Problems with eating healthy

Hey, im having a bit of (a massive) problem. Dont really know how to describe this. But my father is very, very cheap. I mean VERY cheap. He only buys food thats on sale wether its old, full of chemicals, whatever. He admitted himself that the quality of food has no affect on him, he could care less what he eats/feeds his family as long as its cheap.

He only buys cheap, old, unhealthy food, therefore he always cooks weird tasting unhealthy food (usually extremely high in fat) He uses butter to fry everything and he has no problem slabbing on a few layers to make it taste good. He doesnt give two craps about health or calories, and it shows in his belly.

That aside, it's been very difficult for me to get in the nutrition i need for an 18 year old. He initially threw a huge fit about having to buy me fresh fruit and yogurt, but i was persistant. Til this day he still makes remarks about how i should just eat what i get.

As you've already guessed, that makes it hard for me to lose weight. He throws huge fits in the grocery store if i pick up something and put it in the cart without his consent. He yelled at me in the store one time when i asked him if we could just buy "normal food like everyone else". His answer was (as he started to yell) that im too demanding and that i just want expensive food, and that im ungreatful.

So i've been living off of oatmeal, bread, musli, yogurt, and fruit. Because thats all he'll let me have, unless i eat what he cooks.

I have no money to pay for my own food, and i know i shouldnt have to, i dont have a job, because school is too demanding. Even if i did buy my own food, he would eat it.

I really consider to use my birthday money i get from family members to buy some healthy food, i dont nearly get enough fat or protein. I just wish there was a way. I've tried talking to him, he just yells.

This the same father thats called me fat throughout my whole childhood, and still refuses to buy healthy food. He buys the same thing all the time and refuses to deviate from it, unless its cheaper.

What should i do? I feel so deprived, i eat the same thing everyday, my mealplans are identical monday-sunday.

And i honestly think this has something to do with my 2 month weightloss stalls..I dont know what to do.

Original Post by healthisinplease:

I know that, but since he's  belittled me for my weight my entire life shouldnt he at least contribute to a healthier diet? He doesnt feel like its his responsibility, because its ME who's carrying around the extra pounds.

Being in control is an addiction so don't drive yourself crazy trying to find a rational explanation for his current or past behavior, there isn't one. You've gotten great advice on this thread, I agree that the sooner you remove yourself from his sphere of influence, the better off you will be.

I speak from experience, I let my parents control me with money, housing and their approval for way longer than I should have. When I finally broke the chains of their influence, I got much healthier both physically and emotionally and my relationship with them improved immensely.  YMMV!

Original Post by umneydurak:

Original Post by healthisinplease:
He stocks up on food so he doesnt have to leave the house more than once w month. He buys expired frozen meats, hot dogs, bake in the oven fries, rice, stuff like popcorn, chips, candy, bacon, mayonnaise, if he gets frozen pizza, he adds layers of bacon and cheese on it, he buys low quality "bread toppings" the salami is cheap and gross, he lets food go bad in his fridge, last night he fried a bologna sousage in fat and oil *barf*.

Most of his foods are protein and transfatty.

It is hard for me to imagine that those frozen meats, pizzas, popcorn, chips, candy are cheaper then dried beans, potatoes. Try doing the cost comparison per serving. For example a big bad of dried beans might be more expensive then frozen pizza, but it will have way more servings then pizza. Thus in reality per serving the cost is less. You said you are getting 240 euros from the government why not start buying food yourself? See if your friends can keep what is perishable in their fridge.

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I wish i got 240 euros. I get 165 a month. lol. He doesnt cook much. But that money i already spend on things im afraid to ask of him. I've spent it on my school supplies and fees, and like a new waterbottle because mine was broken, things like that. I guess i could save a little to the side maybe.