Am I Pregnant? Please help me!

Hi everyone

I have this very disturbing problem right now. I consider myself healthy and my periods are regular. But I'm late for almost 2 cycles right now and I tried for the pregnancy test 4 times, once with a doctor and all came out negative.

I'm not saying that I might be pregnant but coincidently the time I had sex was the time when I was actually really fertile and ovulating and we didn't use any protection. But he used the withdrawal method though. And ever since then I haven't gotten my period yet and I just want to know the chances of me getting pregnant. I read through a lot of pregnancy symptoms but I don't really have sore breasts, morning sickness and such. But I do get nauseous when something smells, I have food cravings but at times I don't feel like eating, and I have a serious mood swings and fatigue problem lately. And I sometimes feel sharp pains bellow the navel and pelvis.

I don't know what to expect right now, because I'm only 21 and whatever it is, I know what to do if I happen to be pregnant. But the thing is, I really really want to know what is actually happening to me and I really need your opinions on this matter because this is my first time I ever got into this kind of situation. I don't feel satisfied with the tests and I really really need your advice. Please.

The fact is, though, that pulling out is not a proper form of birth control. You can still get pregnant using this method because it is not a safe method, and no one can deny that. Again, look at all the women who responded to this topic who are having or who have had babies because of the pull out "method" failing. Yes, condoms break and birth control pills can fail but the likelihood of getting pregnant using the pull out method is far greater than having the other actual forms of bc fail.

I won't debate if there is sperm in pre **** because that was not my original point. My point was that if you don't know what can and cannot get you pregnant, don't have sex, or at least use a condom. Schools should be teaching this stuff in their sex ed programs so confused girls don't end up pregnant.

Actually, there are more risky types of birth control than the withdrawal method:

Withdrawal: 18% chance of getting pregnant

Diaphragm: 20%

Sponge: 20% (no previous births) or 40% (previous births)

Cervical Cap: 20% (no previous births) or 40% (previous births)

Female Condom: 21%

Spermicide: 26%

Natural Family Planning: 25%

If the definition of birth control is taking measures to prevent pregnancy, then I'd say withdrawal is one of the better forms of birth control to use. It reduces the chance of pregnancy from 85% to 18%. That's a big drop. Even condoms have an 11-16% failure rate. There's not much difference between that and 18%.

Source: FDA

Note: These failure rates are over a period of 12 months, not each use.

Original Post by keo187:

Look at all the women who have commented on this topic who have had or are having babies because their partner pulled out.

 Haha. Ah, such a good point.

SO where did the OP go? I'm sure there's a few of us that would like an update...we don't have to know the outcome..its none of our business, but you made it our business...at least did you go to the doctor? 

Original Post by nora_946:

I really hope that the stress is causing my period to be late, because I have never been this late before. I heard if you reach 5 weeks you can get an ultrasound and be able to detect the baby How much is the cost of having an ultrasound?

Thanks guys I really really appreciate your advices and keeping me company through this time. 

 Yup, I had an ultrasound at about 5 weeks to see if I had an etopic placement because I had pain and tenderness around the pelvis area. I have medical insurance that paid everything, so I don't know how much it costs.

If I remember correctly, I paid $75 for an ultrasound back in 2004. It was at a clinic and it basically confirmed I was pregnant and gave me the gestational age and nothing else.