Overweight my whole life, you?

I wanted to start a thread about all of the negative effects that being overweight causes. The reason being is that there are so many benefits to finally getting fit--more than you really notice. I think those who have been the fat kid and the fat guy their whole life have the most benefits to reap. I'll start it off. Please add to it. It is really inspirational and helps you come to terms with your true feelings.

1) Always adjusting clothing because it feels tight

2) Always looking in window reflections to see if I "look fat"

3) Looking at myself in the mirror naked and getting depressed about my belly

4) Feeling myself jiggle

5) Feeling that people are thinking that I'm fat

6) Feeling that I am having a harder time in life because of my weight

7) Not being able to wear quality cotton shirts because the fabric is too thin and shows my fat body

8) Having to wear undershirts all the time to pad my curves

9) NEVER taking my shirt off in front of other people

10) NEVER taking my shirt off at the beach

11) Always slouching in chairs/couches to flatten out belly bulge

12) Always sitting on the couch with a cushion in front to cover my tummy

13) Snoring

14) Always being comfortable

15) Avoiding my reflection

16) Thinking people are laughing at me when I eat

17) Being overlooked by guys

18) Being labelled 'the fat one'

19) Not being able to get undressed in front of my boyfriend

20) Not  being able to buy the clothes that I like

oh god I could go on and on and on....

I second #16--Being super self-conscious in social situations with food--if you're eating too much or unhealthy foods, you're sure others are judging you for it; if you're eating healthily or just not enough, you think they're thinking "oh, how pathetic, the fat guy's on a diet."

And I'll add:

21) Always trying to avoid head-on wind because it will press your shirt to your rolls!

22) Having to get down on the floor at stores to dig on the bottom shelf for those 42 jeans.

23) Always thinking people are judging you when you're out of breath, even if it's legit and a fit person would also be out of breath, like after climbing 10 flights of stairs.

24) Not fitting on a roller coaster! That was probably the worst!

Gosh, this is so depressing (but very, very true). Numbers 1,2,6, and 8 really resonated with me. Also, how concious we have to be when we eat, regardless if the food is healthy or not.

21) Always feeling that you don't look as good as your friends when you go out for a night on the town...

# 21 was huge for me when I was in college.

22) Seeing pictures of yourself either pulling your shirt down or your pants up.

The only thing worse than fearing you look like Gus Gus of Cinderella is to have everyone around you know you're trying not to.

23) Being called the "fat chick" at a party

24) Not being able to wear heels and not kill over

25) Having to wear sleeves in the summer

26) Always feeling that every outfit looks like crap

27) Always standing in the back row when a pic is taken

In fact seeing a recent picture has put my butt into gear. THAT will bring you back into reality.

28) not being able to walk around the beach with just a swim suit but always a shirt and shorts over it when your friends are in theirs.

29) worrying about how bad you look from a certain angel.

wow these are terrible. no one should have to feel the need to do any of this but yet we all do.

p.s 12=story of my life. i don't know why but i can't sit down without something covering my tummy.

31) always feeling the need to destroy photographs of yourself

32) being able to share jeans with my 50 year old mom (sorry, mom. lol)

33)  feeling older than i actually am

34) worrying about breaking the desks at school

35) sitting in auditorium seating and feeling like you're spilling over into another persons space.

36) not being able to get a towel wrapped around me completely

im sure there's more, but i cant think of them now.

Original Post by jessicasbc:

31) always feeling the need to destroy photographs of yourself

32) being able to share jeans with my 50 year old mom (sorry, mom. lol)

33) feeling older than i actually am

34) worrying about breaking the desks at school

35) sitting in auditorium seating and feeling like you're spilling over into another persons space.

36) not being able to get a towel wrapped around me completely

im sure there's more, but i cant think of them now.

32) haha wow i wish i could share jeans with my mom! she is 50 and ranges from sizes 00-2!

37)  not fitting into waiting room chairs, or restaurant booths

38)  avoid travelling because the airplane seatbelts don't fit

39) Looking in the mirror and feeling disgust and what I look like and feel everyone else must look at me with disgust too

40) knowing you were never given a second look at dances and social events

41) becoming so depressed about how I look that I would not get out of bed

42) disgusted by being the guy who sweats profusely even doing the smallest activity.

43) having body parts that hurt due to being overweight

44) having your doctor say that you need to loose weight and giving you the reply of diet and exercise. You tell the doctor you have been making the effort and he replies well not good enough keep trying.

45) concerned that I will follow in my dad's footsteps and have heart issues at an early age.

the list goes on and on

Original Post by jessicasbc:

36) not being able to get a towel wrapped around me completely

hah this so much! It's the worst thing having two thin sisters round the house who can use one towel when you need two! 

46) Not being able to do the whole clothes sharing thing with friends/siblings.

48) Having random people think it's ok to insult you in public!

Original Post by ktg72:

Original Post by jessicasbc:

36) not being able to get a towel wrapped around me completely

hah this so much! It's the worst thing having two thin sisters round the house who can use one towel when you need two! 

 I have two thin sisters too.

49. Those awful painful red lines that you get from your underware, pants and bra being too tight.

50. Having my underware roll down on me because they're too small (I don't REALLY need that size, do I?)

51. Not being able to wear thongs (wtf is with me and underware today?)

52. Not wanting to move away from the wall at a party or club to go get a drink becuase I know every eye will be on me, irritated at this fat girl who can't get through without creating an 8 lane hightway

53. Having to alter "matching" clothes so that body parts are covered up

54. Having to shop for adult clothes when I was a little girl because there were no clothes back then for fat kids

55. Not being able to find sexy bras (ok, and underware again)

56. Listening to my friends complain about not being able to wear a small anymore at Victorias Secret (um, I could never wear ANYTHING there...and then telling them that and having them say "Really?  But where do you buy underware??" as if they really had no idea that some people couldn't wear those clothes and had to shop at oh, say, WalMart for panties)

57. Not being able to buy low rise anything because I have to hike up my pants to hide my stomach roll

I'm also addicted to using cushions or my purse or my coat in my lap to hide my tummy if I'm sitting down. Someone will offer to take my coat or purse from me and I'm like "No, I want to hold it" and they just look at me funny. Ugh.

Also, #52 is hard. At concerts and movies I can't bring myself to move or change seats or use the restroom, because I don't want to be the annoying blob waddling through the aisles smooshing people.

58. Ruining romantic relationships because you refuse to have sex with the lights on and they lose their patience with your insecurities.

59. Pants that fit standing up do not fit when you sit down, so you're forced to sit in a stiff position and constantly adjust yourself while the whole world thinks you have hemmorhoids because of your odd behavior.

60. Having to actually LIFT your stomach rolls out of the way so you can wash underneath them in the shower. God that's awful.

60) Feeling dizzy because you're trying to hide the fact that going up 1 flight of stairs almost killed you

61) Fearing the gym because you knew you'd just be depressed and struggle. What's with all those damn mirrors anyway?

62) Feeling like any compliment that comes your way is a joke, and others are laughing and making fun of you because you said "thanks"

63) Making any excuse possible just so you don't have to go out with friends

64) Being used by men for their own personal pleasure

65) Not speaking up because you don't want to be noticed

66) Never knowing what it's like to feel your body swim freely in a pool without shorts or a tshirt on.

67) When the first thing that pops into your head about a holiday is the FOOD that will be there.

-I've also not fit in a booth, I've also had to be removed from a roller coaster for the lapbar not fitting properly. Laughed at, critisized, called a bucket of lard in elementary. It's NOT fun being fat. We go through so much.

-All the effort to become healthy is worth it. Someone will always comment on your size, no matter if you're big or small. You'll always be bigger than someone else, and that's okay. You might even be the 'fat friend' wearing a size 4. And that's okay!

-Starting weight: 294, Current weight: 120. Total lost: 174. It's so weird being on this side of the wall. You get a better view of things :)

Wow, x17star17x, you are totally amazing. Congratulations on your strength and accomplishments. I would be lucky to have half the willpower you have, and it's truly inspiring.

Thanks.  :)

A. Knowing you are who you are and being confident.

B. Having a mind that outweighs your body.

C. Taking the "fine" chick away from the handsome guy.

D. Singing "Heavy Makes You Happy", and meaning it.

E. Getting beyond all the fat-boy/girl, chubby, etc. names

F. Learning to be who you are, yeah you want to lose weight,
     yeah you want to be healthy (why do all those skinny people
      diabetes and you don't)

G. Always being told you are light on your feet, because
    your a damn good dancer.

H. Baring your chest on the beach and not giving a damn
     who is looking.

I.  Knowing there are women (not just a woman) out there
    who like you in spite of your body.

J. Having almost all the sex you wanted not because
   you had the best body or a huge member.

K. Learning that your self image is generated by you.

If you are overweight with a BMI greater than 30 you must lose
weight before you are old, it gets to be very hard.

I can lose at 62 but not as easy as 32 or 42. If you can lose it now only

for health reasons, not for self image.  You are what you answer to, "Fat boy/girl is not the name you were given.

Remember you may be fat but they are ugly and you can lose yours they will be ugly forever.

Be Blessed.

Reading this is so sad. My weight never really made any problems for me. I dont really care what anyone thinks of me. I have confidence and if you dont* like me who cares lol.  I only do a couple things.

• Anytime i go to a drive through i suck in my stomach so it looks flat haha.
• I would love to travel but i wouldnt want to be the person who needs to buy that second seat!
• Oh and i hate how you have to lift your belly when washing. But it doesnt make me sad or mad or anything

Everyone just keep you heads up and saty possitive

i agree completely and when its written down like that you finally realise your not alone!.. im only 19 and since i was about 12 iv dun all those things, checked in the shop windows, felt sorry for myself just becuz i look fatter than my friends. Now im older its worse!il wear those pants that hold ur stomach in before i go out at night and seem to think if i wear more make up and make more of an effort with my hair it will stop people starin at my huge stomach and thighs!...i even begin to feel hatred for my skinny friends! I now dread summer as i dont have the confidence to wear vests or skirts and a bikini abroad is out of the question. 

i no people tell u "u look fine" or "u dont need to lose weight" but shakin off those negative thoughts is impossible.