Please Help Advice Panic Binging b/c fear of being to thin

Hi everyone,

So I need some help here...I get into panic modes when someone says that I am thin, or compliments me on being thin.  I used to be an average weight person and after being sick for many years I am now a good 15 pounds lighter than I used to be.  I have a lot of food allergies and a health condition that made me have to change my diet.  I have been fine with how I am, but when I am told I look thin or too thin it triggers a fear that I will get too skinny like I ended up when I was severely ill with a stomach condition.  

This panic occured yesterday and last night I ended up consuming sooooo much, even foods I'm not supposed to have because they can give me abdominal pain.  I ate them because those were foods that would make anyone quickly gain weight.  And I did it to the extreme. Now today I am sick as a dog and feel horrible. How do I stop this?  I am seeing a psychologist about this this week but in the meantime I do not want this to keep happening. 

Also, what do I do about eating today? I am not hungry at all because I ate so much last night. I literally ate about 4000 calories total for the day (I wrote down what i could remember of what I consumed so that I can bring it to my psychologist.) 

Any advice Please help,

Thank you..

Tiffany.

It sounds like you are on the right track.  You know that the binging isn't healthy, you know that there is a problem, and you are taking steps toward helping yourself.

Try not to think too much about too thin or skinny - what matters is how you feel.  Regardless of your actual size, if you feel healthy, you will look beautiful.

Well, as you did not post your stats, it is impossible for me to determine your BMI. If you have an unhealthy BMI, then that could have helped to foster the binge mentality, along with your fears about being too thin. I think it is advisable for you to determine your BMI before taking other people's comments so personally. If it turns out that you are healthy, then you should not worry too much about it. Nevertheless, as this seems to have shaken you quite a bit, it is great that you have made the decision to seek some professional advice. 

Thank you for your responces, sorry about not posting my stats

I'm 98lbs 5 feet almost 1 inch. It took a long time for me to get to this weight and my doctor is glad that I've been able to not drop from this weight.

Original Post by audreyhip:

Thank you for your responces, sorry about not posting my stats

I'm 98lbs 5 feet almost 1 inch. It took a long time for me to get to this weight and my doctor is glad that I've been able to not drop from this weight.

Well, does your doctor believe that it is in your best interest to keep gaining? If so, then I think you should stick with his or her advice. Maybe you could work something out where you plan to exercise more, and in turn eat more for the time being. Then, once your doctor gives you the go-ahead, you could perhaps keep up the exercise but lower your intake to 2500 to maintain. Those are just my thoughts, and of course, you should continue the dialogue between you and your health-care provider. 

When I was younger I felt this same way.   I took "weight on", ate as much as I could.  I didn't reach over 100 lbs until I had a child.  It was really tragic for me because people don't realize that when they tell you "your too thin" or constantly make comments such as that you can be self conscious.  I can understand your pain.  I agree that you meeting with psychologist or therapist may help you with the overwhelming self-consciousness. 

Have you informed family members or friends that it bothers you when they comment on your weight?  I think people often forget that weight is very personal and often comment on thinness.  I used to think, would people tell some one "wow you're so fat..."  It may help if those close to you know that their comments are affecting you.

Over time my metabolism has slowed considerably.  I'm trying to change my eating habits (developed when I was thin) now and it is very difficult.  I'm finding myself becoming overweight. I recommend meeting with a nutritionist to have a "diet" specially developed for you; some people just require more calories.  Also being active and building muscle is also important.  So having an assessment with a physical trainer may help as well. 

thank you "fsdj1428",

It's comforting to know I am not alone and that you understand where I am coming from.  I have not thought of meeting with a physical trainer...I should do that as well.

Hi Ithic18,

Wow it is like I wrote what you said. I cannot even begin to tell you all the hell I went through to get diagnosed, i went to literally 20 different doctors the TOP on the east coast and it took 15 more yes 15 more to FINALLY figure out what was going on with me.  Before I got sick I was 105-110lbs, while I was severely ill i dropped down to 82lbs.  I finally got back up to 90lbs and now hover around 95-100.  

It is a relief to know that I am not the only one that suffers with having to fight off "giving in" and ignoring the fact that I cannot have certain foods due to my health.  And that I am not the only one to panic about it too.

Thank you for sharing with me, it helps a lot to know that I am not the only one getting through this on the days that seem impossible.

If ever you need someone to talk to that truly understands don't hesitate to message me.

I am so pissed off, last night I ate 5000 in one sitting because i was so sick all day that i couldn't eat. I wasn't feeling 100% the day before either so although i was able to do my exercise routine and eat a little, i didn't get my daily calorie intake...so of course by 3am last night when I started to feel better and my symptoms were going away my stomach was ravenous from two days of discomfort.  I HATE THIS. 

hi, just wondering, if youre trying to fain weight and getting the calories seems to be an issue at times, why are you excercising?

i have to exercise or else i get severe pain in my limbs, its part of my medical condition and it's a necessity for me. basically if i don't exercise i get into phsyical trouble.