Well, with the changing way men are shown in ads and media (compared to even 20 years ago), I'm curious what everyones opinion of the perfect male body is.
Is it the huge weightlifter? The skinny hairless model? The toned, but not muscular male? Or maybe the undefined sophisticated man? Or is it like the bodies of greek statues?
So, find a picture of what you think the ideal male body is and post it here! I think it would be interesting to see what people think (and be able to actually look at examples).
Is it the huge weightlifter? The skinny hairless model? The toned, but not muscular male? Or maybe the undefined sophisticated man? Or is it like the bodies of greek statues?
So, find a picture of what you think the ideal male body is and post it here! I think it would be interesting to see what people think (and be able to actually look at examples).
Tried dating tall girls. It backfired, as they loooved that i was big enough so they didnt feel quite as tall, even when i dated a girl a few inches taller than me. Coincidentally, the supertall girl wanted to be dominated even more...
I accept that I am stuck being tall and broad shouldered, but that doesn't mean I have to view them as positive things. I'd rather accept that I'm unattractive and ineligible for dating than attempt to con myself into seeing this as a good thing.
It sucks, and it's sad, but that's just how it is. I see it as my "punishment" for having genetics rotten enough to cause me to lose my hair before even being out of college, for being taller than most, and for being big. It may not be "my fault", but that doesn't matter....people look and see a big bald guy, they don't care who my parents were.
I accept that I am stuck being tall and broad shouldered, but that doesn't mean I have to view them as positive things. I'd rather accept that I'm unattractive and ineligible for dating than attempt to con myself into seeing this as a good thing.
It sucks, and it's sad, but that's just how it is. I see it as my "punishment" for having genetics rotten enough to cause me to lose my hair before even being out of college, for being taller than most, and for being big. It may not be "my fault", but that doesn't matter....people look and see a big bald guy, they don't care who my parents were.
Ok wait a minute, I thought this post was about the basic body types thought to be "perfect". If you want to see what I believe is the perfect guy, just go to my pics and take a gander at my sweetheart. I would not have married him if I thought any different.
That having been said, I thought we were talking about purely the fantasy ideal that only exists in magazines and TV and an occational all-in-fun comment of "OMgosh did you just see that cute guy?".
Oh my heavens people, there is a definate difference between them and "real life"! I am not going to start hating my body just because I don't look like Cindy Crawford or Kate Moss or whatever.
Nor will I start thinking my husband is less attactive because he isn't James Bond or Brad Pitt or whomever. Or even that he or I am not as attractive as our next door neighbors or the school nurse or the crossing guard or whatever. You get the picture. Life is as beautiful as you make it.
And as far as women wanting to be dominated; honey you be lookin' in the WRONG places!!!! There are PLENTY of strong women out there that scare the bejeebers out of most men and would LOVE to find a guy that would not be intimidated by thier brains and strong personalities!!!
I am NOT trying to butter anyone up or tear any one down, but for heaven sakes, did I not mention that the Vic Macky look was so sexy... Hello... he has no hair on his head, and has broad shoulders.
Also there was a guy in the UFC, a fighter that went by the nick-name the Wolfman because he was so flippin' hairy. Can I just say he was beautiful? Hubby roared laughing at me when I got ALL upset when he shaved and waxed himself bare!!!! I was really angry at him for desecrating such a beautiful thing!!! I figured he took his most masculine feature and wiped it out of the tub with a king sized towel when all was said and done!
ig'n'want, I am sorry that you have had such a struggle, but please, be happy with what you have, love what you got, make it the best it can be. I know that sounds a heck of a lot easier than it actually is, I will not debate that.
That having been said, I thought we were talking about purely the fantasy ideal that only exists in magazines and TV and an occational all-in-fun comment of "OMgosh did you just see that cute guy?".
Oh my heavens people, there is a definate difference between them and "real life"! I am not going to start hating my body just because I don't look like Cindy Crawford or Kate Moss or whatever.
Nor will I start thinking my husband is less attactive because he isn't James Bond or Brad Pitt or whomever. Or even that he or I am not as attractive as our next door neighbors or the school nurse or the crossing guard or whatever. You get the picture. Life is as beautiful as you make it.
And as far as women wanting to be dominated; honey you be lookin' in the WRONG places!!!! There are PLENTY of strong women out there that scare the bejeebers out of most men and would LOVE to find a guy that would not be intimidated by thier brains and strong personalities!!!
I am NOT trying to butter anyone up or tear any one down, but for heaven sakes, did I not mention that the Vic Macky look was so sexy... Hello... he has no hair on his head, and has broad shoulders.
Also there was a guy in the UFC, a fighter that went by the nick-name the Wolfman because he was so flippin' hairy. Can I just say he was beautiful? Hubby roared laughing at me when I got ALL upset when he shaved and waxed himself bare!!!! I was really angry at him for desecrating such a beautiful thing!!! I figured he took his most masculine feature and wiped it out of the tub with a king sized towel when all was said and done!
ig'n'want, I am sorry that you have had such a struggle, but please, be happy with what you have, love what you got, make it the best it can be. I know that sounds a heck of a lot easier than it actually is, I will not debate that.
There is no way I will EVER see being tall and bald and broad shouldered as attractive....nor would I date anyone who thought that sort of thing was hot and dateable. I'd rather be alone than have to play such a charade. I accept that I cannot alter my height or build or get my hair back, just as I accept that I am not attractive. It's just the way it is....I would be more miserable dating a girl who actually WANTED a big bald guy. How utterly revolting.
You like masculine guys, and I don't mean to insult you for that, but it doesnt make me feel any better. I loathe my own body hair, which is one of the reasons I'm too ashamed to date. I even have hair on my back, which is vomitous and disgusting. I dated one moron who said she liked it because it was "manly" and because her dad had the same feature. Needless to say, I left the squalling fleshbag in the parking lot of a Burger King in downtown L.A.
I wish there was a happier solution, but there simply isn't one. There is absolutely nothing anyone can say to convince me that being bald is good, being hirsute is good, or that being tall and broad shouldered is good. All I can do now is accept that I will always be single. It's almost more than I can do to stop myself from continuing to mutilate myself. At least now I don't cut my face up since I have a job, and stick to less conspicuous areas.
You like masculine guys, and I don't mean to insult you for that, but it doesnt make me feel any better. I loathe my own body hair, which is one of the reasons I'm too ashamed to date. I even have hair on my back, which is vomitous and disgusting. I dated one moron who said she liked it because it was "manly" and because her dad had the same feature. Needless to say, I left the squalling fleshbag in the parking lot of a Burger King in downtown L.A.
I wish there was a happier solution, but there simply isn't one. There is absolutely nothing anyone can say to convince me that being bald is good, being hirsute is good, or that being tall and broad shouldered is good. All I can do now is accept that I will always be single. It's almost more than I can do to stop myself from continuing to mutilate myself. At least now I don't cut my face up since I have a job, and stick to less conspicuous areas.
i think someone needs some attention ...
anyone care to stick on topic?
anyone care to stick on topic?
Ok wait a minute, I thought this post was about the basic body types thought to be "perfect".
Yup, this is each persons ideal male BODY type (nothing else, has nothing to do with who you date or who you are attracted to...other then purely body physical *not including facial*)
So ignoranceandwant, if you dont like your body type...what do you think is the perfect male body to have? :D (find a picture so we can see! really easy to find, just google for male model or something like that)
Yup, this is each persons ideal male BODY type (nothing else, has nothing to do with who you date or who you are attracted to...other then purely body physical *not including facial*)
So ignoranceandwant, if you dont like your body type...what do you think is the perfect male body to have? :D (find a picture so we can see! really easy to find, just google for male model or something like that)
Original Post by ignoranceandwant:
I dated one moron who said she liked it because it was "manly" and because her dad had the same feature. Needless to say, I left the squalling fleshbag in the parking lot of a Burger King in downtown L.A.
You call a woman who was attracted to you a "squalling fleshbag," and in the next paragraph you refer to self-mutilation. Ignoranceandwant, I am horrified by both your lack of empathy for fellow human beings and also for yourself. I think you need more help than anyone here can provide.
I apologize to the other posters for being off-topic, but these posts raise tremendous red flags in my mind, and I find them both offensive and frightening!
Purespark, you said exactly what I was trying to say, but couldn't put into words, so instead I just sat here shaking my head and sighing. I really felt sorry for ignoranceandwant until he said the thing about the squalling fleshbag. I'm starting to wonder if he's a troll. Obviously his issues run deeper than anyone on this forum can help. It seems like he hates women who aren't attracted to him, yet he hates women who are. This sounds like something a psychologist needs to fix, not a bunch of amateurs on an internet forum. And by the way... what is wrong with a man having broad shoulders? I've always been under the impression that that's a desirable quality. Who wants some scrawny guy with narrow shoulders? Not me. But... that's just an afterthought. This whole thread has taken a turn that gives me the heebie-jeebies.
It's a bit comical to hear people infer things about my psychology based on one description. The girl i dated was a Jehovah's Witness who I was fool enough to "give a chance to" and wanted some guy to basically run her life. I left her where she was after she insulted me for 20 minutes...anybody without empathy would have left her stranded on the 5, so don't take my dismissive remark to incapsulate "all women".
I don't really care what women want, nor what others want. Yes, I DO wish I was a scrawny guy with narrow shoulders, and I don't care if that's gross or effeminate to some. Apparently, a lot of people have narrow views of what is attractive, i.e. "who wants a some scrawny guy with narrow shoulders". To me, that's the equivalent of saying "who wants some girl who's 40 lbs overweight", etc.
Anyway, this exchange has turned out about how I thought I would. Apparently, while there are many ways in which a woman can be attractive, men have a limited amount of ways they can be alluring. I was trying to describe my albeit "different" version of what I thought was attractive and how I didn't match that, but I guess that was "off topic". From now on, I'll remember to paste on my best smile and just pretend everything is just fine.
Oh, and thanks for deeming me one step suitable for committal. it's pretty easy to say "Oh, he needs professional help". Professional help is pretty much meaningless....all they can do is try to convince me that men are "Supposed to be" big and strong so they can protect women....which seems to be the narrow-minded, sexist opinion on here. Anyone want to do my dishes?
I don't really care what women want, nor what others want. Yes, I DO wish I was a scrawny guy with narrow shoulders, and I don't care if that's gross or effeminate to some. Apparently, a lot of people have narrow views of what is attractive, i.e. "who wants a some scrawny guy with narrow shoulders". To me, that's the equivalent of saying "who wants some girl who's 40 lbs overweight", etc.
Anyway, this exchange has turned out about how I thought I would. Apparently, while there are many ways in which a woman can be attractive, men have a limited amount of ways they can be alluring. I was trying to describe my albeit "different" version of what I thought was attractive and how I didn't match that, but I guess that was "off topic". From now on, I'll remember to paste on my best smile and just pretend everything is just fine.
Oh, and thanks for deeming me one step suitable for committal. it's pretty easy to say "Oh, he needs professional help". Professional help is pretty much meaningless....all they can do is try to convince me that men are "Supposed to be" big and strong so they can protect women....which seems to be the narrow-minded, sexist opinion on here. Anyone want to do my dishes?
Not to state the obvious, but I think this thread has been jacked my friends... We are damned if we do and damned if we don't....
Edit: I am sorry for going way off topic as well... you all have a great evening!
Edit: I am sorry for going way off topic as well... you all have a great evening!
Sorry. guess I should have kept my **** mouth shut.
Original Post by ignoranceandwant:
Sorry. guess I should have kept my **** mouth shut.
Yeah. Well, me too. Sorry, Lorik.
I forgive you <3
Nick Cave. Spooky and dark with a really really big... brain!
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Forgiveness is an attractive quality. LOL
Hummina, hummina....Babyd!!!
Babyd, also drooling... except for his face. Not my type. His face is a little too broody and scary looking for me. The bod, yes. :-)
While I've dated men of all shapes and sizes, my ideal is the lean, runner's build body type. I am a sucker for male runners. It's not just the body type - it's the whole mindset, passion and discipline too.
It's okay if he works out in a gym and lifts weight, as long as he isn't overly muscled and top-heavy... you know what I mean... huge shoulders, chest, arms, neck... on top of spindly ignored legs and butt. Yuck. That's my pet peeve!
It's also okay if he never works out in a gym, but instead has muscles carved from doing activities outside of the gym, like gardening, construction work, etc.
I am also a sucker for a gorgeous, well-shaped butt.
Examples: Matthew McConoughey, George Clooney, Jude Law, Colin Firth, Leanardo DiCaprio
Greek statues: I have a favorite photo of my DH posing next to a greek statue. My DH's body resembles one, especially his butt. And the curls of his hair and the profile of his face too! He has never lifted a single weight and wouldn't be caught dead in the gym. But he bike-commutes 2 hours each day to work (rain or shine), eats healthy, and keeps busy around the house. He may not look super-muscly, but he's amazingly strong and can lift a ton!
While I've dated men of all shapes and sizes, my ideal is the lean, runner's build body type. I am a sucker for male runners. It's not just the body type - it's the whole mindset, passion and discipline too.
It's okay if he works out in a gym and lifts weight, as long as he isn't overly muscled and top-heavy... you know what I mean... huge shoulders, chest, arms, neck... on top of spindly ignored legs and butt. Yuck. That's my pet peeve!
It's also okay if he never works out in a gym, but instead has muscles carved from doing activities outside of the gym, like gardening, construction work, etc.
I am also a sucker for a gorgeous, well-shaped butt.
Examples: Matthew McConoughey, George Clooney, Jude Law, Colin Firth, Leanardo DiCaprio
Greek statues: I have a favorite photo of my DH posing next to a greek statue. My DH's body resembles one, especially his butt. And the curls of his hair and the profile of his face too! He has never lifted a single weight and wouldn't be caught dead in the gym. But he bike-commutes 2 hours each day to work (rain or shine), eats healthy, and keeps busy around the house. He may not look super-muscly, but he's amazingly strong and can lift a ton!
I'm Greek... if only Greek men actually looked like Greek statues LOL...
JenMcC - I forgot about Matthew McConnaughy... daaaaaaaaamn he is fine.
Another favorite - Jason Statham
JenMcC - I forgot about Matthew McConnaughy... daaaaaaaaamn he is fine.
Another favorite - Jason Statham
Ooh God, Jason Statham can transport me anywhere!!!
LOL, shill, that was so corny but so funny!
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