Pretending to be Health-Concious...

My friend (who I am always a little bit annoyed by, to be honest) is a little bit, kinda, sorta...fat. There's no other way to say it, but she definitely is overweight. Don't get me wrong, I used to eat just like her -never got as big as her, but I probably could've. Whenever we hang out, it's always centered around food. Ok, you can tell me we should go mountain climbing or whatever instead, but she would prefer Starbucks. Some of the things that really tick me off:

• she won't eat unless I eat.
  
• when I do observe her eat, she eats SO fast. like with grapes, she just pops them in, one after another. Then she starts eating my food.
  
• she keeps food in her room. Like, 100 calorie packs and stupid "healthy stuff" that's really tiny portions of junk food.
  
• she gets winded walking ANYWHERE.
• she watches so much TV that she's always making references to some TV show I've never heard of, or complaining about a commercial she's seen 1000 times when I've never seen it.
• she drinks this ridiculous high calorie juice with more calories than Coke and says she can't start her day without it.
  
• ect, ect...
  

But if she were happy the way she were, I wouldn't be posting about her. It's that she hates her body, is WAY self-concious, and totally sensitive about her weight. And somehow she can't figure it out!

Anyone else feel like they can sympathize about their friends who just seem to be oblivious to how badly they're treating their bodies (and can't figure out why they're overweight)? Anybody want to yell at me and say I'm judgemental and a brat? Most importantly, is it normal that this drives me crazy?

I think you shouldn't put her down because of her choice to be her kind of "health-conscious". You should be glad she isn't anorexic, because that really hurts alot, to see a close friend turn anorexic.

Original Post by alibsam:

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You have to keep in mind that people aren't going to lose weight until they're ready. If you're going to be her friend you just need to be supportive. If she mentions wanting to lose weight then just say "Hey... this is what has worked for me and if you want any help or want to talk, I'm here for you."

But you are coming off very condescending here like you can't stand this girl because she's overweight and honestly... if you don't care about her weight then don't worry about what she eats.

No, she pretty clearly said it would be fine "if she were happy the way she were", but it's the equivalent of someone getting bad grades, never doing their homework, and then complaining about it.

If she didn't care she wouldn't complain about it on a messageboard.