Could I be PREGNANT?

I unfortunately don't have the money to buy a pregnancy test (even though they are only like 15-20 bucks) and I'm young (I'm 19) I'm really embarrased to go into the doctor to have a test. But I am. I have an appointment on Friday. But it's just killing me. I want to know now. What do you think?

Conception may have happened on January 10th. I had my period the DAY AFTER and it was a normal period. My schedule is a 30 day cycle and sometimes, very rarely, 31 days (yes, I keep track of it in my 'menstrual journal' ever since i got it at nine years old). Today would be day 37! I have not had a late period since I was 12. No joke. No late period since I was 12.

I didn't think it was possible to get pregnant, because I had my period right after. but. Apparently women can get pregnant EVEN ON THEIR PERIOD! I didn't know this! Apparently there's still a chance of it happening, though slim, its still a chance. Apparently some women have what seems to be their regular period up until the day they give birth! WHAAAT!??

I don't really feel that sick or anything. for the past week though ive felt a little queasy at random times in the day. i thought it was too early for morning sickness but a friend was telling me that some women experience it in the first month. i have a little bit of weight gain and a general bloaty feeling. I'm just really worried. I would go have an abortion because im not ready to be pregnant or to be a mother.

im just scared. someone please tell me what you think of my 'symptoms'!

EDIT above, when i say im not ready, i mean physically and mentally. i have my own private medical reasons why i am not ready for not only motherhood but the pregnancy as well

Why would you be embarrassed to see the doctor? They are not there to judge you but to make sure you are as healthy and well cared for as possible.

I had somewhat regular "periods" with my first pregnancy. They were light and didn't last more than a couple days. My doctor said it happens. With my second pregnancy, I started having food aversions and nausea around 4 or 5 weeks after my LMP.

That being said, all of these symptoms you're describing could also be PMS. Even though you've been regular all your life, your body changes several times as you age. You could be starting a longer cycle or just be late because of stress.

Choosing an abortion because you're not ready to be pregnant or a mother is fairly selfish. This is coming from someone who considered an abortion when I found out I was pregnant at 21. I don't like being preachy but you chose to have sex and risk becoming pregnant when you weren't ready and you're going to end a baby's life? I'm all for women having the right to choose abortion but I wish women would consider adoption instead. I wouldn't change a thing about my life and it makes me cry every time I recall that I thought about ending my daughter's life. Thank goodness I didn't because she makes my life wonderful.

That's it! I won't be preachy any more . Best of luck to you and I hope for your sake (and possibly a baby's) that you're not pregnant.

Good luck.

For the record, don't ever believe 'it isn't possible to do (x) while doing (y)'

For the love of all things holy, use a condom.  Always.  Every time.  Or don't do it.  Even condoms fail, so don't use old ones, ones near their exp. date, and always use ones with spermicide.

You should get an apt. with a gynocologist and talk about birth control pills, IUD or shots if you're going to continute to be sexually active.  It's vital that you start getting regular check ups 'down there' and a record of pap smears.

Wether you are 20, 30 or any age, get your partner tested before unprotected sex, even if they say they haven't done it before, or always did it with a condom.. you'll save yourself a lot of problems later on.

For the record, I don't have and never got HPV, or any other STD, because I was as safe as I could be while still being active.

Please becareful with your body.. it's the only one you got.

i never had unprotected sex. for the record. but there was an incident where it came off during the pull-out. i figured because i was so close to my period (and i was, i got it the next day) that nothing would happen. also, to the first reply, im pro-choice, because at this point in my pregnancy (if i am pregnant) it doesnt yet have a conscioud, so i wouldnt consider it alive.

even if it is, i dont just WANT an abortion. i would NEED it, though the reasons are my own private medical reasons. maybe next time you can wait to pass judgement until you know more about what youre judging. im not selfish.

I don't agree that abortion is selfish.......................I think abortion is a personal right.....................

I've had the whole condom pull off during sex too-----and wasn't pregnant..But did worry like you--I think you should take a test just for the heck of it, what will it hurt you already have an appointment and hey maybe it will save you a few bucks???? I understand where you are coming from........Here to support you....Lots of people have been in your shoes don't feel embarrassed, doctors are used to it....O' and maybe you could think about a back up method  for birth control next time? Maybe even have Plan B on hand if necessary(you don't need a prescription, you just go to your local pharmacy and ask for it, it cost like $80), always good to be prepared.....................

Original Post by believe123:

even if it is, i dont just WANT an abortion. i would NEED it, though the reasons are my own private medical reasons. maybe next time you can wait to pass judgement until you know more about what youre judging. im not selfish. 

I did not call you selfish. I called your action selfish. I did not pass judgement on you. I stated my opinion of abortion in general. I also replied based on what information was given in the original post. Maybe if you're not physically or emotionally ready and able to have a baby, you should not have sex since abstinence is the only 100% effective birth control. My reply may have been different had I known that there is a possible medical condition that would warrant an abortion.

booster1, I agree that abortion is a personal right as I stated in my original post: "I'm all for women having the right to choose abortion..." (not sure if the second half of your sentence was directed toward me or not). I think that choosing abortion is selfish when a woman wants to have sex and continue living her lifestyle at the expense of a baby's life. Terminating a pregnancy due to a medical condition that would affect both a mother and unborn child (risking the life of the mother/mother and baby) is a different situation and, in my opinion, warranted. I would have made this point in my first post had the original poster mentioned that there was a medical condition.

believe123, I have been in your situation and have had to make the same decision. I know how upsetting, stressful and difficult it is. I did not have a medical reason for considering abortion but it certainly was an option for us. I really do hope that for the better good of everyone that your test results come back negative. If it's positive, I wish you a speedy recovery and hope that it doesn't have a negative effect on you (physically or emotionally...I've heard women can have a tough time dealing even when the pregnancy wasn't wanted). Also, stressing about being pregnant could very well delay your period. Hopefully you'll be able to relax soon and things will return to normal for you :)

Edited to add: Discussing abortion is a slippery slope. I probably should have kept my opinions to myself. I do think that your symptoms could either be early pregnancy symptoms or PMS. It's hard to tell the difference between the two because the symptoms are so similar. Unfortunately, it sounds like you'll just have to wait for the test on Friday or until your period starts...whichever comes first. I know the waiting is agonizing but if purchasing a test is out of the question, you don't have another option. Won't you have to pay at least a copay at the doctor or more if you don't have insurance? Wouldn't a pregnancy test be less expensive or about the same cost as a copay?

Dollar stores have pregnancy tests over by the pads and stuff.  Buy one of those to help set your mind at ease.  They are just as accurate as the 10 dollar ones. 

Then when you go to the doctor perhaps you could get a different kind of birth control as a back up- like the pill or spermicide foam (non-prescription) in addition to the condom so this won't happen again.

Maybe you're just late because of the stress you're under about this whole thing.  If you're pregnant- carefully consider your options and discuss them with your doctor.  Just so you know, I'm about as pregnant as you would be right now, and the baby already has a heart beat and eyes and nose developing...  just think about all of your options first and do what you need to do.

Good luck!

Have you been losing weight recently?  I know that my periods were less reliable when I was about your age and I weighed very little.  That could easily explain it.  I HIGHLY doubt you're pregnant, but the dollar store test idea sounds perfect.  My local Dollar Tree has them.

As to the abortion thing, PLEASE don't worry about anybody else's opinion that has posted on this thread.  Your health, mental and physical, should be your only concern right now!

Obviously still go to the doctor and get the test done, but if it's any comfort, it's pretty unlikely that you're pregnant from sex the day before your period.  At that point, your egg has been dead for a couple of weeks and shedding the blood during your period would clean out any sperm left.  True, if you were already somehow pregnant before the condom mishap, it may not have been an actual period, but spotting.  But from what you've said, that seems unlikely.  I know you've never been late before, but our bodies change.  There are dozens of reasons why your period could be late.  The queasiness and bloating might honestly be symptoms of whatever it is that's delaying your cycle and not necessarily symptoms of pregnancy.  Another reason to see the doctor.  And please, don't be embarassed about seeing the doctor for this.  That's what they're there for.  Good luck!  Let us know how it turns out.

If you're in the US, you could contact Planned Parenthood, often they have free pregnancy tests. They could also refer you for an abortion, if you should need one.

But don't put the cart before the horse. Take the test first. Try not to freak out until you have something to freak out about.

Good luck.

I work for a crisis pregnancy center, and we offer free pregnancy tests and limited ultrasounds to confirm pregnancy... most cities have at least one organization like this.

Before you decide about abortion, PLEASE research it thoroughly. It's really not a simple procedure, and depending upon how far along you are in the pregnancy, can really really wreak havoc on your body and mind.

That being said, I really don't think you're pregnant.

Original Post by counselork:

I work for a crisis pregnancy center, and we offer free pregnancy tests and limited ultrasounds to confirm pregnancy... most cities have at least one organization like this.

Before you decide about abortion, PLEASE research it thoroughly. It's really not a simple procedure, and depending upon how far along you are in the pregnancy, can really really wreak havoc on your body and mind.

That being said, I really don't think you're pregnant.

Just be aware that crisis pregnancy centers are run by pro-life groups with the express purpose of preventing women from getting abortions: they do not provide abortions, do not refer for abortions, try to talk you out of abortions, and some have been known to provide misinformation about abortion as well as lie about your pregnancy test and ultrasound results if it can stop you from having an abortion.

More information about crisis pregnancy centers can be found here.

Take a pregnancy test at a reputed clinic, or suck it up and buy a cheap one at the drugstore (they really aren't that expensive, you could easily borrow that amount of money). Then think about your options and make the right decision for you. Here is a workbook that can help you make a decision, if you need to. Only you know what is best for your life and your pregnancy.