overnight. And then there is the fact that now they have a full-time reminder of how unhealthy their own habits are, thus more guilt and them feeling judged and criticized for their choices more often, even if it is not the case.

babibu, I am sorry, but when you are living under someone`s roof, you have no choice but to live with all their habits, such as sleeping, bathroom and TV schedules, why would food be any different? A piece of advice would be to divide the kitchen storage among you, so you get your healthy cupboard/shelf and they get theirs; when you need a snack, simply disregard the 'unhealthy' region of the kitchen, like it doesn`t even exist.

Your little brother is still growing, so it`s okay if he gets such a treat once in a while; your parents probably know better but don`t have enough will power to turn it around at this time, and you should respect the fact that they are only human, and they are probably working hard and have enough to be concerned about anyway.

The real issue here is that them having junk in the house shouldn`t be triggering these feelings in you, especially if you are leading a healthy life and are satisfied with your energy level and personal choices.

Wow...thanks for all the advice, guys!

I've never had an eating disorder, but my parents do sometimes get scared that I'm developing one.  They only ever see me eating incredibly small portions of their high calorie meals, but never seem to be around when I'm stuffing my face with fruit and veggies (seriously, I just sit and eat frozen grapes for hours...delicous.)

And they are getting the hang of it, it's just some days are worse than others...yesterday was a bad day, but hopefully today will be good.

:)