Do other people feel this way?

So this might be out of line and I am sure that people might jump on my back but I am curious if anyone else feels the way that I do.

I find myself being jealous of people (on the site or just in life) that are in better shape, thinner than me or workout maybe more than me.  Do other people feel this way?  I feel like I want to be the best, maybe its my competitive nature.  I don't know.  But sometimes I feel inadequate and jealous and almost upset or hurt.

Do other people feel this way?

Interesting post.

I feel the opposite.  I commend the big losers, the newbies the veterans. etc.

Thus giving me encouragement to carry on.

i can share my experience.

shill is probly the most devoted person i know when it comes to both her diet and her activity regimen.  she's given me a lot of inspiration and encouragement to improve what i do, not so much because i want to out-do her, but because i know she's smart about it and i can benefit from those observations :)

I am really in awe of the people that lose a lot (ie. the big losers).  Its amazing to me to loose that amount of weight.  I have never had that battle and it seems like a tough one, so its probably not those people that I feel jealous of so much, since our stories are so different.  I think its more the veterans that have more similar stats to me. 

I love this site and it has amazed me how much I really know about fitness and healthy eating.

I definitely get encouragement from the site, but I think its not so much encouragement but more the fact that I want others to be proud of me and maybe I secretly want others to be jealous of me?  Is that bad?

I know that if I work hard for my goals that I feel proud of myself also.

I too value shills advice.  she is very dedicated for sure and its almost people like her, who are so committed and have similar stats to me that I feel this feeling about.  This by no means has any bearing on how I feel about her as person.  Because I do like her and do value her opinion.  It is people like her that definitely push me to do that extra 20 minutes on the treadmill.  So thanks to her for that!!!

yeah, i get jealous all the time. I work out I eat well, but there will always be people who either do more or make themselves sound as though they do more. I think the better we feel about ourselves though will help us not care so much about others, and the comparisons will cease. I think at least. Who knows?

I do not feel that way. I admire people who do their best, certainly, and who are dedicated about going to the gym, but jealous? No! I'd rather be doing something else, sometimes almost anything else, than spending time in a gym!!

melika80 - I really like what you wrote.  I guess there will always be those people that are just one step ahead of us.

I am proud of myself and I am confident about my body; how it looks and what it can do.

athena_tavener - To your point, I also have a million things that I would love to be doing besides going to the gym.  Same thing can be said for eating.  But I guess I have learned that these are things that I must do to have the life and body that I want for me.

Guess I just want to be seen as one of those people that encourages and motivates others maybe.  Maybe that is what I am jealous of. 

DCgirl, you encourage and motivate me! I love you journal and everytime I see your default picture, I want to put on my running shoes and get out there! =)

dcgirl, I think anyone who reads what you do and eat can see that you are doing a great job!! Surely you are encouraging and motivating, so I don't think you have anything to be jealous of!

hmm.  maybe I did not know that people actually read my journal or look at my profile.  maybe thats it.  hearing you guys say that really made me feel better.  Guess maybe I just need to feedback or something.  thanks guys.

At times I must say I do get upset, It's not that i want them to do bad its just I wish I had that motivation that they do like I see some of these before an after pix an im like OMG, if they could do it so can I. Plus theres always these ppl you see that will pig out alllll day eating all this unhealthy food and they are in good shape, then theres ppl like me that can eat a french fry an gain weight.

I definitely feel you erica200.  I feel like I have to watch every little thing that I eat and if I don't I definitely feel guilty for not watching.

ok. i looked at your pics and now *i* am jealous of *your* abs. :) i want my 30-something abs back! (almost there)!

i think its normal to compare yourself to others, especially if you are undergoing physical transformation from a before to an after. you look great. no worries. :)

Funny, I too feel the same about others. You know the saying "There will always be someone smarter, prettier or thinner than you.", it's true and you will never be able to out-do everyone. DC, I am just as inspired or jealous (not sure) of your transformation. Goes to show that you don't always see yourself as others do. I feel like if I am not the most fit, thinnest or whatever; that I am a failure sometimes. It's my worst flaw; being too hard on myself.

shill - thanks for the comment on this forum.  Makes me feel good and definitely keeps me motivated that the actions that I have affect others, even those that I admire.  thanks for being a great encouragement.