opinions please!

Hello, i am 26 weeks pregnant with my second and am delighted that we are having another baby. My son just turned three yesterday! Anyways my husband has been suffering with a sore neck and headaches due to some pinched nerves in his neck and hasn't been able to do much around the house. Normally that doesn't bother me b/c i do everything anyways ( women in my family are a little ocd) The problem is that the baby's room is packed full of crap that needs to be moved and cleaned etc... I would do it all but i am almost 7 months and can't move bed frames and dressers lol. I talked to my husband and he said that the baby will sleep in our room til around 6 months of age and than he will get the room ready. I think it should be done b/f the baby comes.

What do you think?

Thanks:)

I was using one of our rooms as storage, but intended to move my son into that room so his baby sister could have his old room.  I cleaned out all the closets and made the transition prior to giving birth, maybe when I was around 8 months or so?  But I had my husband do all the heavy lifting and moving furniture.  I can see why your husband wants to wait because it's really not a big deal to get the room cleaned up if the baby's not even going to be in it for a while.  It'll give him a chance to heal, too.  But, I'm like you.  I like everything done in advance if possible.  I'm a little ocd, too!

Something to consider...will you be doing everything in your room with the baby?  Our daughter is almost 4 months, and we put her in her own room for the first time last night.  However, I've been putting her down to nap in her own room since she was a few weeks old.  I also do most of her diaper changes and clothes changes in her room as well.  Even if your baby is going to primarily sleep in your room, where are you keeping her clothes and such?  I wanted my baby's room set up prior to delivery because I already had an insane amount of clothes for her and they needed to be put away.  Her closet is jam packed and is practically busting at the seams.  I also had about 10 packages of diapers that I'd been buying before she was born.  If you don't want all that stuff in your room, I'd suggest at least cleaning out your baby's closet before you deliver.  The furniture can probably wait until your husband is willing to move it, but I'd at least get started.  Just my $0.02!

I didn't put either of my girls down for the night anywhere but in my room for the first year of their lives, so I wouldn't be in any rush to get the room set up. 

Also, it seems like you husband is in pain and not in much better shape to be moving things than you are. 

If it's stressing you out, could you ask your brother/father/in-law-of-some-variety to come over and help you with the heavy lifting?  You could then manage the rest of the cleaning, right?

I'm with Cecily on this one. My son slept in our room at night until he was 6 weeks old but we put him down for naps in his own room. We did all dressing and diaper changes in his room as well. We have a fairly small living room and it doesn't have much floor space so we also spend a lot of my son's playtime on his bedroom floor.

I panicked when our son's room wasn't ready 3 days before my scheduled c-section. I made my dad come over and help my husband move things around. Do you have some relatives or friends that would be willing to lend a hand? I understand that this might dent your husband's ego (it did mine!) but is it possible to explain to him that you're just feeling unprepared and the whole "nesting" thing may be starting to kick in? Even if it's not nesting, it sure is a good excuse if you really want it done!

Your husband said that the baby would sleep in your room until 6 months old but I'm curious if that was a mutual decision or if he's guessing that's how long it will take him to recover and get the room ready.

i'm sorry that your husband is down & out during a time when you physically need his help the most. i'm sure that's stressing you both out. poor guy. however, i agree that you should talk to another male relative/friend to see if they can help you out with the heavy lifting. i know you don't want to hurt your hubby's feelings, but i'm sure you know from experience that having an infant around doesn't leave much time for cleaning, or doing much of anything. especially since you'll be waking up at all hours of the night to feed, change, comfort, etc. so during the day when the baby is sleeping, you're going to be so tired. add a 3 year old to that, and the new baby's room might never get done. i don't think it's anything to panic about, and like the others said (and your hubby said) you'll have the baby in your room for the first few months, but it will be a much easier transition for you if you don't have to worry about the baby's room not being set up, and trying to make time to get it done once he/she is already there.

good luck and congratulations!

Thanks ladies, i guess being pregnant makes me a little 'crazy' sometimes. I will try not to worry about such silly things