Problems getting started? Help?

Well I make my own food for every meal except for dinner where its a big (literally) family thing. My mother takes it a personal offense if you don't eat everything she makes. It happens every evening and I have terrible problems resisting her dinners. Is there anything I can do? I have asked her to make less bread for me, but all she does is make more and double the butter (I seriously am not exaggerating) so I will want to eat it. Lame!

Take smaller portions. Count every bite. If your mom doesn't support you- then microwave a lean cuisine or something. I'd rather be healthy and face the wrath of mom.

Maybe it's because your mom thinks you don't have to lose weight. Like what awiita said, eat in moderation.

I'm pretty sure that it's easier to conquor a soverigne nation than to defeat Mom's Cooking.

Of course, the site being what it is, my eating disorder alarms go off.

However, as far as I know, this is one of those places where there really isn't a good solution, save things like going into family therapy. Food is funny like that. So either bear her offense, eat less throughout the day to compensate, or move.

Talk to your mother.  If you're overweight you could discuss how you feel about that and how you'd like her help in getting to a healthy weight.  If you're not overweight talk about healthy-eating... tell her that you love her food but you'd appreciate a little less butter on the bread, a few more vegetables.  Ask her what she thinks.   Tell her what you think.  Keep it calm and mature.  Better to have a woman-to-woman conversation rather than this silent stand-off where everyone's assuming everyone else is thinking/feeling/acting a certain way....  Mothers, generally speaking, want their children to be healthy and happy.  Yours, I expect, is no different.

Wait a minute... she butters your bread for you?  Now that's carrying it too far.  Even my mother never did that.  Most people just put the bread and butter on the table and everyone takes what they want. 

Other than that it sounds like she's trying to feed you up, maybe because she's worried about you if you are too thin.  I hope you can have a nice, adult conversation that will reassure her or will help you understand where she's coming from.

I checked back through some of your old posts and note that you're 16, 5'6, very active with ballet (?) and and you're a healthy weight at 120-130lbs.    Your mother's cooking therefore hasn't made you fat or unhealthy....  Do talk to your mum about your concerns about weight, health, diet etc.  I think her actions sound like someone worried that their child isn't eating enough rather than anything sinister or malicious.

What a wonderful response! My husband and I are attempting to conquer our weight gain. Thus far he has shed 8 lbs and I have maintained! But I needed to hear your words - I need to make more veggies for our dinners, make leaner meals etc.

Plus I have two little girls - 2.5 yrs old and 3.5 month old - We need to eat well for them too -

thanks