please forgive me. i need a selfish moment. don't you?

i've lost weight. i don't fit most of my clothes. i feel great and look damn good compared to this time last year. i was 185 lbs and preggo. now im 135.6 10 months later. im so proud of myself and i want to be noticed and i want to talk about it, but i can't. everyone around me is a little overweight and i seem to make them self concious if i talk about dieting when im smaller than some of them. i love them the way they are. i think they look great. i just needed to do this for me, and im proud of my acomplishments, but i feel like i need to hide my success for the feelings of others. WHY! i went shopping with my mother and made her feel bad cuz i shop on the regular side of the store now, and she shops in the plus size. so what?im 26 freakin years old, and have never been thin. she spent most of her life being 100 lbs. i've never had that. can't i like it? how do you all feel? be honest with me. i love bluntness and im asking for it. am i being dumb and overly emotional?

you shouldnt ask for forgiveness on your accomplishments.  I too went from 189 to 135 in 6 months (death in the family) but anyways, your friens should be SOOO proud of you. FLAUNT IT WORK IT! you may inspire others to push themselves a little harder and make better choices.   Please dont get discouraged.  I did and gained 30 pounds back... UUGGG my mother was 130 pounds until she was 40, now shes 250 and is always making snide remarks about me being thin.  She is just jelous.  If your friends and family cant be happy for you its because of their oun insecurities, not your success!  PS congrats on your accomplishments!

thankyou. lets make this a bragging post. lets hear it people: yell out why your proud!

of course you can like it hon, and who knows maybe your success will inspire others :D never be afraid to be proud of yourself. and if ya need to toot your own horn do it :D wear what you want and be proud of your accomplishments. I know i have bout made my family sick of hearing about this diet i'm on and i know they support me but if i don't coonstantly give myself kudos i lose heart and i'll break my diet. BUT you can be happy about it in subtle ways, when you go to the regular side of the store be happy, grin big, take a nice sigh of relief. and if you need to hear an attagirl come here and shout your joy. I'm sure I'm not the only one proud of your success here :D.

it is difficult being smaller than those around you and dieting, my cousin Gina is over 200 pounds but not ready to start dieting i think. i got a little carried away the other day and made her feel bad i think. so instead i turned myself around and instead of saying "OMG I've lost almost 10 pounds in 2 weeks" i simply asked her if she would like to go on some of my walks with me and gave her the site address. truth is if they feel bad about themselves they may find it hard to congratulate you because it is admitting that they have not made that step.

I dont understand why some parents cant be happy for their kids.  (im 27)  I love my mom but she eats like a whale!  She wont do anything about her weight.... just complains all the time.  In a twisted way it keeps me motivated to keep trying.   Im sorry but I dont want to be part of that statistic on the news that 2/3 of america is overweight!   I think we should make this a bragging post!!!!   Everyone in this post stand up and give your self a hug!!! Im proud of me! And Im proud of YOU!!!!!!!

i like to come out after a good weigh in a say "i lost another lb!" with this huge smile and they just say...thats good. i don't need them to be excited, but they almost look like if i don't shut up soon they will scream. but its all or nothing for me. i have to be totally into it or im not going to make it. thanks for letting me vent everyone. its nice that there are people who understand this. i don't want to be the fat girl anymore. i've been really depressed lately and the one thing that im excited about has become taboo. it sucks! i guess i'll just kinda keep my excitement limited to the forum for awhile and flaunt my cute clothes in silent. give them a break.

absterry: im sorry to hear someone you were close to passed away.

tempest: 10 lbs in two weeks. wow. thats awesome! how'd you do it?

absterry, i know! my mom knows im dieting (of course. lol) but she brought me a fudge sundae today. i politely declined saying i had just eaten, but she got all upset cuz she surprised me with a nice sundae and i refused to even eat it. i gave in and worked it into my cals for the day, but i was so mad. i saved up my calories by eatting lower cal for breakfast and lunch so i could have something special for dinner with my hubby, and it kind of ruined it. i had to have something simple to stay within range. i would have been really mad if i had to go over for something i never even wanted to eat! but i couldn't even tell her how i felt.

i don't know really, just started eating more fruits and veggies, drink lots of green tea, i alternate my walking on a week off a week. i use portion control and when i can stand it put my calorie intake at 1000 cals a day. (I'm not very active and it gives me 200 cals for snack emergencies) and take vitamins. Not sure how its coming off so fast, my metabolism musta woke up lol i drink milk, eat egg whites, eat steak, love the canned oriental stuff, oh! ginger in your veggies is a metabolism booster

tempest I agree with you, it is hard being around friends who are larger.  Weight is a touchy subject for a lot of people. my opinion is that people who want to loose weight have to make that first step. Just like drug addicts and alcoholics.  They have to WANT it for themselves, (not just talk about it) I just dont understand becase like everytime im in the car with mom, she will see someone walking or jogging, and say, Thats what I need to be doing!  Then she will go home and eat 4 cheeseburgers, and go to sleep!   I just dont know.... I think weightloss is more of a personal goal for each individual and we should be proud of our accomplishments!  I think it sucks when our friends and family get jelous or uncomfortable, when they could just as easy make daily changes in their own lives to improve themselves.  Work together as a team, you know?????? sigh....

do u believe in green tea for diets or do you just like the taste?

oh! i also give myself one meal a week i go nutz with, usually saturdays lol thats my steak-n-taters night

I definately believe in green tea, lipton diet green tea with citrus is my fave, found it when i was looking for diet drinks i could stand

i thought about tring the green tea extra diet pills.... any thoughts on these? good/bad/waste of time???

LOL green tea extract

temp and sil... if you want a little backround on my YOYO weight, I posted it in the other thread: 

 New to site... Can someone help me a bit?    I think I also asked for info on carbs... ;)

the things i have been told about green tea is that its all in your head if you think they work for you. my thoughts: excuse me? even if its all it our heads and it works, then doesn't that still mean it works for us? maybe it works because of the ingredients or maybe it works cuz we drink less pop being so busy drinking tea, but who cares? lol. weightloss is great and i'll take whatever works for me.

i think i posted something there

yeah, i'll go find your post now. add me to your friends if you want. i love to chat. im a newly stay at home mom, and looking for adults to talk to. lol.

1am here, gotta get some sleep. good luck everyone, nice talking to yo all!  ;)

I've been hung up on green tea since my crash diet last year lol green tea broccoli and veggie dip with vitamins lol. averaged about a pound a day but it was NOT healthy and some of the weight came back once i started eating normal again *shudders at the thought of broccoli again* all i ate for 3 weeks and blah i can't hardly eat it now

lol. its 2 am here. sleep? what that? this is my no kid time. hubby fell asleep forever ago. and hes the one sleeping in. but i like to nap with the babies during the day so  thats why i don't require as much night sleeping as he does. i've done dumb diets too, and yes, you gain the weight back. i love that im not gaining back right now. in the old days if i messed up and ate the sundae, id wake up 5 lbs heavier. not kidding. i once lived on less than 300 cals a day for 21 days. i would stand up and see black for a couple minutes. it was not smart. once i started eatting again, i gained 10 lbs back that week. ug.