So I went to a party...

And maybe drank a bit too much.  And might've hooked up with a boy.

Thing is, I'm NOT that girl...I'm 18 years old, and it was my first time kissing someone I wasn't in a relationship with/dating.

Thing is, we exchanged numbers, and I'm realizing that I could actually like this boy...we have pretty much everything in common.  Except our age...he's two years younger, which kind of weirds me out.

I guess my question is...where do I go from here?  I don't want it to just be some one time thing, and I'm pretty sure he feels the same.

Oh, and do you think the age difference matters?  He definitely doesn't look younger, and I'm pretty immature...I don't know.

Thoughts?

Don't stress about being THAT girl. It happened one time. Especially if you actually like him. I don't think the age difference matters. When I was 19-20 I dated a guy who was 2 years younger than me. He was mature for his age and I was pretty silly. I loved the hell out of him, but people grow up and we both changed.. It just didn't work out for us in the long run.

Do I regret it? Heck no. Did it bother me dating someone younger? It was a little weird at first, being in college and dating a high schooler. It took some getting used to, but like I said, I loved him and I realized I didn't care.

Now obviously, it's too early to tell if you're going to love this guy. But also, it seems like you just met him, so there's no need to jump right into a full-on relationship. 

Don't date him just to "validate" hooking up with him. You had an urge and you followed through.. you took advantage of an opportunity and you did what you wanted to do (I hope). Don't beat yourself up over it. Don't feel like you have to spend the rest of your life with him.

Spend some time with him, get to know him without the alcohol. Don't let him make you feel pressured to hook up with him again if you don't want to. If you decide you want to, spend time developing a friendship first, then you'll be able to gauge how you feel about dating him.

Good luck. :)

OK, I'm going to play the devi's advocate here *nagging mom* and say this:

If you are only 18 and he is only 16, then neither one of you should have been drinking! Over indulging in alcohol to the point of not remembering the hook up is not good! And yes, I realize that underage drinking happens very often. I partook of it myself when I was 16. But, in retrospect, I can honestly say that it is never a good idea.

So, if you like the guy, go out with him. Just lay off the alcohol consumption until you are both old enough to buy it for yourselves!

Thanks for the advice...I think I'll just play it by ear.

Obviously, if we need alcohol to get along, it's not happening...and I think I'm done drinking for the next little while (just a side note, you can legally drink at 19 here, so I'm not THAT underage...)

I'm mostly just worried about people judging the age difference :/  ah well..

Original Post by alaskanmama:

If you are only 18 and he is only 16, then neither one of you should have been drinking!

Not everyone lives in america. Here in NZ the drinking age is 18, and in Europe it's 16 for wine and beer.

The issue is you are on the verge of adult-hood and the child has years to go if you both care enough for more than a one off then wait a few years because it will be worth it.

Alcohol creates problems; existing problems are made worse and are waiting for you when you sober up-best to learn now and not start, if you must indulge wait until you are of age, drink responsibly –moderation and no driving

2 years age difference is not the issue ...I met my husband at 20 not knowing he was 50 ---he still does not look his age but the dr. says the bones don’t lie!

After 21 years together I can say he is the best decision I ever made!

I saw him while I was at my new job –looked up from what I was doing ( he was a longtime customer browsing ) and my heart jumped somersaulted and stopped...my friend thought I was being funny when I started asking the who’s and what’s and no answers forth coming from Connie then others chimed in with absolute misinformation!!!

The woman he had an “affair” with was his sister, the reason he wasn’t at work-not a bum without a job...he worked swing and graveyard shift, overtime, all the time-giving him the morning off!

I still did not know his name or even speak to him before I said I think he is it

June 25 88-I saw him, talked to him a couple times about nothing July 25 88 first date married July 25 92 - could not ask for more!

Intelligent, good humor, patient, supportive, loving, greatest cook ever (reason I gained weight), he sews, gardens, fixes almost anything, tries and succeeds at building-almost done with the basement.

He did everything himself except for the stairs he hired a master craftsman.

Now that he is retired we spend nearly 16hours a day (or more) together, talk or not just happy to be together most people can’t say that and still have a good relationship

If nothing comes of this relationship, 16yr.old and you then move on, no regrets, lesson learned-Good luck

Age definitely doesn't matter. I'm 23 and my fiance is 33...we've been together for 5 years. Don't let something like age get in the way of a great relationship.