Posts by adc88

I don't know how much I lost before I noticed, but I had a class ring that really only fit on my ring finger, and now it's too big even for my thumbs.

Original Post by deedee1:

hey kiddo, i agree with lynnhaslost.....and i  think your mother is trying to sabotage you. my husband will buy dougnuts and set them on the counter top. he buys cookies...candy bars. i just don't touch them...cause i'm the one responsible for what goes in my mouth. no one else. YOU HAVE TO DO THIS FOR YOU..! yes...it's nice to get a pat on the back...nice for your friends to go..wow, look how much you've lost! you look great! but you have to do it for you, for your health, your appearance....to feel better about yourself and who you are. losing that much weight is substantial, no easy task. see what you are capable of? even though you've got people around you who aren't really supporting your efforts? they get jealous...but that's not your problem. try buying your own food. get a job.....that will help you lose weight too. be out and about. see your friends now...not later. life is too short. your responsible and capable. take the bull by the horns and make this work. change up your routine, vary your calorie intake, and eat healthy. keep the sugar out of the picture all together..drink water...always...everyday....keep hydrated. your body may be fighting the change, but it will pick up again. just keep at it. read up on the net about plateauing and the different things you can do to break it. only weigh once a day..first thing in the morning. the real kicker will be when your mother and anyone else who is not supporting you sees you get to your goal weight, despite their best efforts to thwart you, and you MAINTAIN it..and never get heavy again!!! i love my friends and family...but i'm sorry....my weight loss is for me....!

 Thank you SO much. You're right...I thought I was okay because I was doing this for my health, but also so my friends could see a difference and a certain someone would notice me more. But now I know I have to JUST do it for me.

Original Post by gi-jane:

I'm not familiar with 'southern cooking' unfortunately but would it be quite heavy and 'rustic'?  Doesn't she buy fruit and vegetables?   Could she grill meat rather than fry it, for example?

And you say she knows what you're doing but have you sat down and talked it through properly or has she just noticed that you've lost a few lbs but everyone keeps quiet?

Have you tried to generate some income of your own so that you can supplement your diet with healthy foods?  A weekend or evening job, perhaps?  Then you wouldn't be so reliant on mum.

 Southern cooking is basically anything that'll clog your arteries, haha. She doesn't buy fruit unless I specifically ask for it, and she only really buys canned vegetables. And yes, she COULD grill meat, she just chooses not to..she says just because I changed my eating habits doesn't mean everyone else has to.

I am trying to get a job, it's just been hard because I don't have a vehicle..plus, gas prices are SO high right now and mom doesn't like me driving when I don't absolutely have to. See, I don't think she should complain about spending extra on some of my food when they won't let me get out to look for a job or fix the car they've been saying they'll fix. UGH

Like I said, I've been losing weight since last year, so my mom knows what I'm doing. It might just be me, but I almost feel like she wants me to stay fat. She knows that I don't eat anything she cooks because..well, it's "southern cooking", you get my point. If I go grocery shopping with her and actually put food in the buggy that I can eat, she'll get it. But when I'm not able to go with her, like this past weekend, she doesn't bother getting anything healthy for me. So this week, the only things I have are skim milk, a couple of slices of whole wheat bread, egg whites, oatmeal, and cereal. So I guess I'm set for breakfast..? Anyway, I haven't been eating badly for the most part, but if I have enough calories left over, I'll have desert, which I wouldn't have had before.

I got The Biggest Loser workout in the mail a week ago, and that's what I've been doing for a workout. Before that, I was walking/jogging a few times a week. So I have been doing something different. The workout DVD has 4 different workouts, so I'll be able to switch it up when I need to.

I eat at different times during the day..usually at 8AM (breakfast), 10-11 AM (snack), 12-1 PM (lunch), 3 PM (snack), and then I eat dinner around 5-7 PM. If I have leftover calories, I'll eat something else between 7 and 11. I drink about 4 to 5 bottles of water a day..idk if that's enough though.

I have been trying to eat better since last October, and my family cannot eat healthy, I swear. I see junk food as a drug, like I'm a recovering addict or something. So anyway, my mom went to the grocery store yesterday before coming home from work, and I came in to help her put them up. Wanna know what she bought? Oreo cakesters, 2 bags of Cheetos, Ritz crackers, Chips, and all of the stuff to make her delicious cheesy chicken & rice casserole. No, we were not having a party. Oh, and I forgot. She also got a HUGE box of chocolate covered donuts. It drives me crazy that she can't seem to understand, or even care, that doing that is hurting my progress. I see it as bringing home alcohol when there's someone in the house trying to stay sober.