I get out of breathe just walking upstairs to my bedroom, I can't run after my 6 year old when she wants to play...and I don't want to go to amusement parks because I'm afraid I won't "fit" when they close the locking bar....
BUT-does anyone else experience this?? I am honestly surprised when I see myself in mirrors, because I just don't "feel" like I'm that big....if there were no mirrors, I swear, I could con myself into believing I'm a normal weight...
Glad to see you back we were getting worried about you!
1 lb lost = 7 lbs pressure off knees...
My first knee surgery was when I was thin. My second was after I had gained around 100 lbs. Both knees, while functional for walking, make a lot of noise and are so stiff when getting up in the morning, it's really hard to get down the stairs.
This really brings it home to me how much my weight is affecting my health. My friend said the other day when we were talking about our weight: "I used to look 'hot'. I want to look 'hot' again!" and I said "Me too!"
It's not about looking hot for other people--it's about looking hot to me. And when I lost weight before, I did feel like I could fly. My boyfriend asked me, "So, if you have lost weight before, what were you doing then that is different than what you are doing now? How is your thinking different?" He is very supportive of my efforts, and this lead to some very insightful conversations between us. My ex actually told me he didn't "do" fat chicks, and I was furious. He's my ex. The difference between that relationship and this one is day and night. But what I really must think about is that nobody else, through what they did or said, forced food down my throat. I did that to myself, and it is up to me to change both my thinking and actions so that I can see what I want to see on the outside of me when I look in the mirror.
One of the things we talked about was that when I quit drinking (a choice I made) I chose to avoid that substance. But how can I avoid food completely, which I need to survive? This is where learning which foods will touch off the addictive cravings, which types of substances are most harmful to me, which eating habits and scenarios are harmful to my goal, which type of thinking is going to sabotage my desire to be "hot" in my own eyes, will make this possible for me to achieve. Anytime I say "I can't do that thing because of some outside influence prevents me" I stop taking responsibility for whether I achieve my goal or don't.
Reading everyone else's responses here is helping me to consciously think about my own habits, and I am grateful for your willingness to share both your pain and your strength with me.
I am new to this...not dieting in general...but to this forum. I hope it helps. Keeping track before did help and setting goal helps me too stay on track. I have lost 20 lbs but have stalled out only because of me...In the end it is all because of me Right...Ok so I have Bon Jovi concert in Phx in Feb...I want to sit comfortable on the plane...So here goes the next 2.5 months... I am after it with abandon...
I dont know if you were wantine specific ansewrs. I have developed sleep apnea because I have become overweight. I didn't get it unitl I was almost 100 pounds overwieght. I am 41 years old, I am so embarrased about the machine. My children have been good sports about it. They havent made fun of me. The doctor says it will greatly improve or may even go away if I lose weight. So I have set my goal to lose the weight.
Hey everyone. I was reading through a lot of the older posts on this thread and it just absolutely amazes me to hear so many people from so many walks of life speaking my thoughts. I'm 39 (next week) and my weight has continued to climb over the past 8 years. I was never thin but I was never terribly obese either until then. I moved from one city to another and didn't know anyone but my husband. That combined with going from an active lifestyle to a total couch potatoe managed to shoot my weight up 70lbs in 8 months. I hovered there for about 7 yearts but now I find my weight slowly creeping up and I've recently found myself at a totally depressing all time high of 292lbs!
Like everyone else seems to be, I'm suffering the common problems: my knees are hurting, I've got horrible sleep apnea, no energy, my kids are paying the price because I never had the energy to play with them and I never want to leave the house because I feel so horrible about myself. I look in the mirror and I STILL don't see what everyone else does. Its not until I see a picture of myself that I want to cry, which of course means from a photographic stand point, my family has existed without me for most of my children's lives!
I've come here before and lost 25lbs in three months but motivation is a serious problem for me. I fall off the wagon....and roll down the hill....and across the parking lot....lol and about as far from that stupid wagon as I can get! It's been about 18 months and I'm determined that I'm going to turn this around before it takes me from my girls permanantly.
My husband purchased a Curves membership for me as a Christmas gift (at my request!) and I'm trying to make a go of that as well. Here's hoping I can hold out long enough to really feel a difference this time! I'm hoping that noticing a change in my life will be enough of a motivation to keep me going.
So I didn't mean to write this much but I'm afraid you'll learn to skim my long winded messages before long. I look forward to reading your posts in the future.
1 lb lost = 7 lbs pressure off knees...
Thank you Briight for posting this info. - I had knee surgery this summer and relate to the knee pain. But now you got me thinking that since I've already lost 20 pounds thats 140 pound of pressure off my knees - wow now there's some motivation!
After reading through about 3 of the posts, I realized I am in the right place. I could identify with each entry. I am 200 pounds overweight; I have been at least 100 pds overweight for all of my adult life. I will be 50 this year and I have got to make a real change or it's going to get worse. I am tired of pretending to change and joining this forum is part of my process to face all the truths about my weight problems.
1lb lost = 1lb of pressure off my knees.....holy crap! I read that yesterday but I just realized if that's even partially true, I'm carrying around nearly 1400lbs of pressure on my knees! No wonder they hurt! I tried the squat machine at the gym today, which I had been avoiding thinking it would hurt my knees....I'm not sure of it's actualy name but when I finally got it right, with a little help, it actually didn't hurt my knees at all....but MAN is my tushy sore!!
I total understand this I use to be very active but i am afraid of what people would say if I did try to do some activities like skiing or even walking the streets of our small community makes me feel like people are thinking oh my god get a grip lady your fat. I just dont want to think about it
You know control, I'm glad you said that because I just need to vent about something that really ticks me off! Why is it...that it's nearly impossible to find good, comfortable workout clothes in larger sizes?! Do they assume if we're fat we should just give up and stay home?! It seems to me if you're only going to the gym because you look good in the workout clothes, then you have more serious issues than your weight!
There are a couple things recently that have really bothered me, that in part helped me to come to the conclusion that it was time to slim-down.
1) Toronto ticket booths. They make you go through this narrow (to my standards) ticket-arm, and I couldn't get through it. I had to go through a handi-capped gate. We got to another platform, and the gate was closed - my friends were telling me to just "go sideways" through the normal ticket-arms and I was too terrified to do it.
2) PLANE SEATS. Good lord. I've lucked out the last 2 times I've flown, as I sit at the back near the window and get my tickets late so I can see where the empty spots are - I've been able to keep the seat-arm up. If I had to keep it down, I would be immensely uncomfortable for the duration of the flight. It's do-able, but I CAN get through it. I'd rather not though.
3) Clothes, obviously. I'm already so picky about how clothes fit, it would be beneficial to be able to look EVERYWHERE. Although, this will be the one down side of weight loss -- the amount of money I'll be spending on clothes! Augh, the pain of being a girl!
OMG I hate those turnstile things! They were obviously invented by a skinny person!
Look at the bright side, you'll get a whole new wardrobe and it's extremely hard to find really fashionable clothes in large sizes. Again, it's almost like they think if we're that overweight, then we don't deserve to look good!
Stick with it girl, you'll get there!
I organize illegal dump cleanups for a living. I can't climb up and down the hill with my volunteers more than 2 or 3 times and I'm so out of breath I can't talk when I do it. My back hurts so bad after filling a couple of bags I have to stop and I can't manage to get myself and a loaded bag up the hill side at the same time. I can't stand on the hillside without immense pain in my calves and ankles. So I end up just standing at the top wishing I could be working alongside them. One of my younger volunteers asked me why I wasn't helping once. I had to say it was because I couldn't do that plus make sure they had everything they needed. I just didn't have the stamina. And some of my volunteers are much, much older than me and they never stop going.
This is a big part of what has inspired me. That and the fact that I'm 33 and on a zillion medications, including for high blood pressure and cholesterol. My dad died of heart disease at 53 and my mom's back gave out from her extra weight and manual labor jobs and she's now on disability after multiple surgeries. At the age of 55 she can't work anymore. Every one of her siblings has had back problems and at least two have also had back surgery. I don't want that for myself. I've got kids who are picking up my bad habits and consequently starting to bulk up. I don't want this life for them. I love outdoor activities but I can't climb a hill to save my life. Turns out I have to climb a hill to save my life. Ironic. I'm doing this, now.
Oh yeah, and I want to look hot too! And buy cute, overpriced clothes at the mall. All that stuff the skinnies take for granted.
I completely understand the not "feeling" that big. I have 5 children at home and am a stay at home mom. I get out of breath walking upstairs to bring up their laundry, so most of the time it sits on the couch until I have enough motivation to go up the steps. When I look in the mirror I know I'm overweight, but to me, it doesn't look like I'm "that" big. I was watching the biggest loser the other night with the few men over 500 pounds and was like..."at what point does someone realize that it's too much?" I'm at that point. I can still chase after my kids...but not for very long! I won't ride amusement park rides or get into a bathing suit and go down the slides. Today is my first step forward with weight loss. This website is an immense help! My fiancee' is behind me 100% the problem is that he's an over the road construction worker and is usually gone for 2 or 3 days at a time, which leaves me on my own. My good friend is also trying to lose weight and we talk all the time to keep eachother motivated, but she has a child and with us having 5 I can't just get away and head to the gym. So we bought a weight bench, a stair stepper and a few cardio video workouts. I've "dieted" before to no success, this time it will work! My biggest thing was removing the junk food. It's hard because I have to send school snacks with 4 of my kids each day and for the most part they get healthy snacks....but nothing is healthy when you're at home and the baby is napping and you sit and eat and eat and eat. I know it's out of boredom....it's just a matter of entertaining myself when I don't have to entertain the kids.
Being 100+ lbs overweight affects my activity level. I have a 7 year old girl + a 2 and half your old boy, and I cannot run around and be active with them...crawling on the floor, giving piggy back rides, racing along beside them at the park, etc... how sad for me, how sad for them.
Recently I lost 37 lbs! and before I lost this weight I used to look at all the ugly fat & flub all over my body! My legs look like lumps of cottage cheese from the knees up and ankles? What are those...ladies & gents...I have CANKLES! No cute capri's for me in the summer :( BUT..before I actually lost weight...I thought NO WAY girl can you even lose enough to make your body different or NOT ugly...even losing weight will still leave you with hanging skin, etc.... BUT..I actually do see a difference! Even the smallest difference sends my spirit soaring and I have been known to do the happy dance in the shower after weighing in and seeing a loss COMPLETELY NAKED! wow! That for me is a milestone!
I still have 133 lbs to lose! BUT...I KNOW now I can do it! and while I can't run after my kids right now, and don't feel comfortable yet to have sex with the lights on, I know that some day I will! A someday that is coming... :)
HUGS to you all!
I can totally relate to what you are going through. Everyday when I get ready for school, I always avoid looking at myself in the mirror but on occassion when i do look at myself in the mirror, I just want to break down and cry.
I am not a very obese person but I'm not exactly average sized either. When I go to school or any other public place, I don't feel like a really overweight person until I catch someone starring at me. I am so self-conscious about my weight, I just hate the way I look and I'm determined to change it. I know I have to start loving myself and looking at myself in a positive way. I know I have to start taking care of my body and that is the reason why I want to lose the weight the most. I'm tired of crying and not doing anything about it. I want to be able to go out with friends without feeling like the big fat elephant in the room.
One good thing about me doing this now is that I'm young so it'll be a whole lot easier than if i was a 40 yr old. But hopefully by sometime next yr. I can go out with my friends without feeling embarrassed about my weight, not have to constantly worry about diabetis and other health risks, and I can look in the mirror without crying.
I seem to have this disillusion with my weight as well. I mean I know I'm big, but when I look in a mirror, my reflection in the car or in a store window I always go...."holy cow, I don't look like that"! Then I tend to start calling myself names all day long. It even transfers over to my dreams, I am never overweight in my dreams, ever! I'm still my 105 pound self that I have haven't been since I was 17. As far as it taking a toll on my body...well lest see shopping makes me so in pain. If I try to spend a day shopping I am "treated" to pain in my feet, knees and lower back. Being over weight has affected my life so much. I started getting in touch will lost friends in the past few months on facebook, but I refuse to go out and meet up with them. I don't want more people to see me looking like this. I also refuse to get married or have kids being at this weight. I know that has to put a great deal of stress on my boyfriend of 7 years. He loves me for me and tells me I'm beautiful every day. But I cannot help it!
I've joined this site after buying the health & fitness issue of "All You" and read the article about how to lose weight for free..Ha! So now to answer the question, I'm 268 lbs. How does this affect me? Definitely a lack of confidence is felt. I have failed in health and therefore can't see any of my accomplishments outside this realm. I shy away from people, relationships, and opportunities. I haven't been able to get pregnant since we've been married (3yrs) because the weight gain has caused irregular cycles and infertility. This thought leads me to fear that I could lose my husband. I've gained 70 lbs. in the 6 years I've known him and I'm a total brute at that. Why would he stay with me when he could find a successful, kind, fertile Myrtle?? I also don't "feel" that I'm that big..people always tell me I "carry it well". What does that mean?? I'm still OVERWEIGHT & UNHEALTHY! I don't care how I carry it..hearing that just helps me to feel comfortable when I absolutely should not. My husband is just beginning to diet because he has developed type 2 diabetes. I should be the one with diabetes! I have to be more unhealthy that he is. I'm 120 lbs overweight! I'm 25 and I've been dieting since I was twelve years old! I'm the fat sister, fat aunt, fat cousin, fat daughter, fat friend, fat student, fat employee, etc. So on top of being physically unhealthy, I believe I've come up with more than enough reasons to lose weight. I'm hoping CC can help me in that goal, and that I can make some friends here, too...perhaps I should have posted this under RANT...
clementine, First and foremost you have to come to a point and forgive yourself for getting to that weight. Second you must love yourself at all cost or you would not even be trying to lose weight. Third it is not dieting anymore it is changing the way you view and eat food, yes a lifestyle change, it reaaly is different. Food is meant to provide energy for the most part and some enjoyment. The problem with most overweight people mysself included we eat for only enjoymeny and never for energy. So we don't get the proper nutrients we need or way too many of them. There is a possibility you are healthy with alot of stored up fat or energy due to eating the right foods. If that is the case you need to eat less if it is not you need to switch your "diet" which refers to what you eat. What works for most is every meal some protein some carbs and some veges. The carbs are best complex. One serving protein, one or two carbs. and two veges. every four hours with two snacks of say a fruit one and a yogurt two. I fyou like these choices. It will fill all the hours of your waking day if you spread it out. Two hours after ameal for a snack and one to two after that for the next meal. Once a week have a cheat day of one to two small meals of your favorites to avoid binges through the week and give you something to look forward to, optional. I have lost over one hundred pounds on this plan in a year. And maintained for another now I am losing againg, 20 pounds in the last two months, ten pounds a month. The last thing is exercise, walking is the best. I started at three minutes everyday six days a week and worked up. Now i can do 90 minutes at a time if I choose I usuaaly only do 60 and 30 minutes of lifting. so be consistent and most of all when you fall and you will get back up quick and keep going as if nothjing happened. Good luck if you choose my plan and God bless.
The odd thing is, when I dream, and I see me in the dream, I am still my fit self, half of the weight I have become. I avoid ever looking in a full length mirror, especially in the all together, because it makes me feel grotesque. Given this, I still did nothing more then avoid the mirror for the past ten years. I finally came to the realization that I must be honest with myself, and face what I have become. I am only 5 or 6 days into the decision of changing my diet, but everything has a beginning. I have chosen to take the first step, albeit a baby step, but the important thing is starting the journey. One foot in front of the other, slow and steady, and I'll get there, as will you once you have made the decision to be honest with yourself, to forgive yourself, and to make the necessary changes.