Parents Judgement

Recently I've begun losing weight~after I went to college I gained about 40lbs leaving me at around 170, and after about two months I dropped most of it.  Now I'm at 140.5, and my parents think I have an eating disorder.

I hate it, really!  First I'm too fat and they have always have something nasty to say, and when I finally do something about it they flip out and tell me I'm anorexic.  Geez, why can't the people in my life be supportive?

Does anyone else have this negative energy surrounding them?  How do you deal with it?

I totally know where you're coming from.   Because I've really gotten interested in dieting and exercising, they think I have some obsession with body weight and body image, as if I'm ABNORMAL for thinking about this kind of thing.  I've been asked many times if I have an eating disorder.  My whole family is overweight, save my older brother, and I honestly (not bragging or anything) think they're jealous of my motivation and try to put me down.  I'm nowhere near my goal size, but I try to push myself as much as I can and they try to beat me down.  Either they tell me those kinds of things, or say things like, "Ya you should be working out" or other rude comments.  I let that keep me motivated!  Don't let them get to you - if it's REALLY bothering you, tell them how you feel.

you can find a really good support system on this site for starters. maybe you should talk to your family and tell them that you've just chosen a healthier lifestyle and that doesn't make you anorexic. also, you should reflect on your own weight-loss journey. think back to your reasons for losing weight and your eating habits. is what your doing really healthy? if so then keep it up. if you find that you are going about things in a way that can be dangerous and unhealthy, you can also find support for that on CC.

So, did I read that right? You lost 30 lbs. in 2 months? If it's true, that's awfully fast so I can see why your parents would be concerned. Sounds like they just want you to be healthy.

The easiest way to handle it is to talk to them calmly and tell them your opinions on the weight loss, health, and eating disorders. In my opinion, things go smoother if you act like an adult and talk to them like one, instead of getting defensive and angry. Sometimes that means biting your tongue.

When I was chubbier, my parents would think I was too fat. When I lost the weight, they think I am starving myself. *shrugs* Only you yourself will know the truth.

The moment I told my mom I was watching my calories and such she sneered, do you think your fat?!?!? Now my mom has her own health issues and is quite obese and I learned a lot of bad habits from her, but I think she was just concerned about my self-worth. 

I just let her know the foods I was eatings and that I'm trying to maintain an healthy intake. It seemed to calm her down a bit. 

It's not 'negative energy' necessarily.....  30lbs in two months (half a pound a day) is so rapid that you could look like you're suffering from some terrible wasting disease.  If your diet's been too restrictive and lacking in nutrients you may also look hollow-eyed & sickly rather than slim, rosy-cheeked and healthy.   There are lots of valid reasons why you could be getting this negative reaction. 

Rather than jumping to conclusions and getting annoyed, be mature about it.   Check out your diet with the CC food log.... Is it sufficient calories for someone your size, age & activity level?   Is your diet well-balanced and varied?  Are you getting the right nutrition?    If it needs improvement, make the changes.  If it needs no adjustment, talk to your family and reassure them.

Original Post by skinnyfox:

Recently I've begun losing weight~after I went to college I gained about 40lbs leaving me at around 170, and after about two months I dropped most of it.  Now I'm at 140.5, and my parents think I have an eating disorder.

I hate it, really!  First I'm too fat and they have always have something nasty to say, and when I finally do something about it they flip out and tell me I'm anorexic.  Geez, why can't the people in my life be supportive?

Does anyone else have this negative energy surrounding them?  How do you deal with it?

To be honest, when I read your profile I thought you had an eating disorder.  It's your attitude toward food.  Food is not the devil- it's something that nourishes you.  You can use that nourishment to boost metabolism and lose weight the healthy way, or deprive yourself and lose weight the unhealthy way, which leads to regaining the weight later or in a lot of cases developing and eating disorder.  You don't have to be severely underweight to be diagnosed with anorexia nervosa- it's in your head.

Thanks Kristen for your response...after cooling down a bit, and reading a lot of the replies, it could be that I'm just overreacting to my parents.  They could just be concerned, but the way they express themselves makes it sometimes way too unbearable to deal with.  No matter how much I talk to them about it, they simply say I'm being "sensitive"--but I think anyone would be upset after being called Buddhabelly or fattie several times a day. 

I don't believe I have an eating disorder as much as a small obsession over what I eat.  I try to eat different calorie intakes a day to boost my metabolism (instead of letting it settle, slowing weightloss [according to my nutritionist, anyway).  On a daily basis, I don't plan on eating big or small during the day (it just happens)~but I can't stop counting calories.

But anyway, thanks for your reply <3