Posts by clharr

Raising your intake is necessary, not just to get your weight loss restarted, but to prevent some pretty severe problems from starving yourself.  700-800 calories is an anorexic intake and can actually impair brain function.  1200 may well be too little for you too, but it is less dangerous.

Raising your calories after eating too little does not result in an immediate restart of weight loss.  In fact if you have been starving yourself for a long time, it could result in temporary weight gain.  You need to give your body to repair itself.  Eating 700 calories has actually damaged your muscles and internal organs.  I would recommend that you incrse calories even further and then give it another week or two.

You are not healthy.  You do not look healthy.  You look emaciated, so don't worry about being the fattest girl there.  Even if the people were 15.8 when admitted, most will have been there a while and have gained. 

Your heart rate is so low because your heart is getting weak from the lack of food.  You could die if you keep this up.  The fact that you are lying to your treatment team means that you will probably do the same in OR.  You need to go IP so that you get out of the anorexic mindset and really start to recover.

Are there specific issues you are worried about, or are you worried about things in general?  If there are problems between you and your spouse to be, or he has traits that you think could cause problems in a future relationship, that could be a bad sign, because you might be right.  If you are just afraid things won't work for no specific reason, then I would think it is less serious.

Most people have jitters.  Weddings have become such huge stress-fests that I am surprised that so many relationships survive them.  There is the worry that it won't work.  Well, there are no guarantees.  There will be problems.  You will wish you had run while you could sometimes.  But there will also be good times.  A life built together. 

You are rolling the dice here.  You might win, you might lose.  But it should be an interesting trip.

It really seems low to me.  Can you talk to a dietitian about this?  I am afraid that I am not really qualified to say what you need.  How long have you been eating 1200?  My concern is that your weight loss will stall after a few months of this.

You not only can, you have to.  After all, you do know that 100 pounds is too little for you to weigh.  You are strong enough to do this.  Don't give up.

Wait, did anyone check if these people's biceps were big because they worked out, or because they were heavy?  Because if all these conservative guys are ripped, I might have to check out the next Tea Party gathering in my area.

EDIT: I just read the article, they are rich and ripped...  Hmmm....

First piece of advice, LadyDog is often rather harsh, don't let her get to you.

Second piece of advice, don't exercise yet.  Give your body some time to recover before stressing it with exercise.  Let your recovery team lead you on that.

Good job on the Chinese food.

We tell a lot of "little white lies" and avoid topics of discussion in order to get along with people.  We don't tell people they look fat.  We avoid political discussions with people who passionately hold opposing views to our own.  We generally avoid discussions of religion with people we don't agree with.  This is in part to get along and in part because the arguement is pointless.  These are not subjects that will result in people coming to an agreement.  It is a lot harder when dealing with family.

I can understand Fade's discomfort in "going through the motions" of religious worship.  I am not, and never have been religious, but still pretend to pray along with the rest of the family when my in-laws give thanks before a meal.  Why?  I am just being polite and doing what I can to make the meal pleasant.  To me, it doesn't matter and if they want to talk to the cieling, who am I to stop them? 

But, there is no passion in my non-belief.  I didn't struggle to turn my back on years of indoctrination.  For Fade, it is different.  And the real question is what the real motives are.  Is it an act of rebellion?  Is she really uncomfortable going through the motions?  What is really important?

If she wants to come closer to her parents, she has to know this will probably backfire.  At best it will drive a wedge between them, and at worst they will reject her completely.  Is that the goal?  In the unlikely event that they will accept her non-belief, what does that really accomplish?  Does she want their validation?

Kids have to learn to filter what they say.  You know she didn't say what she did to hurt you, it was just what she was thinking.  So yes, I think your response was the best.  She is too young to understand all the issues behind weight management, but she can understand hurt feelings.

I wonder if you are eating enough.  Too strict a diet could lead to this.