Please help I think I'm Pregnant!

My partner and I decided to have intercourse for the first time on April 6th- and although I did realize it at the time, it was the exact day of my ovulation. I wasn't on birth control and we used a condom after he had already penetrated at least once (sorry to be graphic.) Luckily, he would be a 100% supportive father and if I really am pregnant- I'm ready for this.

Within the past couple of days I've been getting sleepy by 7 pm and having trouble waking up in the mourning. My feet have been swelling, my legs are cramping, I've been having hot flashes, a little nausea and retaining water like crazy. (these random symptoms started to occur before I thought I was pregnant.) I also just have this strong intuition feeling that I really am.

Anyways I was wondering how many calories should a women eat when they are pregnant? I used to eat 1800 calories a day to maintain my weight of 108-109 lbs. at 5'3.

Please any insight would help?

Congrats on the pregnancy hollyhills. I don't want to be negative. I just want to warn you. My mother got pregnant at the age of 21. Got married with the father and lived happily until they divorced. I love my family but I would have been a lot happier growing up with a father. Now, I know that this wont necessarily happen to you. I hope with all my heart that this is the beginning of your happily ever after story. I just want to warn you to protect yourself. You say that your boyfriend is supportive and so are your friends and family. Unfortunately, most women get burned at some point by men. Whether it's cheating, lying, or making promises that they don't keep. If you know that this man would die before he hurt you, believe him and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. If there is any doubt in your mind, I would proceed a lot more cautiously than you have been doing. So think hard and be careful and I hope this works out great for you!

Thank you everyone!

And don't worry I will continue to be cautious with people in general. I think that's one of the reasons I'm so fond of him because ever since I met him, he's always been extremely genuine to everyone around him and he always takes responsibility for his actions. + He has always been there for me, since the day I met him. His family is the exact same way.

Congrats hollyhills! The only thing I would suggest is maybe waiting until after your doctor appointment before telling anyone else. Just wanna be positive! :)

Congratulations!  I agree, I'd wait until after it's confirmed with the doctor's appointment to notify close friends and family members and probably wait until you start showing a bit to notify those who aren't as close.

Just in case you really are pregnant, eat at your maintenance calories and lot of healthy stuff until you're certain.  If you're not, then you'll know that for the next time you need a better method of birth control until you're ready to plan on having a baby so you don't have to worry about what if.

Don't worry about the borderline remarks over the short time you've been seeing this guy.  You'll find that everyone believes their life and situations to be unique and then everyone else gives a ton of unwanted and frequently unwarranted opinions.

Congrats hollyhills

I was 1 week from turning 24 when we found out about being pregnant.  My son was born 4 months before I turned 25.  I had met his father 1 week before I turned 18, he was 26 at the time.  We started living together about 9 months later.  I knew the day I met him he was the one for me.  Fast forward almost 20 years, we have 3 beautiful children, a great house and we are coming up to our 2 year wedding anniversary!!!

I hope you are taking your prenatal vitamins, eating well(your caloric intake may need to be upped by 300 calories in a few weeks), excerise the same way before you became pregnant but as tummy grows stop all balance excersizes and watch for any motion that puts strain on pelvic floor.  Enroll yourself in prenatal classes and I strongly recommend breastfeeding as the benefits outway any artificial formula on the market.  Also taking a few classes 2 months before baby is born at a laleche course will allow you for a more successful run at it

I loved being a younger mum!  Felt my energy level return fairly fast.  and my body recovered pretty fast as well(I dont do pregnant well but sail thru labour and delivery).  Make sure you involve you partner in the next 9 months.  Lots of dads read to the baby while in mums tummy.

Weird, what pregnancy test would tell you you are prego that soon after your ovulation date and before you would have even missed a period?

Original Post by disease_of_ease:

Weird, what pregnancy test would tell you you are prego that soon after your ovulation date and before you would have even missed a period?

 The "first response" test tells you 5 days before your missed period. Although I decided to take several tests just incase.

Original Post by spuckine:

Congrats hollyhills

I was 1 week from turning 24 when we found out about being pregnant.  My son was born 4 months before I turned 25.  I had met his father 1 week before I turned 18, he was 26 at the time.  We started living together about 9 months later.  I knew the day I met him he was the one for me.  Fast forward almost 20 years, we have 3 beautiful children, a great house and we are coming up to our 2 year wedding anniversary!!!

I hope you are taking your prenatal vitamins, eating well(your caloric intake may need to be upped by 300 calories in a few weeks), excerise the same way before you became pregnant but as tummy grows stop all balance excersizes and watch for any motion that puts strain on pelvic floor.  Enroll yourself in prenatal classes and I strongly recommend breastfeeding as the benefits outway any artificial formula on the market.  Also taking a few classes 2 months before baby is born at a laleche course will allow you for a more successful run at it

I loved being a younger mum!  Felt my energy level return fairly fast.  and my body recovered pretty fast as well(I dont do pregnant well but sail thru labour and delivery).  Make sure you involve you partner in the next 9 months.  Lots of dads read to the baby while in mums tummy.

 Thanks again!

My maintenance calorie level is 1800 so was thinking that 2000 calories a day would be good for now. Also I'm gonna continue to speed walk on the treadmill each day+ regular walking. I'll make sure to ask my doctor at my appointment next week if this amount of food and exercise is right. We're also gonna discuss me starting my prenatal care. Speaking of which, I bought some prenatal vitamins yesterday. I also wanted to take some classes and do LOTS and LOTS of reading. I just feel very fortunate to have so many supportive people in my life- many of which are mothers of all ages, so they have lots of good advice and stories to offer. I do plan on breastfeeding since that's the healthiest. I feel like I have so much to learn already!

Oh true, but I think the first reponse tests have a lower level of accuracy. I know they are rare, but false positives do happen, you have a blood test set up with your doc, right?

Good luck! :)

Yes I do! Plus I also wanted to take several at home tests so that I could be 100% sure. ( my best friend had to take a few tests before one came out positive, even though she had a feeling all along that she was pregnant- and now she has a daughter.) But yes I'm going to the doctor next week.

When I was pregnant with my 10 mo old, I was told:

 

In the 1st trimester, you don't need extra calories- just don't diet. 2T you need about 200 extra cal and 3T you need about 500 extra. Breast Feeding you need about 600 extra.

 

HTH

 

Fliese

Hollyhills:  My sincerest congratulations to you!  I am very happy for you and sincerely wish you all the best!

However, I do still have to agree with Heather.  I think there may have been more going on here than you let us know because statistically i'd find it hard to believe that you got pregnant in the situation you described.  I dont pretend to know everything about everything though and it may be possible, I just have a hard time believing it in general.  I am in school for biostatistics, and its just really hard to believe.

Also, ok i stand corrected about the "boy" and "girl" sperm.  I did some research outside of this conversation and you're right.  That just sounded odd to me for some reason because I was under the impression that gametes have a half set of chromosomes but include both and X and an Y.  My bad.

So was it today you were going to the doctor?

I hope you educate yourself a bit, because I was a bit worried about your lack of sexual/reproductive knowledge. 

Weird, what pregnancy test would tell you you are prego that soon after your ovulation date and before you would have even missed a period?

It worked that way for me. I hadn't even missed my period yet and it came up positive. Two days later (a Monday) I went to the doctor and they did an ultrasound and I was pregnant. Same with my coworker who just found out she was pregnant.

Well oddly enough, that is how it worked out.

so it's official??  is that what the doc said?  congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!  how did your appt go? 

I do admit your optimism is a bit peculiar when it comes to having a baby. I personally would not want to be pregnant from the first time having sex with a boy i've only been dating for less than two months, it seems movies like Juno and Knocked up have been shedding too much positive light on accidental pregnancies, life doesn't always (if even ever) end happily. To be honest you kind of remind me of the type of person who would sleep with a guy, tell them you're on birth control and then dump your pills in the toilet, in hopes that you can get pregnant. You say you're not a teen, but an adult, but you sound like an immature person to be. I really don't know anyone who "wasn't planning" on getting pregnant to be so concerned with being pregnant so soon after pregnancy, or well let's see if I could put it in a better way. People who WANT to get pregnant are extremely excited to see if they are pregnant as soon as possible, where as people who don't want to be pregnant, and FEAR they are pregnant are not excited, but have the same urgent need to find out as soon as possible. From the looks of it, you wanted to be pregnant, you're whole "oops it was my ovulation day tee hee" scenario seems rather fishy, especially when to calculate that, you would have probably had to have been doing it for awhile to put up enough information about your cycle. Please don't take my post the wrong way, I think bringing life into the world is amazing, and if you are pregnant I congratulate you, but your post just seems really off to me.

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LOL! You guys started dating less than a month ago! Wow.

 Stop being mean. If she is excited about it and she and her boyfriend are willing to support the child, whether she knows what she is getting into or not, she is already way ahead of most unplanned pregnancies between unmarried couples.