why do parents do this??
Ok every time im like "i think i might not go running today" or "i feel to tired for the gym".
My parents look wierd at me like well you SHOULD be going to the gym. They are always saying you should go. at least get 30 mins in........
......its like they are really pushing me too go.....its basicly like they are saying your fat and you need to go to lose some weight. eurgh!?
Original Post by watergirl:
kev they are only here to suck the life out of you
dont feed them
bet you made the Burn Book
*^5s kev*
Gretchen: [reading from the Burn Book] Trang Pak is a grotsky, little byotch.
Regina: Still true.
Gretchen: Dawn Schweitzer is a fat virgin.
Regina: Still half-true.
Karen: Amber D'Alessio . She made out with a hot dog.
Gretchen: Janis Ian-DYKE.
Karen: [pointing to Damien in background of picture] Hey, who is that?
Gretchen: I think it's that kid, Damien.
Cady: Yeah, he's almost too gay to function.
[Karen & Gretchen chuckle]
Regina: That's funny, put that in there.
yea .. I know ... but sometimes I cant help myself ... I did ask for any other messages to be sent to my mail so I can address them in private ... oh well
Original Post by hotfuss:
Original Post by kev100:
Original Post by hotfuss:
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...where as a direct and blatant snide remark at somebodies avatar ...
are we looking at the same post???
Original Post by pgeorgian:
Original Post by salmander23:
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you must know that's a pretty loaded image. especially around here. i mean, the one twin (dunno which) is kind-of a pro-ana icon. if that's an association you want to continue, obviously that's your choice, but it's going to affect how people perceive you. when i use my hag avatar, it's because i want everyone to know i'm mean. y'know?
I see no blantant snide remark
Obviously not .. I am looking at this comment
salmander, if you want to be taken seriously, get a new avatar.
*pulls up a chair*
*grabs some cheese rice cake snacks*
*roots for kev*
you go dude!
given the nature of these forums and the variety of people with disordered eating that post here, I can't really take an olsen fan seriously either. So, it doesn't really seem like a snide remark to me, just a truthful one.
Original Post by watergirl:
*pulls up a chair*
*grabs some cheese rice cake snacks*
*roots for kev*
you go dude!
ha!! im rooting for kev too!!
x
Original Post by kadarka:
Original Post by watergirl:
*pulls up a chair*
*grabs some cheese rice cake snacks*
*roots for kev*
you go dude!
ha!! im rooting for kev too!!
x
Love you both :) xx
nice to have some guys here kev
helps dilute all the estrogen lol
I know it doesn't feel right when your own family thinks you're fat. My grandparents and aunts nag about it all the time.
But since I know I'm fat, I don't mind their comments as much I mind my mother's comment - because she doesn't want me to lose weight! I think I would have the "you're fat" comment when I'm really fat than the "please stop losing weight" comment when I know I need to lose weight because I'm at the verge of being overweight.
I think I would hate the "you're fat" comment if I wasn't actually fat, so if that's your case I'm sorry to hear about your case. Maybe they don't really think you're fat, but want to make sure you stay healthy and don't become fat. Maybe talking to them about how missing a day of gym every once in a while doesn't mean you're going to become a couch potato and gain 50 pounds all the sudden would help. Good luck!
I only WISH I could get that kind of support! Being fit and exercising doesn't mean they're saying you're fat- exercise is good for everyone..
My mom said I couldn't sign up for the gym until I made dentist and orthodontist appointments and of course I'm PETRIFIED of the dentist so that puts off the gym indefinitely.. :(
First of all, I want to say that looking at the pic it's obvious Kardarka is in pretty damned good shape and missing a workout here or there isn't going to ruin her physique.
That said, from the statement, none of us (except Kadarka obviously) know how often she decides not to work out. I'm assuming (and I'm guessing everyone else is too) that she gets to the gym or goes for a run fairly regularly. Might that be changing? Could that be a reason why the parents are acting worried? No data.
Now, for the real reason I'm posting. It seems most of the responses here are from people that don't have kids. Again, just guessing - some of you may, but from the responses, I'd say most of you don't.
I do. I've got three kids, 11, 8 and 4. The older two are fitter than I think I've ever been, and I was a competitive swimmer back in the day (one of the reasons I'm here in the first place - want to get back to looking fit). The oldest is a hockey player, the 8 year old is a gymnast with 6-pack abs that my wife and I continually shake our heads over.
Truth for me - from the time a child shows up, a parent starts thinking about how to make things better for that child than they had it or did it or even THINK they had it.
I can understand the frustration of thinking your parents might be pushing to to go work out, especially if you perceive it as them saying 'you don't want to get fat do you?'. But I have to ask - have you actually asked them what they mean by it? If so, what did they say? And did the conversation end there?
Let me offer a possible conversation (totally made up - no idea if its accurate - but the scenario is valid and might fit).
Kadarka - "I don't think I'll go to the gym today" (side note - why even say it? It's asking for a response.)
K's mom/dad - "Are you sure? You really should get in at least a half hour or so". (side note 2 - how fit are the parents? If they AREN'T, that could also be a contributing factor to why they are pushing - they don't want you to end up like them - that's powerful parent juju).
Kadarka - "I just don't feel like it!"
End conversation.
If that's how the conversations go then there are other issues. If not, please correct me. The IP really doesn't go into any more detail.
Now, finally, let me say this - I really don't care what anyone uses for their avatar pics...
