This probably sounds odd but...

okay well i always have maintained a healthy weight. i mean very healthy. like 10% body fat. and i am quite toned etc. its because im an athlete. however i decided to start eating healthy and i got sucked into calorie counting...!!! such a mistake. i was maintaining a healthy weight eating an average diet (eg a good few fatty foods.)

so when i started counting calories i noticed my food intake went severly down. i was so hungry!! i cut out all bad foods and ate 100% healthy. but i was starving. So should i just forget the calories!??? just eat how much i want and whenever? but i will still eat only healthy foods of course... this seems like the better option right?

Well, then, I would suggest you quit counting calories.  However, eating healthy is a no-brainer.  Include a lot of fruits and vegetables, lean meat and poultry, legumes and nuts, whole grains, fish, etc. in your diet.  Lay off of too many saturated fats and transfats.  Watch out for too much sodium and refined sugar foods.  It seems to me that you are athletic and instinctively know what you can eat.  You would want to, in my opinion, still eat healthy and do some research on what are important foods to include in your diet.  Some "bad foods," in moderation, are actually good for us.  For example, things like walnuts-peanut butter-almonds are healthy foods when not abused.  The same is true for egg yolks for most people who are not watching calories.  Lean cuts of beef and pork are also healthy for normal people.  I don't see any reason for you to count calories as long as you know you were eating healthy and not gaining body fat.

if you were maintaing a healthy weight at 10% body fat before then i HIGHLY doubt that anything was wrong with your former diet, so maybe your definition of "healthy diet" has changed drastically to eliminate foods that are actually healthy, but maybe higher in calories than other choices. 

nuts, olives, avocados, lean meats...whether chicken, turkey, beef, or pork, can all be incorporated into a healthy diet. Pasta, rice, lentils, beans, bread, and other carbohydrates are also healthy. 

So, not counting is probably a good idea but it's probably a good idea to also define what you mean when you say healthy because being overly restrictive is not healthy, which is what it sounds like you might be doing.

So, what is healthy to you and while counting calories, how many did you typically consume? i feel like you might be being intentionally ambiguous about your intake, so forgive me if i'm wrong but it sounds like you may have developed an unhealthy relationship toward food rather than a healthy one. any food in moderation is okay, and most foods are "good" on some level in the sense that they provide you with energy, and at least some nutrients so don't see it as all or nothing. it's great that you recognized that this was becoming a problem, that's a good sign that you are actually mindful of your health. did you drop a considerable amount of weight?