Posts by daughtry_jovi_girl

Good luck to everyone!

I want this thread to be a very positive enviroment...no drama! But if you are having a bad day or a tough time resisting the chocolate doughnuts post it! We are all here to help each other!

I'll post my stats-

cw- 173

gw- 135

ht-5'7

age-19

I want to lose the weight by my 20th birthday which is January 30th...I want to start my "adult" life off healthy, confident and ready to take on the world!

favorite: my boobs *they are big and I love them and they look right on my body!* my butt *I love being curvy!* the curves of my hips and how I have a small waist, my eyes *because they are beautiful brown and expressive and as a very good friend told me, mesmorizing and could make men fall in love with me* my face because I have been told that I am very pretty and that I should be a model and I am just now starting to believe it.

My least favorite: my stomach, it has a pooch and I hate it, but I am working on it, and it is a lot smaller than it used to be, my knee's...I swear they are the only part of my body where I haven't lost weight! I HAVE FAT KNEE'S!!! haha!

because I was tired of being overweight, out of shape and having no confidence! After losing 50 lbs and being in the best shape of my life I am meeting people that I never thought I would meet, and doing things I never thought I would do. I have become friends with people I never thought I could be friends with...I am friends with an amazing band...I saw them live a month ago and I got to hang out with them and go out to breakfast with them and just had the time of my life! It was the best night of my life, and I would have NEVER had to confidence to meet them 50 lbs ago! The bass player told me that I had the most amazing confidence he had ever seen and it was awesome since I am so young and most girls my age are so self conscious and worried about what everyone else thinks. When I told him that a year ago I would never had had the confidence to meet him or that if I had accidentally made eye contact with him I would have immediately looked away he told me that I was kickin his ass in eye contact and that he was glad that I lost the 50 lbs because that means that he got to meet me! Awww so sweet!Not once when I was with them did I worry about what they thought of my body (hello I am lookin FINE why should I?) Haha! I love having this confidence!

Original Post by gypsierose:

daughtry , wow, and he's still a friend? I'd have to keep him! my hub just say keep working on it. When I was down to a size 10 he said keep working it and I was in my 40's then. Just because I was 97 lbs when we got married doesn't mean I'll be that forever and two kids later. I dont' say anything about his bald head or not going to the dentist. But I'm the ugly one, Mmmm , interesting.  I have great hair and not a wrinkle and my own perfect teeth and my 30 yr old sons have been mistaken for bf and hubs. I'll drop this 40lbs and then they can ask if he's my father. I'm in a bad mood today. I don't expect to be 120lbs any more just healthy, and fit whatever size that ends up.

 Sadly yea he is still just a friend....I know that we both like each other there are just a few strange circumstances that prevent us from being together...he isn't married or anything like that...he is a little older than me...like slightly older than what is considered socally acceptable, and well I don't get to see him much because of his job...but I might get to see him this weekend when we will both be in TX!!!!!

1. Lose the last 30 lbs....

2. Exercise daily for me not for weight loss

3. Have a body that I can be proud of...i.e strong but still curvy...

4. Stop focusing on how I look but focusing on if I am proud of the person that I am becoming

5. Help others with nutrition and weight loss in my desired career (nutritionist)

6. keep up my postive thoughts about my curves.

I seem to be in the minority for my age... I am 19 and I have curves and I love them...every other girl my age that I meet doesn't like them...they don't like their hips or their butt or something...I love mine...I love how I have round hips and a butt and how I have boobs....what is up with young girls hating their curves?

Original Post by decarswell:

Greenmonkey - Haha. I pluck, but only because I really enjoy having 2 distinct eyebrows instead of a unibrow. :D

I've got a few things that do it for me.

A prominent nose. I like it. I'm not even sure why, maybe I feel like the girl is more approachable or something. I believe this goes along with the whole I like a girl who is a bit flawed. Not completely perfect, like an odd mole or dimple or something.

Shoulders. Going to a formal and seeing all the dresses that show smooth skinned shoulders is just amazing for me. I love girls shoulders so much. It really attracts me to a girl.

Being beaten by a cute girl. It makes me appreciate them more and I get turned on by feeling like their my equal or better. It makes me want to try harder. It makes me envious of them a bit and want them. It makes them worth having.

Their taste in music. When a cute girl listens to music I like she becomes instantly gorgeous and makes me long to talk to her and be with her. I've heard its cheesy and predictable to ask what someones favourite type of music is but I do it because if they like the same bands as I do they have attained instant hotness and respect. I put a hell of a lot of stock into music.

Ankles. I find a nice, slightly bony ankle really sexy. It's so lovely and rounded and just wicked.

 WOOOHOOO For guys who like being beaten by girls! I love beating guys! Sooo fun! Most of the time it is just all in good fun, like if I am playing football with a bunch of guys...we all get something out of it..I get to play footabll (yay!! )and I also get to tackle all the hotties (double yay!) and the guys get to attempt to tackle me...but I am a fast little sh@#! The guys also get to see me in shorts and well...I have nice legs...but sometimes if a guy is getting cocky I just gotta put him in his place...totally kick his ass in whatever we are doing...let him know that he is not "the man"

I love a strong guy...not like lives in the gym doing bicep curls in front of the mirror strong, but a guy who is nicely built...again going back to football (I am a football fanatic!!) I love it when we are playing and a guy picks me up and throws me over his shoulder!

I love a little bit of body hair...not too much...but some....Chest hair...SEXY but not like he is wearing a sweater...not cool! And the tummy hair...umm....a treasure trail...Yup love it!

Big...strong...hands....when a guy has strong hands you just feel so safe when he is holding you!!

I wouldn't call it revenge, more like showing my stregnth....ok here is my story...

Growing up my father was very abusive in almost every way...okay everyway....he never touched me sexually that I can remember, but he did make sexual remarks....for 13 years I was subjected to that abuse...Imagine the very worst things a father could say to his daughter...about everything from her personality to her looks and body to her existance in general...I heard it all, every day, several times a day. Eventually that wore me down. I had been called fat so many times, even when I wasn't overweight. In middle school, I really started to believe the **** that he said to me and I becamse what he called me. I got to the point where I was overweight and I pulled away from everyone and pushed everyone away. When I turned 13 my mom filed for divorce and it was the greatest birthday present ever. It has been 6 years now since the divorce was final but I still struggle every day with the things he said. By the time he moved out, I had no self confidence...I have just now gotten to the point where I have confidence...I am just now starting to love myself, and my body...I have become a people person....I told a friend that I just recently met that if I had met him while I was still in high school I wouldn't have looked him in the eyes and if I had by accident made eye contact with him I would have looked away. He just laughed at me and said I was beating the **** out of him in eye contact....he then told me that I had mesmorizing eyes...then he kissed me! EEEE!!!

But I consider my weight loss a show of stregnth rather than revenge, because I want nothing to do with my father, and don't give a flying rats as$ what he thinks of me....but it just shows how strong I really am, that not only can I overcome his abuse, but I can be a better person because of it. Btw...I have lost 50 lbs, have 25 lbs to go, and I am feeling better than I have ever felt before...I have more confidence that I ever knew I could have, and I am meeting people I never thought I would meet....I am finally living my life the wqay I want to! 

Original Post by ainla:

sometimes we want things more than the other person does - just a thought. it seems you are really driven and are making good choices for yourself but maybe she is not there yet. could you have felt disappointed too that she opted out of exercising last night to go party and then bailed today too? 

 

It sounds like you are running and maybe that is too difficult for her. It also sounds like you might resent slowing down to meet her needs? 

It's pretty rough when you need to protect yourself from a friend and their actions but I guess I agree with everyone else: don't make a pretzel out of yourself to accommodate her. I would still try to compromise with her. I also agree that you should reclaim the time when she flakes and make the most of it.

Good luck with everything!

 She is the one who came to me and asked if I would help her. She has already started to make good choices for herself and she likes when we go working out. It doesn't bother me that she went and decided to party...it isn't my lifestyle but it is her choice. What bothers me is that she broke plans, and didn't let me know. There are days that I don't feel like working out....sometimes I push myself to workout, other days I just let my body have a rest....

Like I said several times before, we go at her pace, and I am fine with that. I know what it was like to not be able to run or do whatever kind of physcial activity for very long. If we do run...it is for short bouts, and she is normally the one who suggests it. I do not expect her to be able to do the same things that I am able to do, and in no way do I resent slowing down.  

We made a plan to go walking every night (I said 3 nights a week, she wanted every night) but that it is cool if the other person bails....just as long as we let each other know.

I want to lose another 25 pounds...I want to have a "flat" stomach, but do not want to do anything to lose my curves...I am proud of my curves...I love them! I have the kind of curves that can stop traffic...I want to wear a bikini to somewhere on spring break...even if it is just to a hotel in Des Moines with a few friends.....I don't just want to wear the bikini...I want to look bangin in it...I want the kind of body that would make Gisele jealous (and no I am not talking super skinny...just some really killer curves!). I want to be proud of my body...I want a body that makes guy stop in their tracks...I want to know what it feels like to be wanted...

So I AM going to start on Wednesday...hell I might even go out before work....I really want to be able to run...it is something that I have always wanted to do, and now that I have lost quite a bit of weight, I think that it is something that I can do....I think I might have the confidence to do it!