Opinions Please

So this might make me seem like I'm a bit dramatic and who knows I might have a flare but  though i think its dramatic in a way I think/hope it will get me back on track.

I was thinking about quitting my job. I've been there for a year and have been unhappy and I think its getting to me. On top of this  my dad and brother passed away last year and I haven't really dealt with it. Another thing is I havent gotten over my ex...on top of this ive gained about 50 pounds since last year...and ive just felt stretched for a while now and i think the stress is getting to me.

I'd like to quit my job, i do have enough money to take a couple months off...im not sure if thats long enough, if nothing else it'll get me in the right direction as long as i take the time and use it productively...which i HAVE to... plus i was wanting to take a vacation and who knows it could last a bit longer than one week i was orginally planning...

Sorry if this seems like a journal entery rather than a post but i wanted opinions and i dont get too much traffic through my blogs...I'd like your opinions and/or suggestions. I appreciate it.

 

Start with asking for a leave of absence for that time frame. Then if you don't find something at the end of the absence that will make you happier you'll have a way to support yourself. If you just quit your job and wind up stressing because it's harder than you thought to find a new job you won't be doing yourself any good in the end.

Being up happy at work will certainly cause a lot of problems. Examine what it is your really enjoy doing then try to find something that coincides with that to support yourself.

I'm sorry to hear of the deaths in your family! Good luck to you!!!

If you have enough money to do so, then do it. I was feeling similarly at the beginning of the year and I decided to take it easier; it worked. Right now, I even have time to work out, I feel better about myself, and I know I can start things over without being overwhelmed. If you think it would help, then it probably will.

it does sound like a break would do you good, give you a chance to... i dunno, reconnect with yourself?

It would be best if you either lined up a new job (but told them you couldn't start for a month or 2) or took a leave from this one if you think you'd ever want to go back... it's hard to have a stress-free break when you're worried about money, even in that "eventually this is going to be an issue" way.

Those are huge life events and situations happening in a short time frame.  If I were in a similar situation, I would begin with taking some personal time or a leave of absence.  Also, if your health insurance includes mental health benefits, perhaps you could look into speaking with someone who can help you cope.  I'm sorry for your losses and wish you well.  It's certainly a lot of strain on a person's spirit and the stress carries over into all other aspects of our lives.  Any one of the events/situations you write about would be stressful even in the most ideal circumstance.  Take heart and allow yourself time to heal.  A vacation would be a good start!  

shallot, I empathise! I went through a lot of trauma in a short period of time. I had a child to care for and made a decision to leave my job in order to focus on our health.

it was the right move for us, for me. I am still in the middle of transitioning but I feel very relaxed and have found out so much about myself, who I am and the general direction in which I'm headed. :  ) made some wonderful friends too along the way!

All the cautions above are great advise...about health insurance and looking into therapy for sound mental health; making sure to PLAN and think things through carefully before making a break. this isn't a vacation, really...you may need to rest.

Balance is key. If you have enough for a few months...expect it to go more quickly than you think.

When my partner died suddenly from a heart attack, a friend of mine who'd also lost her partner told me that out of misery, if you let yourself, life can become unexpectedly beautiful. After 3 years of grieving, I understand what she meant. Give yourself time to heal and in the meantime, don't leave yourself w/o options! Focus on finding balance and good luck!

Don't worry about using this site for that type of question, you need empathy! You've been through so much lately, you should be taking time for yourself. That being said, do you have insurance at work? You should try and get a doctor's paper to take a paid leave of absence. I know that my job would provide that and at least, you would not have to worry one bit about $. Good luck on your journey! I sure wish you find something good in life!!!