Posts by amethystgirl

Original Post by kathygator:
so it's moot,

a : open to question : debatable
b : subjected to discussion : disputed

I learned this yesterday, so had to share.

Blame the zombie ghosts, but credit the mods for being so quick to delete spam that you don't even see it.

Original Post by nomoreexcuses:

Cakey, I personally think that whether breasts are essential or not is a matter of opinion and I can understand if someone thinks breasts are essential.

Isn't that why insurance covers reconstruction? And why we all think it should be covered?

This is interesting... no, I don't think that's why it is covered. I think it's covered because insurance could easily make the argument that reconstruction is not at all medically necessary, and therefore doesn't qualify for coverage.

We all* think it should be covered because we don't like the idea of women who have had to deal with the trauma of breast cancer and mastectomy to be forced to wear their operation on their sleeve for all to see if they can't afford reconstruction. We don't think it is right or fair.

*We all = people who think it should be covered. I don't know who thinks it shouldn't be covered, except maybe insurance companies, and I wouldn't want to speak for them.

Original Post by rain_bows:

Original Post by kathygator:

Ok. Starting from there, then, how about the question I asked you earlier?

What if she had written a piece about having experienced rape, or a battle with depression? Would you condemn her treatment choice, or condemn her for coming out about it?

I wasn't condemning her, I said on more than one occasion that she made the choice which she needed to make, just that is was not the road I would head down.

I really can't understand why me saying that has been viewed as me condemning the operations.

I can't answer your question above because I wouldn't read anything on those subjects, but in general I wouldn't agree with selling a story which would touch so many other people.

I don't like celebs ... any!

As has been mentioned before, an Op-Ed in the New York Times really shouldn't be considered as "selling a story". I highly doubt she was monetarily compensated, and if she was, it was a pittance. ETA: NYT's instructions on submitting an article for Op-Ed section make no reference to payment. Further googling suggests that some are paid $150, but at least in one place it suggests that politicians or political figures are not paid.

For future reference, this was where I saw you condemn her for writing the OpEd:

Original Post by rain_bows: I just don't see it that way at all.

I see it as her using her public stardom to gain an outpouring of approval and empathy from people to help her come to terms with the decision she has made.

I see it as trampling all over the feelings and tough choice many many women have had to make way before now, and at a much younger age, that suddenly because a STAR has made the same choice it somehow vindicates them, and that which they were perhaps made to feel not normal about should suddenly be OK because Angelina has done it.

It's kind of Patronizing!

You exercise 3x/day? Was that supposed to be 3x/week?

Original Post by mercurystar:

Original Post by amethystgirl:

Original Post by mercurystar:

That's just plain odd then, because I was neither searching, nor using the mobile app. I just browsed over to the forum using a plain ol' PC and there it was, sitting on the first page.

*shrug* The mysteries of life...*spooky music*

because it got bumped

How/by who? Because according to the date stamps, it got bumped by me. o_O

Probably by the spammer that was already modded - once bumped, the thread stays up, even if it no longer has a recent post.

Original Post by mercurystar:

That's just plain odd then, because I was neither searching, nor using the mobile app. I just browsed over to the forum using a plain ol' PC and there it was, sitting on the first page.

*shrug* The mysteries of life...*spooky music*

because it got bumped

It's the search function. It doesn't automatically give the most recent threads first, and I think the algorithm for determining relevance is lacking.

I can't imagine the time it would take to purge threads, since some are worth keeping and some aren't - it wouldn't be something you could do automatically. And what might be worthless to most might be worthwhile to some, so at most you'd only want to lock, not delete, threads.

I'd say just fixing the search would reduce the old threads from resurfacing. Spammers will still bump threads, however - if the last post on a thread is still really old, it means the mods already got to the spammer.

Original Post by chickey_soup:

Original Post by amethystgirl:

Original Post by theviewfromhere:

four years ago, before i got my (preventive) hysterectomy, i got a lot of support from the community here. nobody referred to what i was doing as "mutilation" (and believe me, that's an apt description of a 6" incision with 25 staples) and nobody suggested that it was motivated by anything other than the pursuit of health. when i ended up in hospital for six days instead of three, and couldn't get to the site to update all of you, people were concerned (yeah, tom, i remember that. thank you).

if i were a new member considering a preventive mastectomy right now, i doubt i'd be looking for support here. i'd probably be feeling pretty **** about the whole thing. i might even consider risking cancer rather than risking the kind of harsh judgments that have been expressed here.

sorry, but i don't think it's okay to denigrate somebody for making a difficult health decision.

And in fact, that I think (besides getting ahead of the celebrity gossip whirlwind) was Angelina's point in writing her OpEd - to make people understand the reasons that go into making such a difficult decision.

I'm baffled that someone would in one breath blame Angelina for trampling on the feeling of women who have already made the same choice as Angelina, and then in the second breath refer to it as mutilation.

i kept trying to type something along those lines several times but couldn't get it to come out right.

It took me a few tries too.

Guacamole is indeed delicious. I wouldn't worry too much.