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No period for a year - Women only please

hi i know this migt sound stupid but im 17 nearly 18 and my periods randomly stopped about a year ago even though they had been consistant since i was 12. recetly iv been having sex but unprotected because i thought i couldnt get pregnant but is this for certain? im sudenly having a really worried panic. thanks xx

Well you never know what could happen, so if you don't want to get pregnant, then maybe you should get protection.
And by the way, go see a doctor to see whats going on

I was trying to think about how to make this reply sound less preachy, but I don't think i know how, so at the risk of sounding like an old fuddy duddy (which I must be since i just used the term "fuddy duddy") here it goes.

1) you need to go the doctor. if you haven't seen somebody about your missing periods you need to get that sorted out, FAST, because the longer you wait the more you are going to reduce your chances of EVER getting pregnant. If you have a doctor you are seeing about this problem, then you need to see them and discuss whether an unwanted pregnancy could be possible.

2) NEVER have unprotected sex!!! ALWAYS use a condom

[unless you are married/have been together for a long time (at least 6 months because this is the time required for a test for HIV to be possible) and are in committed monogamous relationship and have both had the tests to prove that you don't have any sexually transferable diseases and you are using birth control (unless planning to get pregnant). (although personally even though i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and am on the pill, we still use condoms just in case because a baby isn't really on the cards right now)]

Really, go to the doctor, you are over 16 so you should be able to go by yourself without your parents or anything. Maybe try and find a woman if that will make you more comfortable. Or go and see your usual doctor who knows your history. They will be able to give you a pregnancy test, the pill if you need it, and probably also give a similar condom lecture to the one i just gave.

so do you think it could be possible??

iv been to see the doctor about my missing periods and we think we know why but i really need to know if you still think it can be possible.

How long since you had sex? could you still go and get a morning after pill? I can not stress enough how much i think you should go to the doctor, or see the school nurse. I think you have a couple of reproductive issues you need to deal with. In the short term, you could try getting a pregnancy test from the pharmacy. But this should not be a substitute for seeing the doctor, even if it comes back negative.

sorry for sounding so harsh, but i want you to appreciate that these are serious issues and that you shouldn't just wait and see what happens

good luck

sorry, hadn't read your last post. I would suggest then contacting the doctor you normally go to who knows about your problems. if this isn't possible straight away, then try and get a home pregnancy test from the drug store so you can set your mind at ease. And while you are there get some condoms if you are plannign on having sex again. i think it is probably unlikely, but if you are having other symptoms such as swollen breasts, throwing up in the morning, (and even if you aren't) since you are worrying about it, it is probably worth the home test.

it was about a month ago so yeah its too lat so i think im going ot have to get a home one done,thanks for the advice.

At the risk of sounding sarcastic -- of course it's possible!  

Hi there,

It's hard to answer your question without knowing why you have stopped having periods.  You might have stopped, for example, because you have lost too much weight, or are very athletic, as this can throw the body out of balance.  There's no guarantee however that your body won't start ovulating again at any time ..the human body is a funny thing! ..so it is always possible that you had ovulated before you had sex and could be pregnant.

Again don't want to preach but you cannot be too careful about unprotected sex.  It really doesn;t matter how well or for how long you have known the guy.  If you're not in a committed long-term monogomous relationship you MUST use condoms.  There are just so many things than can go wrong and you are so young ...

you've posted before...seek counseling.

I'm sorry for offending anyone but if you think just because you've had missed periods and are having unprotected sex that you can't get pregnant then I hope and pray you aren't - if you are I hope and pray you giveit up for adoption because its teens like you who have no business raising a child- there I said it.  I would suggest another course of action but I know I'll get slammed for that one LOL

oooohhhh.....SNAP!!!

Holy Moses! "recetly iv been having sex but unprotected because i thought i couldnt get pregnant".......this beats all I've ever heard.....I'm dumbfounded! I hope and pray that you're NOT pregnant for your own sake, but assuming you're not, you need to NOT be having sex anymore, protected or otherwise,  until you figure out a few things about life! Good luck.........

Just as a health note: not menstruating does not mean you are not ovulating. You can easily get pregnant.

As others have said, this is a good time to go see your doctor to find out what's going on.

And frankly considering the results of STDs from chlamydia to Gonohrrea, to Syphilis, to HIV to Hep B, et al, pregnancy is a minor worry! PID is another worry especially in young women because their cervix is more susceptible to STI (sexually transmitted infections). To say nothing of, in some states, if you contract a STD, the doc may be obligated to inform the health dept who may contact each of your prior lovers in order to get them treatment. Not fun!

Use a condom for every act, every time! And make sure you use it properly, improperly used condoms are a prime cause of condom failure. To some extent, practice makes perfect (it really does, professional women in the Nevada brothels know how to use them and have never had a documented case of HIV transmission from the job), but the price for improper use is rather high.

Not to depress your mood.  but you still might be.  I also thought I was and went through a LOT and am still traumatized I even imagined I was pregnant since I didn't have my periods and I still don't I took 2 blood tests and 3 HPT tests all negative so hopefully im not.  I've missed already 5 periods.  Tried birth control got my period then stopped once again. 

Anyways I conclude   -  "Experience is Man's mistakes"  Therefore learn from them.

Take a pregnancy test and go to a doctor. You could very well be pregnant. You need to be SERIOUSLY educated on sex, STD's, and menstruation. Get help.. you have no business having unprotected sex at almost 18 years old. You should know better.

If you kids would wait until you were mature and responsible enough to handle the consequenses of sexual activity, you wouldn't be "having a really worried panic". Keep your panties on, dear, because someone like yourself has NO buisness raising a child.

Okay people, I think she has the message now- some of you are terribly judgemental. She is young, she made a mistake regarding the possibility of getting pregnant.

If she is indeed pregnant she will have a hard enough time dealing with the consequences without a bunch of people on the internet jumping all over her.

The above post from fluffy349 in particular I find quite harsh, and entirely unhelpful. It's no wonder the OP hasn't posted again.

If you're still there, insecure_teen, I hope everything works out for you. I hope you've seen a doctor, that you've been lucky this time and are not pregnant and that if you are, I hope there are some supportive people in your life who you can turn to for help.

Thanks very much apsara for your post. I would just like to say that first of all I did go and get tested and it was negative. Secondly I find it quite annoying that whenever I post anything, some people are just like "youve posted before, go see a counsellor". Yes I used to have an eating disorder and yes I went to the counsellor and please note how this is all in the past tense. If you read what I wrote,I know why I dont have periods but just because I have stopped purging now it doesnt mean they are going to come back instantly,my body just needs to completly readjust before they start again so enough with that as well. As with judging me for my sexual activity, I know what I did was obviously not right but its not like I was off sleeping with some random guy from the street. My boyfriend and I were a bit tipsy at a party and because he knows that I havnt had my period in so long we thought that it would be ok for just that once. But thanks to all the people who did give good and helpful advice.