Posts by abbi333

Original Post by dark_angel_866:

Well I've gained to a bmi of around 18 (or a little over, between that and 18.3 I think).

I don't think I'm not eating enough, I mean I don't count calories anymore but I eat wayyy more than most of my friends, haha.

It probably is the period thing, because I've been waiting for like 2 years -.- But yeah I'll try adding in more protein, to see if that helps!

Not to sound harsh but what do you want from this post then if you are not willing to take advice and help yourself? Just to point out how ed this is when I stated you have a bmi of 18 you respond that is 18.3. Do you think that really makes a difference? You are unhealthy underweight,lack a period,undereat. Even if you add protein it is not enough because the protein and fats can't do the job intended because you are not fueling with enough calories. You need to increase your calories and gain weight. I encourage you to get into treatment. Do you realise the serious health complications that can arise from this?

One you are still considered anorexic by weight. 18.5 is under. Two for your brain and body to heal fully you need to keep gaining. You can look for excuses to not follow the meal plan or get to a healthy weight but that is going to keep you trapped in the eating disorder. You have to continue to push yourself.

Are you in therapy because though I am not taking away from your progress it seems like you need a lot of support? Are you working on the why behind your ed?

You are underweight and undereating. Regardless if you feel you are eating too many nuts you are malnourished. At 17 you need to eat 3000 and gain weight

I was at Renfrew Philli 2 times. Discharge is more about when your insurance stops paying or you do if self pay then your weight. This is in all of the places unless a medical unit where they just try to get you stable and you are discharged. If your insurance pays they will want you to stay till you are weight restored or even after at residential ed placed. If your insurance stops then you will be discharged.

I have mixed feelings on Renfrew and overall I feel it is less the program and more about you. After Renfrew years later I went to a horrible program but benefited more because I was in a place that wanted recovery. I feel Renfrew though has gotten to big where a person does not get enough individual care. I had a friend who went to Princeton but that is more of a medical unit that has an ed track. Do you live in NJ/PA? I think Princeton in general is a shorter program

I encourage you and your parents to call the programs and really get answers about things that may impact you such as do you deal with trauma,abuse,anxiety/depression. Some programs are more geared to that then others. What about step down treatments? Renfrew has day and iop for ex. How many people,how often is therapy,what about medical etc.

Can you go to therapy together? You stated before this there has been problems? Does he support you in other ways? Do you think he feels threatened by you making changes to yourself? Some significant others do cause they fear being rejected or unknown. Have you stated to him in a clear manner what you need from him? Sometimes it needs to be clear cut.

Good luck in your health changes and relationship

Original Post by lisaxfaith:

Original Post by autopilotfrank193:

Probably around 2,000 calories a day...

I thought 2,000 calories is for "active" adults. I usually don't exercise. Also, I think I need a bit less calories than someone that is at an average height. I'm technically petite.

If I were to be honest with myself, I think I maintain on 1600-1800 calories.

No 2000 is not for active. 1600 or even 1800 some lose weight on. Do you want to stop the cycle of binging and restricting? If so then you need to fuel your body properly. Otherwise the cycle will not stop. You can't control your body even by 5 pounds or you will be unhealthy. You have to look at your goals but so much is about acceptance of where and what your body needs to be at and for a healthy life

You keep posting similar questions when I look back but you have not stated how old are you? What is your weight and height? On an everyday basis how many calories do you eat and what is your activity level? If these are not in a healthy place it will lead to binging. If you have had past ed issues this also leads to binging. If you binge and restrict the next day you keep the cycle going so why after a binge you must eat a normal meal plan. If you feel you binge for mental struggles then are you or can you see a therapist? This way you can work on the why behind what is going on and healthy skills.

Original Post by Believe_x:

thank you all for replying. i feel less worried now knowing that other people have gone through it and have got a positive outcome.

gingerkisses- i'm sorry you had a horrible experience. that doesn't sound nice at all. theres an IP unit near me called oak trees which looks quiet nice. yes i would like to recover at home, however i'm finding it very hard on my own. my dietitian tells me to introduce new foods and to eat more, and i agree to it when i'm there, but once i get home i don't have the courage to actually do it. i just carry on as normal eating the same food. so i think that maybe 24 hour care might be best for me.

abbi333- i'm not sure what type i would be in. oak trees is an IP unit that does hospital based treatment. i haven't been given much information on it yet. no, i'm in england. thank you for telling me that, its nice to know you made friends and got a good starting point in your recovery. i feel less nervous about the thought of going into hospital now. thank you all once again. x

 

 

 

I remember my first inpatient I was so scared,cried,and conflicted. So many mixed feelings but like I said it turned out to be supportive and though I had to go to other ones after that was because of me not the program. Looking back I so wish I would of taken advantage of the tools I learned there right away and the support. I did finally recover but it took many years of in and out of centers and then finally op.

I hope you decide asap to recover what ever path you take.Everyday you wait you risk your health and you never know where 1 day can cause problems that can't be reversed.  Keep us updated

Are you 14? I agree teens needs are much higher and some bodies in general need higher. Be proud of fueling and teaching your body to have a fast metabolism

Also being that you are a young teen in general even if you did not have an ed this is the period of change. Look around at friends and everyone is going through it and it can be a confusing time. So try to let your body grow and adjust. At 14 you could still be growing in height too.

I really hope you can focus on fun. You know I developed my ed at 16 but those early teen years were so fun and carefree going to the mall and eating junk food without a worry etc. It is social aspects too you miss out on when worring with an ed. I don't want anyone to miss out on fun like I did. Keep focusing on the goals and positives like healing etc.

By the way you are very mature and well spoken through your writing. Stay strong

I am so confused by the post but if you are 5 3 and 97 pounds you need to gain weight. So that means eating at least 2500-3000 maybe more with no activity. You may feel at firt like you want to burst but as your body heals and metabolism speeds up you should get hungry on that amount and it is common you may need even 4000. Regardless you have to push past the full feeling and a dietician who tells you to eat 1700-2000 is clueless. If you see one I suggest one who deals with ed. You cant intuitive eat until you get to a better place mind and body. I suggest you follow some kind of meal plan and stay in the day of what you need to do. You are justified to eat because food and health is your tool for a better life. Also at this weight you are at risk for major health complications. The goal needs to be to gain to get healthy