Posts by bonjourlaure

I'm not so sure about the specifics, but definitely don't eat junk food to gain the weight. Of course treats are okay occasionally, but you should focus on eating balanced, healthy meals. They should contain foods with high calories as well (as long as they're healthy), and you should be consuming more calories than you expend each day. But you probably already knew that ;]. I believe protein is good for gaining weight, and I think weight lifting is more efficient than cardio or any other exercises that burn a lot of calories when you're trying to gain weight, although someone more informed should verify that. If you haven't already, I think it would be really helpful to use some of the tools on this website or other websites to find out how many calories you should have a day. Because you're active and trying to gain weight, the number might be higher than you'd guess. It could also really help you to log your food intake and exercises every day to make sure you're consuming more than you're expending. Sorry I couldn't give more specifics! There are a lot of other people on CC who will know more than I do. But add me as a friend if you'd like and message me anytime =].

I ADORE Danny!

Oh boy, I love my nerds ;*

Oh my gosh way to go! That's SO awesome! Happy birthday =D Remember this feeling! =]

Original Post by r4eboxer:

Original Post by direwolf689:

I love making lists. lists of anything, if there's not much to list, I write my list in alphabetical order, how many letters are in each word, largest to smallest, order of how the things could be found (for grocery lists), importance or frequency.

AH! Lists! Nyeeaaahh!!!

ahem, anywho, yeah, I like to make lists, though I think it could be tied in with my severe OCD or 'anal perfectionism'

I do this with grocery lists too, saves much time to order the list the way I walk through it. I usually make a to do list every morning, cross off what I get done and add what I don't to the next day and prioritize accordingly.

I do this, too! I have a notepad filled with to-do lists for every single day that's passed O_o

Original Post by kizzichan:

I knew it wasn't December 25, it was probably the spring judging from the fact that shepherds were out in the field when Jesus was born according to the Bible.  But whatever.  I agree that it is a paid advertisement and freedom of speech is permitted, but it's still stupid.  It can be legal and perfectly fine to have it, but it's still stupid.  Without a system of beliefs of some sort (generally God because a belief in something defines moral standards) there is no good and bad.  The good and bad are each defined individually to each person.  The general rule for good and bad that I have established among my athiest/agnostic friends is that if it isn't hurting anyone it's fine.  I don't think that's necessarily true, though.  That IS personal belief, but in my opinion you can't tell people to be good when they don't even believe in good and evil.  I know my best friend doesn't.  She just goes by the rule that if no one gets hurt, it's fine.  I still believe she is a genuinely good person, but I also think she is lucky she is, considering she has to define right and wrong every day - it's not set out for her to believe in.  Now, I don't think that most atheists and agnostics are bad people, I'm just saying that I personally think it would be a lot easier to do bad if you didn't have a reason not to (other than the law).

That being said, the ad is still pretty useless.  I'm not sure what they were trying to achieve.  I hesitate to say that they were trying to better society with it, considering I figure they probably knew what Christians would think of it... seems more like it's aimed at irritating them.  If I believed it was from the standpoint to be directed at athiests and agnostics and let them know that despite their beliefs they can feel not left out at Christmas, I'd be alright, but the first part just gets me.  "Why believe in a god."  It's as though they're aiming it at those of us who do believe in a god, saying that it doesn't matter as long as we're all good people.  What they are missing is that Christians don't believe in God just because doing so makes us be good people (it definitely doesn't), we simply believe in him because he is our path to salvation and he created us.  That is the reason we believe in God, so to ask such a question is pretty inflammatory.  I'm surprised that none of you have looked at it from a Christian perspective.  I can see it through yours, and I agree that it looks good on the premise that it was aimed at including atheists/agnostics during a religious holiday season.  However, I doubt it was, and therein lies my problem.

(Please despute, not attack.)

I'm not going to attack you =] I'd just like to refute your statement that "it would be a lot easier to do bad if you didn't have a reason not to (other than the law)." I DO have a nonreligious reason, other than the one about law that you've mentioned, for doing good in the world. I want to be happy just as much as any Christian. I want to see things work out for the best for everyone. I want there to be truth and justice and happiness in as many peoples' lives as possible without infringing on those aspects of other peoples' lives. I just want the world to be a better, safer place for everyone. That is all =].

Original Post by fidget84:

yeah i vented in an utterly inappropriate forum, and manner.

to state categorically : i wish i could unburden every single sufferer of all eating related disorders. i am not angry at any one of any of you. i am angry of the disorder. and i sometimes am stricken with grief almost that we torment ourselves endlessly. i am exhuasted from fighting it for myself, and for my many friends. i really am so so tired. and burnt out.

my sincerest apologies for the pain caused

Thanks fidget =] It's easy to see that you're a very compassionate and caring person, and I'm really sorry you're feeling so down =/ I, like the above posters, hope things improve and I'm here for you if you ever need to talk.

When someone is severely underweight, especially because of an eating disorder, they need to gain weight as quickly as possible. As has been mentioned, trying to structure their diet in any way will be reminiscent of the extreme type of control involved in their anorexia. While I agree with this stance, I think that if an anorexic in recovery eats only food that isn't healthy for them, they may come to hate themselves for all of the fat they've consumed and fall right back into the ED trap. This has happened to me several times in the past, so I've come to the conclusion that it's best to begin introducing a more health-conscious diet after an initial period of weight gain. This will also discourage developing a habit of bingeing, which seems to be common in people who have recovered from an eating disorder and which could also lead to a relapse. Others will disagree with me, but this is my belief based on personal experience. For now, though, support your friend and do everything you can to help her recover. Also, one other thing that always seems to cause my relapses is when I receive comments like "Did you gain weight? You look good!" or "You're looking so much healthier now." For some reason, this always makes me panic. My advice is not to tell her she looks starving as encouragement, but to make sure she's comfortable talking about her ED before you ever say anything. Good luck =]

Patty Hearst O_o Not at the kidnapped phase, but at the bank-robbing phase. With a little black trench coat and a coal-colored beret ;]

Original Post by betzc:

Oh my gosh marenzi if all the 17 year olds were like you and my daughter, I would be so excited about the future!  Congrats on your intelligence, beauty and courage. (And your weight loss) Best of Luck, your future is bright! 

No relation to post, but betzc you're always so compassionate! <3 If everyone were like you, I would be so excited about the present ;]

Original Post by jdroller:

Cute cat. Cuter girl.

Awww how sweet =]