Posts by ahwatukeeangel

Aw, mutt  

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What an awful situation. So glad you found out before you moved in together though! Been there, done that. No bueno.

Privacy is important, but so is honesty and trustworthiness. I agree with what arusden96 mentioned......if you have nothing to hide, you hide nothing.

I love #13!

I was actually born on Friday the 13th too.

*grins evilly*

Personally, I've gone through counseling/therapy and believe it's a wonderful tool. Imo, more people should use it! Some of the stuff you're going through/thinking might be related to your age, but some might need to be discussed with a counselor. I was very sensitive and turned inward as a teen (some due to teenage angst, some due to abuse, etc.), but as I've gotten older I've noticed I'm not nearly as sensitive as I used to be and my coping skills are much better.

Mental health is important so even though your mom might feel bad, if you need help, you need help, you know? 2nd option: Are there counselors at school that you would feel comfortable talking to?

I hope you will have a good outcome and will get the help you're looking for. All the best!   

Some interesting tidbits:

When unmarried couples who have been living together part company, women are substantially worse off economically than men, according to a study in the Journal of Marriage and Family.

Men's household income drops by 10%, while women lose 33%. The percentage of women living in poverty increases from 20% to 30%, while men's poverty level remains relatively unchanged at about 20%.

http://articles.moneycentral.msn.com/CollegeA ndFamily/LoveAndMoney/WhoLosesMostInaBreakup. aspx

What's a mom worth?

According to one report, $138,095 a year.

That's the figure in a study put out by Salary.com, which calculates the wages that would have been paid a stay-at-home mom in 2007 if she were compensated for all the elements of her "job." That total was up 3% from 2006's salary of $134,121.

http://articles.moneycentral.msn.com/CollegeA ndFamily/RaiseKids/ThePriceOfAMom.aspx

From time.com...Equal Pay and the Gender Gap: Men Still Outearn Women:

U.S. women earn only 77 cents on the male dollar in 2008, according to the latest census statistics. (That number drops to 68% for African-American women and 58% for Latinas.)

Women earned less than men in all 20 industries and 25 occupation groups surveyed by the Census Bureau in 2007 — even in fields in which their numbers are overwhelming. Female secretaries, for instance, earn just 83.4% as much as male ones. And those who pick male-dominated fields earn less than men too: female truck drivers, for instance, earn just 76.5% of the weekly pay of their male counterparts. Perhaps the most compelling — and potentially damning — data of all to suggest that gender has an influence comes from a 2008 study in which University of Chicago sociologist Kristen Schilt and NYU economist Matthew Wiswall examined the wage trajectories of people who underwent a sex change. Their results: even when controlling for factors like education, men who transitioned to women earned, on average, 32% less after the surgery. Women who became men, on the other hand, earned 1.5% more.


 

Actually, hatamoto, scientists say that MEN are the ones who have the MOST TO GAIN from modern marriage. Evidently, men benefit more from marriage in income, physical health, and mental health as well...

-Men who were alive at 48 years old had a 90 percent chance of reaching age 65 if they were married, but only a 60 to 70 percent chance if they were single...that’s a 250 percent higher mortality rate.

-Married men are half as likely to commit suicide as single men, and one third as likely as divorced men. Widowed men under 45 are nine times more likely to commit suicide as married men (Smith, Mercy, and Conn, 1988).

-Men are now financially benefiting from marriage more than women. According to the Pew Research Center report women have surpassed men in both education and earnings over the last 40 years.

"From an economic perspective, these trends have contributed to a gender role reversal in the gains from marriage," says Richard Fry and D'Vera Cohn. "In the past, when relatively few wives worked, marriage enhanced the economic status of women more than that of men. In recent decades, however, the economic gains associated with marriage have been greater for men."

http://pewsocialtrends.org/assets/pdf/new-eco nomics-of-marriage.pdf

http://www.psychpage.com/family/library/brwai tgalligher.html

I'm no expert, but I've heard a prenatal vitamin can help with hair and nails. I've been taking one for the past couple of months. Good luck!

Sorry you're hurting right now, specca  I've been where you are and feel your pain.

Lots of great advice here...I wholeheartedly agree with some points...

1. Being available ALL the time isn't conducive to a healthy relationship. In fact, from what I (and I bet many others) have experienced is the more I involve myself in activities and focus on doing things I enjoy, the less I obsess over the "little" things. Not being available all the time is actually very appealing to your S.O....it gives them a chance to miss you and want to be with you.

2. Like others have said, those burning passionate feelings aren't constant in most relationships. Relationships have a natural ebb and flow. Sexual attraction is easy...it's intimacy and commitment that are the most important, imo. 

Whether or not you get back together, you need to focus on YOU and what YOU want from life.  

Love the Gypsy lyrics  

*sneaks thru Chat, spies the ficus in the corner and throws its shedding leaves everywhere, narrowly avoids getting chomped by the hippo,*

heehee!

Give me the filet, yum! (anybody hear of the bacon chocolate combo? o.O )

With cottage cheese: sliced fresh strawberries or fresh pineapple or canned pineapple or canned peaches?