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Calorie Count Calorie Camp Issue Jan 16 2012
13:23 (UTC)
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Additionally, none of the goals I completed are counted (for example, I should have 1/5 for most goals, but they all say 0/5)

The Lounge What actor do you wish would go away? Which one do you wish were cast in every movie? Jul 21 2011
22:58 (UTC)
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More of: Joaquin Phoenix, Joseph Gordon Levitt, Josh Holloway and Ed Stoppard.

Less of: Shia Labeuof

Young Calorie Counters Aspiring model needs some advice Jul 14 2011
13:27 (UTC)
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The way I look at it, if you look the way you do (and your picture looks amazing), you're abundantly healthy and take care of yourself to the point that you have nice muscle definition and are physically fit, then 99% of the world wants to have your body. The 1% missing from that pool of envy are the modelling agencies who push unhealthy and unnatural images.

You look great. I say nay, don't lose 5lbs or 5kgs (of which would be mostly be muscle...)

The Lounge 'pinions, please. Jul 05 2011
04:18 (UTC)
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Original Post by muttlover:

Original Post by 8jk7:

Original Post by luvs2eat:

My first reaction is myob. I guess, to form an opinion I'd need to know how your dad feels. He's paying for it and he lives with her. If he doesn't care, well then there's not much you can do.

I think I'm put off by what your expectations are for her. She doesn't have to live her life according to your rules. You're an adult, she doesn't have to take care of you anymore.

I hope you have real concern for her and I just took your post the wrong way, as I understand it a gambling addiction can be bad. Best of luck.

What originally inspired my post was that the other day my father asked me how I and my siblings would feel if he left my mother. He says he is fed up with her gambling as it is detracting from their relationship. He feels my mother is severely anti-social and incapable of enjoying anything other then her daily gambling. He also fears she would take up the offer and senselessly blow 50% of everything they share.

They have lost their common ground, as they never spend time together or do anything other then go to the mall or lunch once in a while. My dad works during the week and plays golf all weekend, and he comes home stressed and tired a lot so my mother is left to her own devices and opts for bingo as a permanent, listless filler of her days. I just want her to find a truer happiness, for her and my dad.

Suggest that your father ask your mother to go to couple's counseling. It sounds like gambling isn't the only problem in their marriage.

I couldn't agree more, but my mom debunked that idea; she said they've seen about a dozen over the last decade. I also made a phone call to my sister's old therapist this afternoon, which will hopefully help me sort a whole slew of things out. Dysfunction happens to run ripe in my brood.

The Lounge 'pinions, please. Jul 05 2011
04:13 (UTC)
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I had a nice long talk with her earlier today and we hashed out quite a bit. And no, she didn't make me a sandwich.

We also went to the community centre after and looked up some cooking and art classes we plan to take together, and she's trying to find a way to join beginner golf lessons. I'd say that's huge progress, but then again, don't wanna play the arbiter.

The Lounge 'pinions, please. Jul 05 2011
04:11 (UTC)
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Original Post by michaelduff:

I have you openly communicated that the final arbiter of what is enjoyable, fulfilling, fun and relaxing, is you??

How could she possibly know that you are the only one who knows what's good for her unless you are direct and tell her.

An example of the conversations:

You: Mum I have determined that gambling is not fun, those people aren't really friends.  You must learn another language.

Mum: Its my life and I enjoy it.

You: Make me a sammich.

 

Wow, I'm impressed. Really. You really captured my argument so eloquently. Good on ya.

The Lounge 'pinions, please. Jul 05 2011
04:07 (UTC)
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Original Post by luvs2eat:

My first reaction is myob. I guess, to form an opinion I'd need to know how your dad feels. He's paying for it and he lives with her. If he doesn't care, well then there's not much you can do.

I think I'm put off by what your expectations are for her. She doesn't have to live her life according to your rules. You're an adult, she doesn't have to take care of you anymore.

I hope you have real concern for her and I just took your post the wrong way, as I understand it a gambling addiction can be bad. Best of luck.

What originally inspired my post was that the other day my father asked me how I and my siblings would feel if he left my mother. He says he is fed up with her gambling as it is detracting from their relationship. He feels my mother is severely anti-social and incapable of enjoying anything other then her daily gambling. He also fears she would take up the offer and senselessly blow 50% of everything they share.

They have lost their common ground, as they never spend time together or do anything other then go to the mall or lunch once in a while. My dad works during the week and plays golf all weekend, and he comes home stressed and tired a lot so my mother is left to her own devices and opts for bingo as a permanent, listless filler of her days. I just want her to find a truer happiness, for her and my dad.

The Lounge 'pinions, please. Jul 05 2011
03:59 (UTC)
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And I quote "My problem is she has shut herself off from the world." 

I only care for my mom's happiness. I wish she would apply herself more to other avenues purely for her own self benefice. I am entirely capable of taking care of myself, and I do. I didn't mean to come across as having expectations for her, and I am not reliant upon her in the slightest. My argument/statement wasn't that I want her to do more for me, I just want her to do more for herself.

She is in a constant state of mildly-contented boredom, and I wish she would see all that life has to offer her past the bingo hall.

The Lounge Rallying All Fur-Parents: I Need Your Advice! Jun 23 2011
21:39 (UTC)
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Original Post by kotov_syndrome:

Luxating patellas are debilitating. At her age, the surgery is the only way to go. Meds will damage certain organs during long-term use. I'd also have her checked out for any other conditions, via the OFA. Go to their website and you can print applications for a ton of conditions, espcially dysplasia and any eye, ear, and heart problems--which Aussies and other similar breeds are notorious for. For her ears, you'll want BAER testing.

Standard breeder contracts guarantee the health of a puppy against genetic abrnormality for two years. Compensation is usually either a new puppy or reimbursement for the first. You've gotten that. If it is not in your contract that the breeder cover any vet costs, resulting from hereditary conditions, she's not liable to do so. You signed the contract. You can take her to small claims court, but I don't think it will be in your favor. Genetic **** ups happen, that's why breeders have contracts. Did your breeder sign the Breeders' Code of Ethics? If so, inform their board that she gave you a hard time and a lot of bluster about having the pup spayed too early (which is bogus, a lot of breeders try to sell that line, and it's pretty widely believed--fact is, if it was going to happen, it was simply going to happen).

Oh, and just as an aside, it's not "hawk". It's "hock". :) It refers to the pasterns.

Annd, I don't think the OP wants a new pup. From what I understood, the breeder sold a puppy and gave the OP the original cost of Atlas from that sale.

I have already received full reimbursement from the (reluctant) breeder and I am looking to go no further in dealing with/contacting her, but she certainly has troubled me. She seemed convinced that Atlas could be suffering from hypothyroidism, and recommended that I get her checked out by her specialist. She said her "look" and coat was "off"... I think my pup's handsomely pretty. Anyways, the point is the breeder completely disputed the patella luxation, which I cannot be certain if that was her way of alleviating blame from her breeding practices, or if she genuinely thinks it's necessary. I would hope she would uphold what is in the best interest of my pup, but she also said (as she was looking at her) that she "could just put her down and give me a replacement."

Thank you all for your replies so far, they've been very helpful in my own quest of self-negotiation. I am leaning heavily towards arranging the surgery, but I may just take little Atty to the specialist first just to be sure.

The Lounge Rallying All Fur-Parents: I Need Your Advice! Jun 23 2011
16:27 (UTC)
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I can afford the surgery, and I have $750 from the breeder now, but since it is in both legs, I may have to pay for two rounds of surgery, which can be anywhere from $2,000-$5,000.

She's a Miniature by nature, and supposedly her whole litter is fine.

The Lounge Xbox or Wii quest games for beginners Dec 12 2010
17:44 (UTC)
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Oblivion (Elder Scrolls)

The Lounge puppy names! Nov 14 2010
22:00 (UTC)
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Theo (Theodore) or Aurora

The Lounge desperate need of ideas for my photography project!! help pleaseee :) Oct 27 2010
16:44 (UTC)
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I think investigating the boundaries between the natural and what is man-made/artificial would be an interesting topic to explore. Maybe you should try defining visual/temporal/spatial relationship of the two, which would lend to pretty profound themes and conclusions about human nature.

Foods Activia Feb 05 2010
16:54 (UTC)
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I personally think it has a distinct taste, but not a displeasing one.

But I generally avoid Activia. I prefer Astro Biobest or Silhouette. If I remember correctly, the regular vanilla kind of Activia is fairly high in unnecessary sugar.

The Lounge Books to Movies--- specifically The Road Jan 09 2010
02:33 (UTC)
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Aasil, what was it that you liked about Choke? I turned it off after 20 minutes, but that was a while ago...

The Road quite simply is my favourite movie. If not of all time, it certainly is of this millennia. And for the record, I watched it first in theatres, and then went on to read the book.

I can chalk my affection up to a severe love of McCarthy's perfect archetypal construct of a post-apocalyptic world and a personal obsession with base survivalism. Oh my, I'm getting pumped just thinking about it.

Ugh. You kids just gotta see it. I can honestly say this movie plays in my head more often then not.

 

Recipes awesome pancake recipe!!! Nov 22 2009
00:49 (UTC)
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Oh my perfect! Finally a recipe where I actually have every ingredient in stock...

If I don't have pam, and I don't want to use oil, can I still make them?

Thank you Phoebe!

Foods What's in your kitchen? Nov 18 2009
02:57 (UTC)
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Capital idea Hilary! If anyone can think of interesting/easy recipes to make snacks/meals with what I've got in stock, I'd be more than greatly appreciative.

Fridge Contents:

Lactose Free Skim Milk, Biobest Plain Yogurt, 1% Cottage Cheese, No Sugar Added Pudding (Vanilla, Dulce de Leche and Rice Pudding), Unsweetened Apple Sauce, Lettuce, Tomato, Cucumber, Red Pepper, Baby Carrots, Bananas, Oranges, App les, Egg Whites, Frozen Chicken Breasts, Frozen Berry Mix

Pantry:

Kashi Go Lean, Large Flake Oats, Fibre One, Alpen, All-Bran Strawberry Medley, Canned Tuna, Canned Soups, Almonds, Kashi Granola Bars, Ground Cinnamon, Balsamic Vinegar, Hot Chocolate, Tea

That's about all. I usually keep stock on all of the above at all times... I tend to eat a lot of oatmeal and salad, incorporating various ingredients mentioned above.

 

Foods Cottage Cheese and Baby Carrots Nov 10 2009
03:50 (UTC)
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I'm fresh out of stock now, but amen Ilisa.

The combo was aaalright, but I definitely prefer apples and frozen berries. Or applesauce. Or flavoured yogurt. Or on top of a steaming pile of loaded, cinnamony oatmeal. Damn, I do believe I'm getting hungry.

Thanks for the suggestions Chrissy - they all sound delicious... and if you're making it, I'm taking it.

:)

Calorie Count did it always say "there's strength in numbers"? Nov 09 2009
21:33 (UTC)
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I like it.

The other day, I was weighing an apple in my kitchen, and it suddenly came to me that the tagline could be "You can (calorie) count on us" or something to that effect.

But the strength in numbers one is legit!

Foods One Type or One Food Only Nov 09 2009
21:23 (UTC)
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Shrimp, Forrest. A'cause I'm led to believe there are many possibilities.

Nah, I'd go for the salad. Or cottage cheese-based spin-offs.

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