People making you feel bad for losing weight?

Was just wondering if anyone has problems once the weight starts to come off, and especially when you get to your goal weight ,about being TOO thin?!?

Some people were encouraging which was great, but most co-workers always had a snide comment or their own tips even though I was doing fine on my own diet.

I got down to my maintaining size but recently decided to try for a bit more preparing for a vacation..... I got sick about 3 weeks ago (still am) with a bad cold/flu & lost about 4 pounds. I've had like a dozen people say I had lost too much weight, that I was really skinny, why would I do that to myself and yesterday I started hearing the 'anorexic' comments!!!!!! grrrr.

I'm healthy, happy with my weight finally and look great..... I think anyway!  I have a very small frame and am 5'1", was holding at 118 until the last month went down to 114.  It took me over a year and a half to take off those 30 pounds.

Anyone else feel like crap for losing weight?  Are these people just jealous?

I haven't lost enough to get some of those comments, right now i'm 5'4" and at 172.  I do have a lot of trouble when i tell people i'm working on losing weight.  I've had people try and convince me i look fine now and yell at me not to lose any because they like how i look, but for me its also about the fact that its unhealthy for me to weigh as much as i do.  I've had people say all sorts of rude things about people who diet, or try and convince me not to.  I've even had friends try and taunt me with certain foods and do almost anything in trying to get me to eat them.  Most of the people i get trouble from are also the ones who eat massive amounts and stay incredibly skinny anyways.  I really have gotten sick of it and either ignore it or give them a firm talking to about how i will do whats best for my body and they should look up what really is healthy and unhealthy before they say ignorant things.

I just looked through your gallery

you look very fit and firm and athletic... you have an amazing body

congrats!!

the others must be jealous because your body looks absolutely nowhere near unhealthy, based on the pic in your gallery

I have the same problem.  I just started P90X and my mom got upset when I told her that I might get down to 125, on a 5'4" frame, which is well within my ideal range.  I just want an athletic looking body and at 140 I'm not quite there.  She's worried I'll be too small, I try to explain that I'm eating a lot of calories so I wont be starving but she's still concerned.  My friends all think I look fine the way I am and that I really shouldn't be losing anymore.  It's a good thing I do it for me and no one else.   

Congratulations to you for hitting your goal and as long as your happy and healthy then I wouldn't worry too much about what other think.

my family have not been supporting my weight loss. if anything they say that i have lost too much weight too fast. I am 5"4 and now weighing at 127. it hurts to know that people have been criticising my progress, and in the end makes me feel like crap.

stay strong, your not the only one

Yep plain jealousy. Too bad for them. You look great and they don't. :)

You didn't do it for them. They are mad they aren't as awesome as you!

Haha, a little bit. I'm 5'5'', and I've lost 10-12 pounds this year. I was at about 127-129, and now I'm around 116-118.  My dad's always telling me to eat something, but he and my mom do support me.

Mostly, its positive comments from people.

I have to agree with thin, you look gorgeous!  You have the body I aspire toward.  I hope that in a year's time I will be as fit and athletic as you.  As for everyone ragging on you because you are too thin, you need a snappy one liner to put them in their place.   If I had one, I'd pass it on.

Try to take comfort in the fact that you worked and are still working on keeping your body rocking.  Most of the snide comments are from people that are insecure about their looks, but not motivated enough to do something about making their bodies healthy.  I know this because I was one of those people.  I didn't make the comments out loud, but I definitely thought them.  One day, I finally snapped out of my pity party and started making small changes.  This site has really put perspective on how unhealthy I had become and the people on the forums are helpful and supportive.  I might not have support from those close to me, but I do know that I have support in the virtual world.  That keeps me going.  Well, that and I am determined to have a body that I'm comfortable in.

Keep up the good work and hang in there!

Ah yes, I went through this initially. "Eat a sandwich...just a shadow of your former self...too thin...you lost your bubble butt (my mom said that!)...you need another piece of pizza...I know you said you didn't want a piece of cake but I'm giving you one anyway, with everyone watching, and I will make a big deal of it if you turn it down, etc"

I found that I ate less healthy and much more when around friends and family. I know I was making a point to reassure them that I'm not afraid to eat. Also want them to learn that they can lose weight without starving themselves. It's a sensitive issue in my family because others have suffered EDs, so I feel compelled to make it obvious that I don't have one. I wont even go to the bathroom after I've eaten because I don't want them to think I'm throwing up. But then my mom called me a "piggy, piggy" for eating my maintenance calories of 2000ish. Urgh.

But the worst of these experiences occurred after I lost the first 20lbs, during the middle of last summer. I maintained for a while and everyone seemed to get use to my thinner body. When I lost 5 more pounds over the winter Holidays, no one noticed. I maintained that weight (eating a healthy and balanced avg of 2000 a day) and am now working off the last five. Slowly. No new comments about me being too skinny or not eating, and I'm much more comfortable eating my healthy alternatives and turning down junk when I'm around people.

I'm absolutely having the same issue.  Other people think I've lost too much weight.  But it's really hard to tell when you're at the right weight.  I was really thin in high school, but gained 20 pounds in college and it stuck with me (and a few more) for 25 years.  I'm 5'10" and now weigh 143.  In high school I weighed between 125 and 135.  I know I'm thin (BMI=20.5), but what is the right weight? And who gets to decide what the right weight is?

okay, probably going to ruffle some feathers here, but...

nobody but you can make you feel bad. 

you look awesome!!!super healthy and fit. People are probably jealous of your progress and the fact that you look good.

Also: we are the same height and have similar starting weights. What did you do to succesfully loose weight? ie. daily cals/excercise program (if you dont mind me asking:) )

I lost a lot of weight over the last year or so and I absolutely have people ask me "so when are you going to stop?" (in a condescending way).   When I tell them I have, but they still see me eat healthy they think I am doing it to loose weight and not maintain and they can get snippy with me.  But, it doesn't make me feel like crap at all.  It makes me want to educate them on what healthy eating looks like and how educating myself on healthy eating has changed the way I eat, that is all.  Then they just think I am showing off, but hey they started it by asking me.  Believe me, if they know they are going to get a lecture on healthy eating every time they make a comment, they will stop LOL.

I can't help that at 36 I am now in the best shape of my life and I love my new way of eating and being physically fit, you should never have to apologize or explain that to someone.  I do still rigoursly exercise because I do still have a lot of toning to do.  Again, they think it is to loose weight (because you know that is the ONLY reason to want to exercise LOL), never thinking I just want to be healthy.  When they tell me I "look fine" I just tell them they don't see me naked.  I hate it when they ask you "so what do you weigh now" or "so what size are you squeezing into these days", first it is none of their business, especially if they are just going to use it to make their point of saying that you already lost to much weight.  I don't make a habit of telling people a number.  If I know they are asking because they are truly proud of me and want inspiration, I will tell them.  But, when they ask me how much I lost I just tell them "enough to make a difference".  My problem is is that I lost a lot of my weight up top (from the waist up) I always do.  So, I know that I look thin through the chest, face, neck, arms, I can't help that and I am working with weights to bulk up the arms.  But, people always notice this right away if they had not seen me in awhile and make a comment.  Frankly it embarrasses me, it shouldn't but it does.  But, they are the ones that have to get over it, not you.

I've gotten the "when are you going to stop" line.  I tell them that I will continue to eat properly and see where I end up.

They're jealous, especially if they are female. Very few people are actually "too thin", other people are just weak and it makes them jealous that you have the self control to be the size you want to be.

Don't let them get you down! I've had a few people claim I'm anorexic whereas in fact I just started to go to the gym regularly and eat healthily - weight was always going to come off.

Well done with the 30 pounds

Ally x